i know you dont know me so its hard to say if i am worthless or not. my father calls me this term, but what does it mean, really, worth, ( money?) less. i guess so. but what is worth? having your family around to love you? having no one around to hate you? having everyone around to ignore you?
Hello there. I can tell you absolutely that you are not worthless!! But in order to try to help you could you give me some specifics. Just what you feel comfortable with. What did your father say about money when he called you at school? Can you give me more details? Thank you so much for writing into us. This is a kind and generous group of people that will try hard to help you. Please write back. Diane
Hi. No, the whole reason why you think you might be a worthless person is because you're being fed these messages by your father, and a lot of other people like to go around calling others all kinds of things, falsely, as well. No, don't believe any of it. You may have your struggles, everyone does, but find the good in yourself and you'll see you're not worthless. No one is - we're all just here on this planet trying to find our way. That's the way I see it. That's the way it is!
Hi Serenamay - your father has no right to label you in such a way. Most people belittle others because they despise themselves. They seek to blame others for their own failures. You are a handy target for him. It's unfortunate that some parents treat their children this way. Often they are mimicking the situation they learned from in their childhood from their parents/guardian. You haven't mentioned your mother. Where is she in all this?
No-one is worthless. No-one else can decide that about you. In the end, it doesn't matter whether you are hated or ignored - people will do that to you in life. The only perception you can control is your own. When your father - or anyone else for that matter - is labelling you negatively, remember that they are talking about themselves. Worth is believing in oneself, doing what is right whether for yourself or for others, to be able to look yourself in the mirror and like yourself - not so much what you look like, but how you are as a person. How you are in the world. Find your strengths and focus on them. Develop them to serve yourself and others. You can be whoever or whatever you want to be. That power is in you. It is not reliant in what others think or say about you. The first best friend anyone has is themselves.