Hi,
I suffer from really bad depression and anexity and for the past few days I've gone back to my real mom's due to stress at my fiancé house and constantly being sick and just recently his mom is trying to 1 up me on every thing I like and comment on.
He's the one that help get me out of my shell and go place but if he's mom got he's claw into him I know I'm just going to be empty again and not wanting to do anything.
Any ideas how to get back out again without freaking out
Be very cautious about entering into this marriage. If you feel this way now it will only get worse. Is there a way to sit down with his Mother now, before marriage and discuss this honestly. I say that because if a fight is going to happen let it happen now. Be honest and kind in your discussion. If you feel this way its very likely she has issues with you as well. Maybe it will go well.
I've tried sitting down and talking to her but everything I try and say she just twists it and gets him involved and then I start feeling sorry for him because he's stuck in the middle. He's got mild depression and anexity himself and to hear him say I don't want to get involved or I want to move out and yet I'm being the bold one taking steps to get out of there and he hangs on. I can't win.
I hate having anexity issues because I can't step outside without freaking out but I put on a front and prove I'm okay but I'm not
Sounds so stressful. Do you think marriage is a good idea right now for you two? Seems like you both really need to work on yourselves for a bit first. Truth is marriage is a huge change and way up there on the anxiety scale so just be cautious. I hope everything pans out and you figure this out and feel better. This made me feel sad and i send you air hugs and lots of stregnth.
When you say anxiety, and depression, Is it anxiety,and panic,feelings of doom,and gloom,and why can't you get better,or is it manic highs, and very down lows. There is a difference. Make a appt with your doctor,or go to the ER, and tell them how your feeling and get some medication,so you can start to feel better.
Hello Jadie
If you are having problems with Anxiety and Depression you need to talk to your GP
You are having problems with the prospetive Mother in Law this is possibly caused by His Mother not wanting to loose her little boy and of course in her eyes nothing is to good for Him and She feels threatened by your relationship with the son.
I would advise that you try and explain you are not trying to supplant her and in a way both o you will have your mans interests at heart. You need to rienforce you are no threat. Be firm and kind to her. You may need to put your foot down, do it in a nice way. Remmber their are going to be more than one relationship here and they can last many decades.
When I lost my Mother in Law I lost a friend as over the years we had a tectchy relationship for a time to a nice full relationship until we lost her.
BOB