I seem to becoming more and more anxious and I was hoping to get some advice. For the first time last night I actually sat down and spoke with my husband and discussed how bad my fears and anxiety are becoming and now I think I might need to get some help.
To give a bit of background my family have had a tough few years, my brother died tragically as a result of a house fire in a friends house a few years ago when he was only 19, last year my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer and my dad is currently undergoing tests for alzheimers. I know its probably no excuse but every waking hour of my day is now filled with a fear and dread that I am going to be next. I am only 34 but constantly worry about my health any pain, lump or bump is automatically cancer and I think Im not long for this world and wont get to see my boys grow up! Its consuming my life and really starting to effect my at home and work.
I have had some health issues in the past with stomach problems but nothing major but I am starting to feel as though I am constanly in pain and there is always something wrong with me, so is it all in my head?
I suppose I am quite an anxious person anyway as I can struggle to relax especially when it comes to housework, routines etc and I would love to be in a frame of mind to say "it can wait till tomorrow"
I work full time in quiet a high pressure job which I just started last year in November so I am not sure if this is another contributing factor, I would really love some advice to help settle me and make me realise Im not losing my mind, thanks in advance!
It is good that you are communicating with your husband and also recognising that it is becomming a problem for you. It is time to see the GP and make a few lifestyle changes so that you keep on top of it. Death, illness, changes in life, stress, even happy changes like marriage or a new baby can trigger all sorts of reactions in our bodies that we sometimes interperet as a health issue when really it is just your brain saying STOP! Meditation, relaxation, exercise and all the things we know are good for us will help but sometimes a chat with the doctor is needed, if your Doctor is a good one he or she will listen and take you seriously and help. DO NOT google your symtoms, it's very unhelpful... If you would like to chat, send me a private message if you do not want to put too much detail up x
Hi you are not losing your mind. I have had major anxiety for several years on and off medication. It always seems to be triggered by a health issue. Was ill in November so once again I became convinced I must be riddled with cancer and feel every ache and pain must be something serious. I went back to work in January but knew at once I could not cope and its been downhill since then with major anxiety which I cannot control. Also feeling down about it all but started meds last week again so hoping to feel calmer soon. Does anyone out there know how to stop anxiety without meds as this seems to be never ending.
CBT is very helpful, but sometimes meds are the only thing that keep me going!
Hi I started peri menopause at your age and now I'm 50 and had decided to juice and smoothies and all raw , nuts etc. no cooking anything. Wow what a diff and I started 8 months ago. It's 95% better!i too suffered impending doom, aches and pains , felt I had every disease in the bo
Hi I somehow didn't finish but anyhow maybe your in peri menopause cause wow the symptoms heighten into major anxiety, impending doom, aches n every little pain and crying( but crying is good medicine) I tell you I've never felt this good since before going into peri menopause at your age. Try it and try meditation, yoga and practice your faith. I hope you do you'll be glad you did and in as little as a couple weeks things will change . Hope your doing better soon. And it will if you give the raw food a go! (((Hugs)))
Hello!just like you my anxiety started when my sister found out she need to have brain surgery twice from that moment seeing her go through struggle it became like it was my own problem I became scared and now I live in fear that anytime I will get something the symptoms and every pain let me with no sleep.I have three little boys and every day I pray God don't let me die cause they still need me.I can't talk about my situation with no one because I don't want to upset my sister and beside her I don't have anyone that understands me.take care of your anxiety sooner before it becomes major.
Hi Susan, You sound like me. A lot going on at the moment. I have a hip operaration coming up in march, which I am scared about. I also have a sick hubby at the moment, and he has pleurisy .So not good at all.It sounds to me as though you need to take time out from your job, if you can. I have regular reflexology or aromatherapy sessions here in my own home. And this does help. I have an elder half brother, who passed away nearly 3 years agao, and I really miss him. I have the younger half brother but we dont get on at all. Familys. !! Hope this helps but you need YOU TIME regards Amandah
Wow you have been through a lot I am so sorry.
I am just like you and it has been bereavement and illness that has triggered my intrusive thoughts and panic attacks again and this is a constant trigger.
It really sounds like you need some help and I guess there is a choice. A GP, CRUSE they are so good with bereavement issues.
Please let me kmow how you get on and take care.
Christine