HI guys, I just wanted to hear your opinions on ending a friendship with someone and how to deal with that. I've been with my husband 11 years, married for 3 and his best friend had a girlfriend for the last 6 years. Me and her clicked really well at the start and the four of us would do a lot together. I've had a lot of anxiety issues and this girl was a real support for me but slowly we drifted apart and my husband and his best friend did as well. We both found the girlfriend had become quite rude, arrogant and condescending, she became kind of snooty and we both felt a bit sick of feeling judged and looked down on by her. So we distanced ourselves from them and spent more time with other friends which eventually made my anxiety a lot better. I never felt as though anything had happened I just felt like as we grew up we became different people and maybe we just weren't so similar anymore. The past two years i've had minimal contact with her and my husband and his best friend sadly drifted apart too. That is until they split up six months ago. I tried to make an effort to support her, text her and check in on her and send her some flowers just to let her know I was thinking of her and we were getting on really well. My husband and his best friend have completely reconnected and are spending a lot of time together and me and the best friend have been getting on very well too. Very coincidental that now they aren't together we seem to have gone back to all getting on very well! Until we went out for a friends birthday and she was an absolute mess. Completely drunk out of her mind, barely making sense and she made a comment about us not being good friends anymore. She said 'you know why, you know what happened' and kept saying it even though i was sort of laughing saying 'what do you mean' I genuinely had no idea. It kind of annoyed me because I know I haven't done anything and don't want to be blamed for that but I put it down to her being drunk and emotional. We then didn't speak for 3 months, yesterday I text her to just say hi how are you and she completely shut me down. Just said yes fine thanks and that was it. She clearly didn't want to catch up. I don't really want to address is, I don't think enough of her as a friend to try and resolve this but I would like it to be civil as we have a lot of mutual friends and I don't want their to be any problems. I also find it strange that she is fine with all of our mutual friends it just seems to she has a problem with me. Guess I just need some advice on how to let go of a friendship.
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