been depress a long time husband calls me names and never say am sorry
sounds like you need some counseling and support. If you can, make an appointment with a counselor. You can always go through your county to find one. They have a lot of resources there for free or low cost. talk to your family or friends that you can trust.take care
In addition to the other advice given here it’s important for you to get financial independence. It’s impossible to negotiate with someone if you can’t tell them to go to hell. In theory tell them that is.