Hi. I've posted on here a few times. I'm in a mess due to the demon drink again. I was a 24/7 drinker years and 3 years ago went to rehab and been a binge drinker since. Weeks, months without and then life throws something at me and I drink for a few days. 4 th time in 7 months tho taken naltrexone last 3 days and the other binges..it works as I haven't got in a mess or drank more than a bottle of wine each time. I do get the hangover, big time tho,like now:-(
My partner who I've lived with on and off for 3 years( all the time last 7 months)he's had enough of my binges and taking meds. Can he just chuck me out or do I have any rights to stay. I'm too ill to go now, I need time to sort stuff out. Should I refuse to leave? I'm so scared. I'm not a horrible person and I've done nothing wrong apart from drink sometimes. I'm so scared..
I don't know where u r but if there is an AA group in your area, call them. They will help you.
You have to convince him that you are seriously TRYING to change, and ask for his help- but then you must stand by that, I am like your partner, end of my tether and false promises- he's doing the "cruel to be kind" thing, but to be honest, it wears thin - all the broken promises. My husband doesnt promise anymore, and he has said he is quite happy being a drunk (his words not mine)-just like you, we can have a couple of weeks of 'normal' life, then he binges on vodka, and I am the one who has ruined his life etc etc. SO you have to mean it, not keep relapsing-to be honest, it gets boring.
Hi. Problem with my phone so gone on to iPad ( it won't let me reply as the screen just goes dark and can't use it it's an ongoing thing and not sure why it does this!). Anyway, I go to AA as partner is 22 years sober and in AA. I do service too. I think the steps are good and I like a couple of the meetings but a lot of them are so depressing.
I have a lot of friends in AA. I "keep coming back" !!! As they say!
HI paper fairy....I can totally sympathize with you, I know just how difficult it is to get and stay SOBER....
I was an alcoholic ( really bad..life threatening. ) for ten years...
I was sectioned four times into a mental health HOSPITAL, I had numerous home detoxes, I had a LOVELY alcohol nurse for many years, and I was kept in the mental health system for twelve years.....I have now been alcohol free for nearly 13 yrs....it took me a long time, but my whole life has changed, I was lucky my whole !! Family never, ever, ever gave up on ME...
I am surprised in a way that your partner is being so hard on you...after all....he was in your shoes once....he must realize that you are trying hard...his being angry will not help...
Ask him to give you a little more leeway and understanding....being threatened does not help....I am sure that he would not leave you homeless....
Keep on trying. .you will do it, it does get easier as time goes on...I promise you...I do so hope that things work out for you young lady...you will be in my thoughts...keep your chin up....Big, big hugs to you.. I always say. Some reformed alcoholics have the least patience. HUGS, Deirdre xx x.
Thank you so much for your kind words Deirdre..it means a lot. I will keep trying xx
Just keep trying . Every step you take is a positive step . Being on this forum is a positive step , if you were so drunk you would not be able to do it . Xx good luck
Anyone who is taking the time to read , write or look at this forum , is trying . And I am sure no one wants there life to be the mess it is when alcohol gets its claws into you . I know I need support when I am doing things right , not constant criticism when I am not .
Thank you Kathryn. I do keep trying. I drank only 1 bottle of wine on 2 days. I didn't get out of control, blackout or anything. Because my partner is a non drinker now, he goes crazy if I have any alcohol and is very against antidepressants which I also take. So we have our fallouts.
I also think they should have a separate forum for partners of alcoholics, like ALANON. Where they can talk to like minded people who understand them. I thought this forum was for alcoholics who support each other.thank you for your comments you 3 lovely ladies, you understand and help with good advice, and you survived and got well. You are an inspiration to those that are trying so hard x
Sorry if I seem to criticiise, certainly not meant. And I didn't realise this forum was for alcoholics only.
Hi Paper fairy, it's nice to see you posting again, but it's a shame that you had to. I am sorry...it's a real struggle, isn't it? I am still struggling, but drinking far less than I was when I first came to this site. My drinking isn't like yours, but I guess it's still as bad.
Keep trying love, you are very brave for even trying, I hope with all my heart that you make it one day.
Pat xxxx
Hi. That's ok olivo. It must be very hard for you when your husband has given up trying to give up. We are all just trying to get help and advice here. We are here to support each other :-)
It isn't meant JUST for alcoholics at all. It's meant for anyone having problems with alcohol....be it with themselves or a loved one. I think sometimes it can be just as damaging on the sober person in a partnership, it must be very frustrating.
Oh, and I am NOT an alcoholic, I just am alcohol dependant.....
Pat 
HI again, you see you are never alone, there are so sooo ! Many people on your side.....we are all worth it, no one chooses to have an alcohol problem. .and we certainly pay over and over again with self disgust...shame and ALWAYS that terrible fear and dread..fear that people would realize we had a problem, and that terrible dread that we would run out of drink and face those dire shakes and all else with it...but the WORST...the hair ripping out desperate, desperate cravings...
We are not bad people, we just have a problem we hate more than anyone else.....but we come out the other side....STRONGER...MORE EMPATHETIC....NON JUDGMENTAL... AND IN A STRANGE WAY....BETTER PEOPLE...
Take care all of you on this forum...it can be done and we will do it...Big warm hugs to you all good, CARING, sensitive people....
DEIRDRE Anne xxxx
Thank you Patrica for your kind words. Not drinking for 2 days but feeling very depressed as my relationship is over and will have to go back to parents to live. Life can be so hard xx
I can understand how depressed you are feeling. I am so sorry love. I hope your parents will be kind to you and help you through everything, maybe it could be the best place for you at the moment.
Life is very hard....and unfair. So much pain seems to be heaped on shoulders that are not strong enough to bear it.
Keep that chin up and stay as strong as you can, I will keep you in my thoughts.
Pat. xxx
Thank you for your kindness and support xx
I'm sure it's not just for alcoholics , I think it's just for people with any kind of alcohol abuse , them selves or any loved one connected with them .
i am on this forum because I have an alcohol problem . And I am trying to deal with this, but also I have a 78 year old dad , who is an alcoholic , so I see your point of view as well . I have had to pick my dad up of the floor and clean him up , sick, wee and more, 3 people to get him in the shower to hose him down . It is not a easy thing to do , but having my own issues with alcohol , I do understand how hard it is for him . And that is why I am trying hard to not put my family through that in the future . X