Am I actually depressed?

Okay, so about two months ago now I got my tonsils out due to about 7 years of suffering with frequent tonsillitis. I stayed off school for two weeks, as advised by my consultant, and went back once the two weeks was up. Three days after returning back to school, I woke up one morning with a dry, aching and burning throat- however a different pain to the tonsillectomy. I went straight to the doctor to get some antibiotics because the hospital never gave me any post-op ones. Stayed off until half term as the doctor told me and then as soon as back to school came around- I didn't want to get out of bed, not because I was tired and lazy, because I couldn't face the workload (catching up of almost a months worth of GCSE work is difficult). I got myself into a bit of a state about it all and was hysterically crying, and I think I may have had a panic attack. Anyway, I managed to get myself to school and I was fine, until the next week. Strep throat. Same thing, more pills and time off school. 

That was very long, so here is my point. People have, including all of my friends, been saying 'you're like never here,' and 'omg Cerys you are always ill,' and then laugh. I just kind of laugh it off, at the beginning (I was constantly missing school because of tonsillitis so I am used to the comments) it never used to get to me. But now, well yeah- it does. I feel that I am alone and nobody understands what I am going through and they basically think that it is a joke. Only a handful of people ask if I am feeling better, the others just point out that I am actually at school. I don't really know what my point is, but i have just been feeling really down and kind of worthless, like my health isn't anything to care about- just laugh about. Two other girls in my class had 'emergancy operations' and we all signed a card for them. I had a pretty long awaited operation and did I get anything? The reason being, 'you are always ill' and my so called best friend said that. The whole card thing probably sounds pathetic, but I couldn't care less if I got one or not, it it the fact that they just brush me off because I am never there. Sometimes I just completely breakdown, like I did this morning, and I don't want to be in school anymore. Some days it is different and I am buzzing to get up and going, but sadly other days it's very different. I want to stay in bed, but not asleep, just lie there. I can't go and see my school counseller because I know her and she knows most of my family so that just makes thing awkward. I don't want to tell my mum because she thinks that I am a hypochindriac who has everything wrong. So yeah, any advice would be much appreciated. Sorry that was so log but I thought you needed to know the whole story. 

Cerys.

Hi Cerys, Sorry your suffering with your health and it isn't your fault. These girls at school are picking on you because you are vunerable, try not to show to them it upsets you, hard i know, but if they think it doesn't bother you, they are getting no response and will get bored. I would see the school counseller, it's is confidential and non judgemental. If your feel uncomfortable seeing them because you know them, is there another teacher you can trust to have a chat with. You maybe able to get extra support to help catch up with your studies. Explain your health issues and the pressure of catching up with your studies, also mention how the other girls are making you feel, i am sure they will be able to offer some help. The longer you leave it the more difficult it will get. Hope this helps.

Elizabeth.

Thereisn't really a teacher I can talk to, I might email the consellor and see what she thinks but thank you x

My sister had the same trouble with her throat.  Try not to worry about other people.  You can only do your best. What matters is your health and well being.  You work to live, to pay the bills.  

Hi Cerys, things will get better do don't think this is the be all and end all, you will feel better soon.

do see your school counsilor or as you say email, they have a strict duty of care and confidentiality so nothing will get back to parents unless you want it to.

Ypur friends and the girls simply do not understand because they aren't educated enough on these things, they are just ignorant of how it is and not mature enough to know or find out how to respond which of course makes you feel alone and isolated.

Try to be honest with your friends and tell them how you feel good or bad and ask for their understanding and support.

Dont be afraid to speak to your parents or another family friend or relative.

The school work is not important at this stage and nor is catching up, it's also NOT your problem it's the Schools responsibility and any catch up plan needs to be at a pace which is ok with you, but at this moment in time your health is what is important.

N

Cerys things will improve but a problem shared is a probelem halved. Your not a hypochondriac, you have natural concerns that you need to tlak to someone about. There is always your GP too if need be