Anxiety and depression

Mental health
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hi all

would just like to say sorry for any spelling mistakes I make I am dyslexic.

Just to let everyone know I've been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety for 8 years now. So I know what everyone is going through .

This is not meant to offend anyone okay, just the way I see it.

Everyone is different and suffering in different ways my ways are with my neck muscles feeling dizzy not connected to my body, things like that at the moment I'm going through a stage where I think I have the big C. But I'm working on that.

Anyway, I am rambling again. I've just started typing this because I've noticed a lots of people have anxiety about having a heart attack. I also have heart flutters and a racing heart , but to be honest with you, that doesn't bring my anxiety on it just doesn't bother me, this is where a lots of people I feel is wrong.

Let me put it this way anxiety is brought on by our worst fears. That's all it is. We concentrate on certain things could be our hearts our necks our muscles, but anxiety feeds from these negative thoughts, which makes the anxiety worse honestly, it does.

It's like sitting in your garden with a little tea, light candle just a little flame then you start adding wood to that little flame the flame gets bigger and bigger and bigger then instead of just looking at that little flame you're looking at a massive flame which is anxiety, so instead of trying to keep the flame little you are making it bigger and bigger. By adding more wood , but really you're adding more anxiety to the flame. Try to keep calm. If you have had all the tests at the hospital and there's nothing wrong with your heart. It's down to the anxiety making your heart beat faster. Just my theory.

I've got to be honest, I'm amazed about this site it's a great place for inspiration, but to be honest with you, I've noticed so many more young children coming on this site with depression and anxiety problems and panic attacks. I do honestly believe that it's the lifestyle we live now so much pressure on children to get good school results. Children should be children let him play out kick a ball around a field instead of being stuck on a computer or mobile phone when I was a child like that. I didn't have a care in the world didn't really wonder where food comes from as long as I could go out and play with my mates didn't worry about paying the rent or mortgage, but nowadays there is a lot more social pressure on children. I think personally, which in some ways is wrong for the next generation.

By the way I left school when I was 16 no qualifications whatsoever. Plus I had dyslexia, which doesn't help, but I get round to problems I've had several good businesses that I have run myself. I don't need money. I don't want for anything so basically I'm saying your marks at school are important, but try to get a grip on life in general. Anyway, I have rambled on long enough. This is just my opinion don't mean to offend anyone just how I feel. I hope everyone is having a really great day to day because I am having a off one myself. Take care everybody .

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Hi Shaun l couldn't agree more.l hope your day improves.Well said.

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Sounds pretty typical for a lot of us. Welocome to the club. Please continue to share your experience with us. Especially for the younger people. We all remember how scary (and still is) when we had our first attacks. I honestly believe talking about it and bringing it out in the open will help others like us. 

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This is so well thought of....no you are not rambling at all..if any thing so spot on about all this....the sooner one knows and understands the trigger points....and UNDERSTAND THEM!....the faster one can begin with recovery..... I failed all exams too..... was stuck on valium for over 15 years in the 60s/70s.....until I met an old school boy type Scottish twead jacket Doctor who said no more of those blue/yellow tablets....instead I will go through living hell with withdrawals .....get on the common ....start running...like any sport?....I lived in Wimbledon...loved tennis....so he said....get on that court....start hitting that ball.....laddiee....he gave me some beta blockers for withdrawals....(they work on the heart muscles....)...the rest is a success story.....super fit and not getting scared about the road ahead....most of my life being self employed.....then 15 years later.....a car power steering failure on my BM

..Depression begins 4 other deaths in and around me.....why am I writing this here after 25 Years..??...so all of you can read different circumstances produce these sometimes impossible events which change our lives....my case sacrificing a life and high profile Corporate profession....to regain a stability and peace......which comes from Buddhism...Please take.it up.....LOOK inside with insight to yourselves before looking out...we all have that inner place which no one has the right to disturb!!God bless you all.....

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Anyone try acupuncture? I would like some feedback before I try it. Seems I carry my stress in my back and muscles and maybe something new will help is all I am thinking. 

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I was born in 1950, life was less complex during the 50/60s we were allowed  out to play and would disappear for most of the day, even at school we were able to play and were not allowed back into the class until called.

Generally people knew who we were and would watch over us

Children seem now are cloistered and do not have the freedoms and interaction we used to have, parents do not trust Society with their children, the World has become a more dangerous place where people react in there own interests and do not know who their next doors are.

Children spend most of their time on the Internet and dangers seem more a problem. People on the net can also hide behind or make a false identity for themselves, dangers are in some ways more a problem now than in the past.Parents fail to keep an eye on what their children are doing.or who they are talking to. Life is more complex and children miss out on external interactions. In certain ways they fail to play with their Peers and this leads to children not to have face to face contact with friends. They stick onto the net like glue

In certain ways children have no childhood and this is so very sad. I suppose at least they can type.

BOB

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I was born in 1970 and we did a lot of those things you described. I think for a lot of older people, the anxiety was self medicated with alcohol. Father was born in 1953 and he masked his with alcohol and I know many others. Treatments just were not available back then and doctors were not nearly as sensitive to those type of problems. And forget about telling your boss at work you were having a panic attack, he would laugh you out of the building. This disorder just now coming to light and how many people it actually affects. I would not want to have this disorder back in the old days. It would be torture, literally 

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I remember been left to paddle my own canoe most times and was brought up by a Surrogate Family who attended to my needs. My family was more interested in their needs, I was therefore left to my own devices. I do not feel that situation would not be allowed to happen now. Stress and depression in children was not understood and medications were more problematic.

Mental Health was a slur that needed to be hidden and not understood, by people around the sufferer.

In some ways health problems now are better understood 

BOB

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I agree. I remember getting kicked out of the house at 9 am and not expected to come back until dinner time. Chores and church on sundays. Totally different time. Anxiety disorder and ADHD were cured with a switch pulled from the nearest tree outside. They family needs out weighed that of the individual family member. Not all families were like that, but majority were. Bullying was common at schools and parents thought it was the child's problem to handle it. We have gotten more sensitive as a culture, and there is good and bad in that. 

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I agree  with you Shaun. Way  too much social media and kids worrying about being judged.  And they compare themselves with other people and so on. Not healthy.

No wonder many are depressed. And have anxiety.

You just don't see kids outside anymore playing baseball or building bridges across creeks  like we used to do LOL everybody's inside on their phones or on social media,  and say goodbye to family dinners at the kitchen table,  and it's sad. 

 and the problem is it starts way too young when kids should just be kids. ☹️

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David....now that you mention bullying at school..i came to UK without parents at the age og 17...there were hardly any foreign kids in predominantly Jewish secondary school in North London....we could hardly put two syllables together let alone spell it......yes were bullied big TIME....so the Headmaster decided to make me a prefect....and they were good to us to just to l

Polish up our colloquilals...at the town hall....and of course joining the Air Training Cadets....just had to get on with life.....washing plates in the Wimpy Bar.....going on the lorries collecting charity bags....wondering.....looking at those huge mansions where the Rolling Stones a like stay.....are they ever at. Home?