Hi everyone this is my first post, I just want to know if anyone else suffers from
Anxiety about thier loved ones. My anxiety seems to be triggered by my boyfriend and he doesn't even know he is doing it. I feel that his bored in the relationship, doesn't really love me and misses his old free and single life of partying, his never said this to me but I think he really does feel like it but can't tell me. I lay in bed worrying that I'm making his life boring. I think my anixety is made worse because he doesn't have any friends so I feel like I have to be his world. Last night I felt my worst, I shouted and broke down in front of him after weeks of it building up and then when I was alone I started cutting myself. Something I haven't done in years. How can I stop feeling like this? Cause I'm going out of my mind.
Hi Louise
Firstly, if you're self harming, I would urge you to go to the doctors because you need help. It sounds as though you are very depressed and anxious.
I'm no expert when it comes to relationships, but it sounds as though there's a real lack of communication there which, coupled with your anxiety, is causing tension to build up to breaking point. Have you tried talking to him to explain how you're feeling and find out what his thoughts/feelings are?
Take care x
I agree with cara. You need to both sit down and talk to each other; a relationship should not make you self harm - it should be fun.
Hugs x
I dont know if you are in therapy but you need it as soon as possible. Cutting or self harm must be olaced under control. None of this is from your boyfriend. These are all your own issues and how you are coping and processing stuff.
Yeah I'm In CBT and have been for the past 6 months and also am on 50mg of sertraline but at this moment in time neither seems to help. I've been the Doctor this morning and his answer is to up my dose of sertraline to 100mg but to me I just feel it's masking over the problems again. I tried to speak to my partner this morning but he can't deal with serious situations and refuses to acknowledge that something is wrong.