So I’ve been married for 5 months now, I was a virgin before marriage, he wasn’t. My problem is I’m not experienced at all. Everything goes awesome during sex, we have too much foreplay. We get multiple orgasms before penetration. But when it comes to penetration, I totally panic. Although we had penetrations only 3 times during this whole time (he traveled for 3 months in between) and it didn’t hurt me at all. Still when we get to the penetration part I still panic and my whole body gets so much tense and I start pushing him away once he tries to penetrate me (not an intentional reaction, it’s out of my control). He understands it but we need to fix this. We literally do everything in sex and we enjoy it, literally, but no penetration, not always because I always react like this. I tried to use a kind of medicine that was prescribed for me by a doctor to calm my nerves, and it worked only once, it doesn’t make me any calm anymore so I stopped it based on my doctor’s order. I’m not sure what’s my problem anymore, we really love each other and we enjoy having that intimate time together. And I always feel like I want the penetration to happen, but still I react this way once it starts. Please I need help.
Hi, this might be a better issue for someone in the psychology field but I will try to help you out. So from what you said, you don't feel any pain, it's just a instinct type response. Does not soun as if anything physically is wrong. What I would ask is, have you tried taking control of the situation? As in your on top doing the guiding ECT, is it still too overwhelming even if your running the show? Have you tried working your way up with, say toys ECT? Do you take issue with him being more experienced? I ask because it's the second thing you mention.
Hi, no I don’t, at all. I just mentioned that at first so people would know he is not the issue. I actually believed it’d be better that he is more experienced so things could go easier.
As for the taking control, I haven’t tried any toys but I did try to take control by being on top, several times, worked only once. But now still all goes great until the penetration, even when I try that again.