Me and my wife were together 14 years before we got married. 6 months after she had an abortion saying she couldn’t cope with our 5year old and me). Soon after we separated all she would do was play on her iPad and binge watch Netflix. Now 1 year later (after moving out changing her name and taking money from the house) she has asked to date me. She came close to a male friend at work (swears nothing happened). She has suffered depression and self harm in the past. I asked her to see the doctor but she wouldn’t. She wants to date and even wants to go away together but ignores my calls and messages most days. She is constantly putting her work and friends before me. She has now been to see the doctor and been prescribed Sertraline. I don’t want to be pushy but I don’t see any love for me. She makes no effort to see me or talk to me bet wants to date?? I’m confused. Is it depression ? Should I wait for the Sertraline to start working ? Been about a week. Or should I walk away. We’ve been apart 1 year. Please help
Hi Stuart - sorry to read of your situation. It sounds like the illness talking - one day she wants to date and the next is ignoring you. I would suggest you are a convenience to her whim. Her new meds will not kick in for 3-6 weeks. Why not give her that space and see what happens? Wait for her to contact you. Other than that, perhaps a plan to move on with your life without her if things don't change?