I'm a 19 year old male, that is currently suffering Anxiety and Depression.
I've recently broken up with my girlfriend, and i'm petrified being without her, and her being with someone else.
We spent almost everyday together, and was together for around a year.
I picked her up after work, and dropped her home before work. Now nothing...
I've also suffered my parents getting divorced, and consequently needing to move house.
This may sound silly to you, and i know a lot of people are a lot worse off, but i'm really suffering from anxiety, and panic attacks, and i'm depressed. I've been to my GP, and he has diagnosed me, and has put me on 20mg medication.
Have you got any advice, or any support they can give me.
I'm so low at the moment, and not sure how much i can take.
Thanks, Sam.
Hi Sam,
Breakups are never easy. When my ex-boyfriend (who was the love of my life) broke up with me I was devestated. Everyone is different and you needs to find what works best for you but for me I tried to spend as much time with family and friends as I could tolerate. Threw myself into work so I didn't have to think so much and gave myself persmission to be sad knowing that eventually it will pass. It's terrible when you're going through it but it does get easier as time passes and one day you'll be yourself again.
Another thing that worked for me was talking to a therapist. After a short period of time my friends and family got tired of me talking about the breakup and I felt like I still needed someone to listen so I found myself a local therapist. The great thing about seeing one is that you can talk about the same thing over and over again until YOU feel like you don't need to any more.
Best advice is be kind to yourself and do whatever it is that you need to do to bring some comfort into your life.
Thanks for your response.
Honestly every little thing helps!
I'm seeing a councillor tonight at 6, i've been off work for a week, but have forced myself back to work today. Trouble with my job is that when its quiet in the shop, i have far too much time to think.
My best mate works nights, and i work days, so we only get to see each other at weekends. I've got other friends, but i don't feel comfortable being with them at this time.
The hardest thing is going to sleep, i really can't sleep, and when i do, i wake up really early. (5am this morning, and i don't start work till 9.30)
I've had one slice of toast in 5 days 
I know the nights are the worst. Everyone is asleep and there's no one to reach out to even if you do want to talk. I gave up on sleeping and watched tv until I would finally fall asleep. If you stress yourself out and think that you need to be asleep by a certain time it just makes it worse. When your body gets tired enough you'll sleep.
Hi Sam your in a bad place right now,your to young to have all this going on in your life.your parents will sort their lives out don't fret on that.maybe a move of your home will give you a fresh start.Start of a new beginning girlfriends well they come and go,the right ones out there waiting for you,get out with your mates enjoy what's out there ,then soon you won't notice the anxiety and depression it will lift,see if your friends got any holiday plans if yes go join them on a holiday .you can make good things happen think positive not negative .you can do it Sam xx
Being on my own, watching TV would definetely cause me to have a panic attack. I never knew there was such a feeling, as low, and terrifying as this
Hello Sam
You have your WHOLE LIFE in front of you, and relationships may or may not work out, until one day you find the right person for you. Parents divorcing is always very sad, and has a great impact on the children. It is early days for the things happening to you but given time, things will sort out. Go with the flow and enjoy your young life. Good Luck!
Sam one thing I'd tell folk with anxiety etc is never ever go on symptom checker worse thing anyone with anxiety can do I've never done it know better at my age,Get on You tube meditations they are brilliant music is so relaxing brings the worst of days down Give it a go and ask around for meditation book best thing I learnt how to do and in a group with 7 of us,Maybe someone knows of a Meditation group you could join in your area I've found it has great benefits to anxiety. Ask a counsellor if they know a group you can join Sam xx
Its a lot easier said, than done!
What sensible advice. Well done! I am a grandmother now but still remember that feeling from when I was young. Just wished I'd been as wise as you!
Best wishes
Hello Sam
Yes it is easier said than done, but I was 17 when I had my first panic attack......
and I am now in my seventies. Have suffered all my life, but things beyond my control have made my life very difficult. But I have still managed to lead a very intersting life, in full employment in responsible jobs, raised a family and travelled the world. I, as a female, still enjoy clothes and make-up, and I hope I am a glamourous grandmother. I have been on 11 cruises ans flown all over the world. So take heart! Look to the future, please.... you do have one.!
I'm sure you are a glamourous grandmother! Thank you for your advice, and i will take on board what you've said.
Thank you!
A quick update regarding my first councelling session.
I would highly recommend it to anyone that is thinking about going to one.
Even after one session, i'm filled with hope.
They really put things in prospective!
Glad you went ,and you got something from it today.Hope you keep going 1 hour every week for 6 weeks.Now for you to keep busy don't sit around with the TV in the next few days.It will bring you back down .Get out and kick a ball around do something. Stay in touch Sam x
Hi mate. Im also 19, male and broke up with my girlfriend last year. As well as that in the same week i had to move half way up the country to uni. All i can say is in my situation it felt like there was nothing I could possibly do to be happy unless I had her, I pretty much was full of grief for a week it was as if a family member had died. But times a healer, grab a beer with your mates have a night out in town. A year later I've met someone else who by being with her highlighted all the things that didnt work about my previous relationship, and i bumped into my ex last friday night and it was fine. Times might be dark now but light awaits, your be fine chin up lad.
I know what you mean, i'm really focusing on the negatives of the relationship, which is making it slightly easier! Everyone is saying the same, but its nice hearing it from someone the same age, that has experienced the same.
I appreciete your reply, thanks mate!
Yeah just remind yourself that there were reasons it didnt work, and even if you did go back them problems would stil be there, find someone else!
I can relate to you sam.
Check out my post ob this forum. You'll know
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