A Farewell to a Young Girl, of 14 - Very Touching 'Freak' Accident.

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I am hoping I can post this article just to let all my friends know, and the girl was a friend my own daughter, also aged 14. It is always difficult time with funerals, but when they are so young, it really hits us hard. My daughter only spoke to Emily the day before the accident, she was so shocked when she heard what had happened, in less than 24 hours later!

The accident was a freak one, and should never of happened, but I would like to share her funeral and farewell with my friends, on how well she was liked by all her friends.

Links to our local newspaper, and all the coverage from her funeral this morning.

'She was the perfect daughter' - Emily Gardner's parents pay heartreaking tribute

Mum Debbie and dad Clive have paid a tearjerking tribute to their much-missed daughter Emily, from Gloucester.

Read more: http://www.gloucestercitizen.co.uk/perfect-daughter-Emily-Gardner-s-parents-pay/story-26547124-detail/story.html

Emotional farewell at funeral of Emily Gardner at Gloucester Cathedral

Family and friends, including hundreds of fellow pupils from Chosen Hill School in their uniforms, attended the service.

http://www.gloucestercitizen.co.uk/Emotional-farewell-funeral-Emily-Gardner/story-26547728-detail/story.html

The Funeral of Emily Gardner at Gloucester Cathedral in pictures

Final farewells paid to 14 year old Emily in emotional service

http://www.gloucestercitizen.co.uk/pictures/Funeral-Emily-Gardner-Gloucester-Cathedral/pictures-26547698-detail/pictures.html

Regards,

Les.

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To the moderator: I do not mind you removing this message, if it is breaking any rules, I have told many of my friends on here, but not her funeral being today and how big her sad farewell off was.

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How 'bone shakingly' sad...my condolences to the family concerned.

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You all must be feeling very tender and raw emotionally Les. I really feel for you. It was brave of you to share this. (((***Hugsies***)))

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I think it needed to be shared, to be honest - I would like to put together to tribute myself. The problem is copyright infringement especially with music, etc.

It was such a big shock to all of us, and her friends at school - I guess the song "Angel" by Robbie Wiiliams, really said everything about her. Anything like this happening to anyone is shocking, Jess has taken this quite well considering how she was when I had cancer, but she was only 8 back then, and had just lost one grandad, then I had cancer then she lost her other grandad to an heart attack, all in a space of under 10 years!  

My condolences to Deb, Clive and Emily's younger sister and brother - Emily looked so content and happy in the family photograph - A very sad day for all that knew her.

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Do you know about our candle lighting group? I just lit one for her and I'll send you the link. 

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That's something I never knew existed... and thank you! Much appreciated Georgia.

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It's for our little group and also for anyone in patient. I started it and George is really enthusiastic about it.

I know that lighting a candle won't bring her back but it's a way of sending light to people and into the world, and experssing ourselves deeply because our thoughts are powerful stuff.

Er, you haven't seen this side of me have you! 

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Thank you! Georgia much appreciated! smile

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People keep asking me how come she was so well known. You would only understand the answer to this question if you knew the School Academy she attended.

On the day of her farewell, the streets of Gloucester were lined up that much, you would have thought someone from the Royal family had passed away. People that did not even know her even stopped to see her farewell, that is how touching the girl had upon people. Emily will never be forgotten, not even in my lifetime - let alone her parents and sister and brother.

If I said over 1,000 people lined the streets it would probably under estimating the crowd.

I have started to create a special remembrance for her, three words wraps Emily up in just a single quote "Kindness is Contagious" - and that is how people will remember the girl in our hearts.

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Amazing Les! My heart is expanding from reading that and I'm sure everyone's will.

"Kindness is Contagious" Did you coin that phrase?

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Hi Georgia,

No, I found it on 'Google' when looking for rembrances for young children, okay she was a teenager, but to many of us she was and still is a child.

I came across the phrase, and thought it suited the design I am working with and because I require copyright authorization, for the whole lot to work correctly. Which I will place in the credits at the end. The whole presentation is 5 minutes long, and contain numerous quotes from her friends and family.

It hits us hard, because we lost our 14 month old nephew many years ago, I think seeing such small coffins being carried in to places of worship is what gets to me. We lost our nephew, and then his sister started Infants school, only a few years passed and our nieces best friend died of meningitis at the age of 7. I guess some people would get used to it, but we have never got over it at all - then when you see some one close pass away, it brings back all those memories again.

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It's such a perfect phrase to use and what you're doing is admirable. I'm feeling without words at the moment from memories so know that I feel and understand. 

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You must tell George about this. 

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I haven't seen George on in ages... I was wondering where he was. The last time I spoke to him was on Facebook Messenger.

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Er it could be ever so slightly my fault because I introduced him to a poetry site I'm in and he's writing a lot of poems. I'll let him know about this right away.

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Ah, so I can blame Georgia for something, for once! wink

There was actually more to this story than what most people do not know. The press and TV stated that Emily and two of her friends went on that day, the original plan was Emily wanted to take another friend of hers, but her parents had made previous plans. So, you can imagine what the parents and the girl that did not go on that day must have felt when they heard the news, and what had happened.

It's the same with us we always let Jess go out with her friends to Cornwall and Devon, the trouble is you cannot know what is going to happen - you always say goodbye and see you in a few days, or photos uploaded via mobile.

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I'm a parent so I'm with you all. Nothing on earth could prepare me for it or help me to deal with it.

Yeah sorry I sent George into the wonderland of poetry. Sheesh anyone would think I'd sent him down t'pits. I've emailed him about it.

 

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Dear Les,

I address you first but really this is an apology for all of you. I have been neglecting you and others who have come on this forum and to the discussion groups that I was wont to view and to make my contributions. I had become rather emotional delicate as a result of the stresses over the past 12 months and there was a little incident that was the proverbial last straw and tumbled me into the ditch broken back, metaphorcally and all.

It took my friends on this forum and my GP to get me out of the ditch, wiped down from the slime, dried off, dusted down and eventually set on my feet. None of my local friends knew anything about this, the labour was entirely the burden of a few from the forum. 

Once on my feet I was very cautious and hardly dared to contribute and deleted hundres of adviory emails only scaning the brief opening details that were before me. During that time I became active on the poetry site that Georgia had introduced me to. By posting my little poems there I gradually rebuild some confidence and I believe I am at last approaching normality. I hope I will again contribute to the discussions as before. My interest is wider now than formerly as can be seen from my profle - interested in the Depression Group and the Osteoporosis Group as well as my former ones.

That said, I am glad to be back. I now know I have been away. it just did not feel like it at the time. So thank you everybody. Please take this as affirmation of the value of the forum working at its best. thank you very very much for being there for me and all the others too, you included Les. We are only here because we are needy.

Many thanks George

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My niece had to deal with her brother and her friend dying before she reached the age of seven, she had to have counselling for years even in her teens. She eventually got over it, but for a child its very different than an adult. She asked her mother when she had her next baby would she die! It really did mess her up, but dealing with death of her brother at such a young age must of been hell, for her.

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Yes I somwhat agree with that yet I'm no nearer to being able to deal with it at my age.