Estás en ello, ángel, es cierto xx
Hi Rain, I have just read your posts and replys from the guys on here, You can truly rely on our support here but as the others are all saying you really must go to the doctor and discuus all your issues which are clearly by what you say being exacerbated by your alcohol intake. I so feel for you as at the moment, you really are in a dark place and cant see the wood for the trees. Things could most definitley change for the better if you can address your AUD .As Vickylou and JulieAnne have suggested take your girlfriend for support.. After all she is living this nightmare with you ,Good luck buddy and remember we are all here,
Hola Vickylou. Es difícil saber qué decir, para ayudar. Cuando alguien está desesperado... eso es lo que es. Los que lo hemos sentido, lo sabemos. Mi pozo de desesperación fue muy profundo, una parte de mí puede que nunca lo deje atrás.
Algunas mejoras, por nuestra parte, pueden dar esperanza a los demás... creo.
Sé fuerte, mi amigo.
Ángel 😇
Oh JulieAnne, puedo sentir el dolor en las palabras del joven.
Si solo nuestras palabras pueden fortalecerlo para actuar.
Su primer paso en el camino fue publicar aquí. Espero, con todo mi corazón, que encuentre su camino.
Ángel XX
Yo también, Angel. No entiendo que los médicos receten antidepresivos cuando la persona bebe. El médico de mi marido sabía que bebía, pero aún así le recetó antidepresivos que indicaban "No tomar con alcohol". Me quedé atónita xx
Espero que Rain lleve a su novia con él, necesita a alguien con la cabeza clara xx
Cuídate en el camino a la recuperación, Angel xx
Creo que la esperanza del médico general es que la persona deje de beber alcohol, para que la medicación sea efectiva. Desafortunadamente, cuando una persona está "en las garras" del alcohol... gana todos los combates.
Yo tomé antidepresivos en el pasado... bebí a través de todos ellos. ¡Ninguna lógica, sentido o conocimiento aplicado! No me sentía mal por ello, tampoco.... vida loca de antes.
Quizás llegue a ser "Normal", antes de morir. XX
Hi everyone and thanks for all the messages posted in the last 24 hours I have read them and will reply . Today is not a good day however , I woke extra early as I consumed 2 bottles of wine last night , always kidding myself it's the last time .
So I've woke up on the same fog but feeling extra awful I don't know why I do it to myself , I think it's a way to punish myself , poisoning my body , I hate to be this weak minded person I've become , I wouldn't wish these feeling on anybody , it's like years and years ago when I felt down I had no idea what down really ment . Now I do .
I will try to reply to these lovely posts but right this miniute it's back to bed .
I hope everyone is feeling ok and has a good day .
Awww Rain , I can imagine how terrible you are feeling this morning and just wanting to bury yourself in your bed .Been there done it so so many times but for me I hope its now history.You seriously need to try and get to grips with this and see someone very soon .You are not weak minded , you have AUD and it needs addressing..You don't have to go to rock bottom ( although you probably feel you are there already by what you say ) There are medications that can help with the alcohol cravings , you really must see your GP if you want help to get through this.Take the intake of wine away and the anxiety and depression most likely lift considerable.Many of us on here know what a jittering mess alcohol makes of us. Take a look at Sinclair Method Hints and Tips at the beginning of this forum.Also google 'One littlePill'
There are ways through this believe me ,but you have to want to do it.Think of your daughter and girlfriend too and the new life you could open up for you all .This is too much of a waste x
Hi I hope your well . Thanks for your post . I'm just in a vicious cycle I can't seem to break . On a downward spiral . I checked out the one little pill and will watch the documentary later . For now I'm just watching an old classic flatliners in bed pondering life after death and if it exists . I'm going to try to quit the booze now but it's the old feeling of when I feel slightly better the craving comes back and I'll say just one more . Silly I know .
Hola Rain. Estás en un ciclo vicioso porque tienes TUA, Trastorno por Uso de Alcohol, cariño. Mi esposo y casi todos los demás en este foro han llegado dolorosamente a esta conclusión.
Estás comenzando tu viaje en el camino a la recuperación. Nat tiene razón, tu mente comenzará a aclararse cuando el alcohol se haya ido. Luego podrás comenzar a abordar cualquier problema que tenías antes de empezar a beber. El Método Sinclair ha sido un salvavidas para muchas personas y algunas en este foro. No puedo insistirte lo suficiente para que lo busques en línea. Por favor, sigue viendo a tu médico de cabecera.
Sigue hablando con nosotros
Saludos cordiales
You are very depressed Rain but alcohol is not going to cut it ,as you say it's a downward spiral but you can jump off any time if you choose , hard as it will be to start with.If you could have the rest of this weekend without the wine , things might just start to look a bit clearer by Monday ..we have all been there putting it off and putting it off but I think the light is coming on with you and you need to act on it.You are only 32 and have your whole life ahead of you .Watch One Little Pill later, it will show you there is a way forward 8
Yes I will thank you . I just wish I had some idea of what I want to do with my life . It's always been a problem since leaving school . Seeing people go to uni or something else to purse what they want to do where as I've searched and searched and don't know what I can do that's realistically achievable.
Hola Rain, ¿por qué no miras un tema más amplio como la filosofía? Hay muchas oportunidades en el mercado laboral si tienes un título en esta materia.
Echa un vistazo a hacer primero un curso de acceso a la universidad, eso fue lo que hice yo. La mayoría de los colegios tienen cursos de acceso para estudiantes maduros.
Mi hijo, que tiene 31 años, empezó sin nada hace 6 años, hizo un curso de acceso a la filosofía, se esforzó mucho, sacó un sobresaliente, lo que sorprendió a todos nosotros, y ahora está haciendo un grado de 4 años en derecho. Lo que quiero decir, Rain, es que todo es posible, pero tendrás que hacer algo con tu TDA primero xx.
Hola Rain. ¿Cómo te sientes ahora? No te castigues por el vino... no tiene sentido. Ya está hecho. Pasé Mucho Tiempo haciendo la rutina de "sentirse mal, beber, sentirse bien, sentirse mal, beber, ... repetir". Se repite por el tiempo que lo permitas.
Intenté dejarlo, tantas veces. Intenté moderar, reducir, controlar.... fracaso, fracaso, fracaso..... ¡repetir!
Creo que ahora estás "en una tormenta". Tus emociones están a flor de piel. Tu desilusión es abrumadora. Casi es imposible encontrar una salida, casi.
La calma llega después de la tormenta.
Cuando te sientas calmado y más fuerte, podrás tomar decisiones positivas.
Todo es negativo en la espiral descendente.
Paso a paso, dale la vuelta. Primero, acuéstate de lado, haz un balance, reflexiona... avanza, poco a poco. Entonces, de alguna manera, las cosas pueden encajar. Poco a poco, lentamente, lentamente, positividad pegajosa, sobriedad pegajosa.
Hacia adelante, hacia arriba, tienes un futuro. Eres un hombre joven con una pareja y un hijo, tienes un futuro que moldear, que vivir.
Eres tu propio destino. Tú decides.
Toda la fuerza a tu voluntad.
Alonangel 🦋
Yes JulieAnne I posted somewhere else about mature students and foundation courses. That was a real incentive for me, something to aim for, but I needed to do something about my drinking . Small steps to start with, even a few backwards along the way.
Hi yes I need to be doing something worthwhile and like you said I need to stop with the drinking .
I feel that I'm killing my self and went to the shop again earlier telling myself it's the last time .
Hi I'm feeling at my worst today as I can't stop myself . This has been creeping up on me for some time as I've always thought I had a grip on it . But since January it's been out of control . My New Years resolution was to stop drinking and it's now the middle of February and it's been nearly every day . The worst I've ever been . The first week of January I told myself just have the first week . Then the 2nd and before I knew it here we are coming to the end of February soon .
I hope you are well today and have a good day .
The world just terrifies me now it's like a switch has made me afraid of going out . My girlfriend was at work earlier and texting asking if we were going to take something back to shop as she needs to exchange it . But just the idea of going out that far about 15 min drive scared the hell out of me . I told her no and she asked why ? So I told her but she just dosnt understand . She got a lift home from work as she does not drive .
Half an hour ago I ventured out ten houses down from me there is a shop I even drive there and it's maybe a 100 metre walk . And even that was nevre racking .
I'd had a bath this afternoon . And had joggers on hair a mess . I look a state as I'm stil recovering from last night .
If only I could break free from this prison and escape my own mind.
Sí, lo hiciste, Vicks. Eso me trajo recuerdos. Fue la mejor manera de volver a estudiar. Tenía 37 años, ¡muy por encima de la edad de dejar la escuela! Cambié mi carrera a los 40. Rain podría hacerlo, no soy muy erudito xx
What a great reply you wrote to Rain Angel ..Such kindness and compassion.Bless you x