3 weeks past intercourse no outbreaks

Sexual health
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It'a almost been 3 weeks since I had sex with somone(only once) who has herpes.

She was on an anti-viral, hadn't had an out break in 4 years, and hadn't infected anyone in 6 years.

So far I have NO symptoms or any indication of blisters or lesions!

I read some articles stating that usually if your symptom free 2-3 weeks after your initial contact with that person you should be in the clear.

Two questions:

1. What are your guys thoughts on this?

2. I've seen 4 different doctors and each has told me they don't believe I have it. One reccomended testing at 3 weeks and the other at 8 weeks for final validation. Will the IGM pick up antibodies at 3 weeks to give me some anxiety relief?

I was so paranoid at day 3 that I had a full std panel done with IGM. That ended up with everything being negative.

The articles were from Dr. H.Hunter Handsfields.

 

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What kinda anti viral was she on? I need what she has...

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Honestly, if you were going to get so paranoid, you shouldn't have had sex with her. IgM is useless. Best to test for IgG at 8 weeks, but better at 12 weeks.

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If you wAs this scared you shouldn't of had sex ...

But . I can honestly say I seriously doubt you have it

Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex while I was during an outbreak and he has gotten tested 3 times all came back negative. Seeing how as she hasn't had an outbreak in years you are seriously seriously good .

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Question are u on suppressive meds?

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She didnt state. 

She said she was just taking them 

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yea unfortunately she didnt tell me before had.

Really upsettting.

Thanks for the good vibes and info!

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I do not  take supressive meds. The doctor stated that I only need to take them if I was positive from the blood work.

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yea so I've heard. I ask the 4 doctors I saw this question. Since I pretty much consumed the interwebz within a day after her telling me she had herpes.

Three of them  said that the IGM is still accurate. One told me that If I did'nt have any signs by two weeks not to even worry about getting tested at all. That the test can be false positive since it picks up flue and chicken pox virus.

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If I ever do find out Ill be sure to hit you back up. She wasn't willing to tell me. I think she was in shock that I was in shock. 

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That's incorrect. IgM is not accurate at all, and the IgG test does not pick up flu or chicken pox. Depending on the test, the one for HSV-2 may also pick up HSV-1, but that is all.

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Now that is messed up for her to not to reveal that she has herpes

Same thing happened to me only I wasn't so lucky , I got stuck with the stuff ...

did you guys use condoms ??

I don't think you have anything to worry about she is on suppressive medicine which makes it 3 percent to catch the disease UNprotected

Protected sex is down to one percent ...

So I know your good .

It's a lesson lesrned

Did you ask her about her sexual past ?? If she had any diseases ?

How did she come out and say that she had herpes to you ??!

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No ma'am

But I haven't really had any outbreaks either

I thought I was having one because I Thought I was having an UTI because I was so wet but things cleared up and I'm pretty good .

I wanna take suppressive medicine , especially since I'm getting involved with my boyfriend again and I don't want to chance anything ...

I don't know what to do ..

I don't have any insurance right now soooo the price of the medicine is fricken expensive ..

You should definitely get on it tho , try it out or something ..

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I only had sex with a condom on half the time. 

Without it, it was only a couple mintures in the shower.

She randomly just sat me down the next day and told me she had it. She told me my response was practical. Very strange.

When did you have your first breakout or notice first symptoms after you had sex?

So far most everyone has been saying within the first two weeks? It seems pretty good in my case since im on week 3.

thank you again for the feed back

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I don't even know to be honest I didn't start breaking out that quickly I ended up Nairing myself and things just managed to go down from there ..

But the person who infected me never once let me known they had this otherwise I wouldn't of gotten involved with em like that .. So I know exactly what you are going through lets just be grateful that you got lucky

And I tell you that makes you not want to have sex with anyone else ever again ..

Have you talked to her ever since ??

Did she at least apologize for what she did ??

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Nope she told me to leave her alone once I told her I needed to leave to get tested and asses what just happened.

Then she kinda apologized I guess but not really. Told me I was the one concerned so I should get tested.

Very strange right?

So I have a question. If you were in my shoes, what makes me lucky compared to your situation prior to you contracting it?

Thanks for the feed back

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Just saying i had a risky encounter and didnt get a lesion until 6 weeks later and i hadnt been with anyone except for that encounter 6 weeks prior. HOWEVER im waiting until 12 weeks to get a final diagnosis so unsure if im positive or not yet for HSV2. just wanted to put this out there just so you dont feel comfortable in being intimate with anyone else until 12 weeks bloodwork and you know for sure. Dont be worried! But just be safe and keep others safe from this!

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Most people who get a first outbreak do so within one week, sometimes two.

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I mean .. The difference is she at least told you she had the disease .. It happened after sex which doesn't help any .

But she still told you .

I'm 20 years old before this happened i never ever even had discharge . So much stuff is happening to me and I'm having to figure them out all on my own .

Yes , I made a choice to have sex but this person made a choice to hide the fact that they were HSV type 2 positive .

I basically had to forgive someone who wasn't sorry .. You know ? And i talked to the person they finally told me that they were sorry and that they were both positive for herpes & genital warts (which happened after we had sex) thank god .

Karma is real in this world just as he infected me he got reinfected with another disease ...

My whole life is different now, no matter what anyone says . No one wants to take the risk of getting this stuff so more then likely no one will really want to be in a relationship me besides the person that I'm with now & it's a scary thought .

Just count your blessings man , this is nothing to play with . Next time you have sex make a broad give you her full std panel .

These days .. Are dangerous.

I would've been more happy to get gonorrhea or chalymdia or something that I can get rid of then this life long virus .

Don't even bother to talk to the female no more after this scare .. You can't afford to let your health deteriorate because hoes wanna lie about their health..

Sorry you hAd To go thru this and I'm happy that you are clear !!