Having a horrible dip of anxiety/depression again. I just wish this feeling in the body would go. I've gone 5 months without a period and I just wonder if the last year of perimenopause is the worst. (probably the worst time in the past 12 years)
I was feeling rather well a couple of months ago and I was really brave and agreed to go on a holiday to Bali with my very supportive and loving husband and our 17 year old son. Holiday are few and far between with us due to my unsettled health over the past years. I agreed to go thinking surely things will start to improve soon. We are not going for another month and I just pray that this dip is over. If not I dont know how i'm going to cope. The plane ride will be a nightmare for starters with the added anxiety and I don't want my son to see how much i really struggle with this. My only option is to drug up on valium if its still hanging around. I only use valium (4mg) on really bad days just to give me a little bit of reprieve.
Please keep me in your prayers that I will be on the mend soon and be able to enjoy my holiday with some inner peace.
Does the last year get worse in perimenopause as the periods start to stop? I sometimes doubt myself with all this and wonder if it's my hormones at all or could it be something else I'm missing. When I read other posts on here I actually get reassurance that other woman are going through the same roller coaster of up and downs and it helps ease my mind. I would love to hear from other ladies that are having dips of horrible anxiety/depression and if it's easing the closer you get to menopause.
Just feeling so lost and alone. (I've lost so much of my life)
Hello Raeline, you are not going through these feelings alone. I am also suffering very black days and awful anxiety. I am 50 and not sure how long I have left of feeling like this. I suffer heavy, prolonged periods still at the minute. I think we are all different with how our periods behave but we are all going through the same personal torment of emotions. Keep strong, this is what I try and tell myself, don't let it stop you enjoying your holidays.one day we will come out the other side of this. Much love and hugs to you xx
Hi, I have never suffered from depression in my whole life, apart from brief spells of PND after each child, yet in peri menopause I would sometimes find myself in tears and feeling hopeless for no good reason that I could think of. This would invariably be followed by a period and a lightening of mood. Maybe you are about to have a period too and will feel tons better soon.
Valium is far worse to come off than heroin, and a nurse told me that!
You can use herbs such as Valerian to sleep well at night and feel more refreshed in the morning, St John's Wort to lift your moods and Damiana with it as a combination because that also lifts your moods and also gives you energy.
The most important herb I used to get me through menopause, which I'm nearly over, has been Wild Yam.
Hi Raelene,you are not alone,I havnt had a period for 3 months and my anxiety is through the roof,my joint hurt and my body aches most of the time.I can't take St. John's wort so I m stuck,I have to rely on taking the odd half of diazapam.I m sure you will have a lovely holiday,I do understand the doubts you are having,I have a 12 yr old daughter and I hate her seeing me when I m anxious. Please let us know how your holiday was 😎x
Make the most of the holidays, be in the 'NOW', think of being 'here' being 'now'. It is time you will treasure, if you can get into it now. Trust me. Lots of love xxx
It's such an unfair journey at times. How long have you been putting up with your symptoms for and do they come and go. It's so hard when you can be travelling along okay and then "WHAM" they are back again. At the moment it's very indepth and i really don't know how i'm going to do this holiday. Really hard to enjoy things when you feel so pyhsically and mentally unwell. I have been plenty of times before and it does go away but you just never know when. Thanks for your kind words of encouragement. It means a lot to me.
I'm not sure what is going on with my periods. I haven't had one for about 5 months. I'm thinking maybe this is why I'm feeling so unwell this year due to the missing periods and maybe things will settle when I've gone the full 12 months. I'm so over trying to work it all out. I've tried so many things over the years and just when i think something is working and I get a spring back in my stride i am hit with it again. The past 6 months have been the worst. (gone close to 12 years now) I know I can't give up because I have a very supportive husband and 3 wonderful children. It's only in times of these dips that life becomes so hard and negative thoughts start to creep in about living. I'm just praying that this dip lifts quickly. I pray you have better days ahead and you can get to the other side soon and live the good life. xxx
Thanks for your supportive words and great list. We must be very alike because I love doing "LISTS".
I just pray that this has lifted a bit by the time the holiday comes. It's just so hard being in my body at the moment. The feelings are just so intense. When it lifts I'm as free as a butterfly.
I will try my hardest to keep positive and work along side these horrible symptoms.
I have tried to go as natural as I can. I only use the valium when it becomes unbearable. When I have these horrible dips I try to go days without any and then I have one day where I only take a very low dose just to give me a little reprieve. I know I could take more but I'm very sensible with them and know all about the consequences. My doctor is happy for me to do this and trusts me with them. They have actually been my saviour over the years. I take a Ayuvardic herbs potion that is aimed at balancing hormones and the nervous system. I'm praying that these will kick in soon. I don't have any control over these dips they just come and go as they please. When the better days are with me it's like being in paradise. I know its an anxiety disorder and I just have to try and find the best way to balance it. I'm just praying it's my hormones and when they have all settled without the spikes things will settle for me. I've read of so many woman who have gone through it and when they are out the other side all the symptoms stop. My sister was similiar and I'm just praying I'm like her and it will all settle. She is 64 now and living a great life. Your support and encoragement is truly appreciated. Hugs to you. xx
Hello Rae, my symptoms have been building since spring 2014, first the constant bleeding started and then the awful pains on my neck and shoulders which I constantly take painkillers for. Anxiety and low moods have been on and off really for the past 6 month or so which is hard to cope with. I try get outdoors as much as I can but I'm so tired with not sleeping. I've now started with ibs symptoms which isn't helping anxiety as I've convinced myself it's bowel cancer 😕. It's all totally draining and I feel like a hypercondriac at the minute. I have not tried hrt as I don't want to go down that route but am desperate to find something for all these awful symptoms. You are not alone honey, all we can do is keep fighting and searching for anything g that helps till we come out the other side of this. Try keep busy not easy I know. I hope you make your holiday and you enjoy it. We all deserve that. Take care hugs xx
Hi Fudgeybear. I think my aches up around my neck and shoulders are from the anxiety. I know when the anxiety decreases the aches go away. I kind of get excited when I read these replies as it makes me feel like I'm not in this on my own and it looks like it is my hormones. My sister had terrible years between 40 and 53. She was also put on efexor around the time of her periods finishing. Her health has been pretty good since. I believe it was the fact that her periods stopped and her hormones stopped fluctuating which gave her more balance with her moods. Back then which was 14 years ago nothing was said about it being hormonal at all. She still takes the efexor as I think she believes it's been the answer for her. I think she is scared to go back to how she was and I can totally understand that. She was exactly like me with the periods of feeling okay and then being hit with horrible anxiety. It's the most horrid feeling. No one can comment unless they have been through it. Sometimes I wish some people could have it for a day or two so they know what we are feeling. I'm with you and the diazepam. I only take it when I really need to. I've heard of so many horror stories that it does worry him. I've never taken it for more than 3 days in a row only at a very low dose. Love to you and your daughter and i pray that you have some better days soon. Thanks for your support and care. I hope I can come back on here in a couple of weeks and say I had a wonderful time. xx
Aw thank you Raelene,I know what you mean,it is comforting to know that it's hormones it makes all a little less scary.I m a little like your sister I ve not been right since I turned 40 i m now 46, i m hoping I'm going to be a new woman by the time I m 50 😊 I agree I think the neck and shoulder aches are to do with the anxiety,it's just such a strange feeling to be so anxious and you don't even know why you feeling so terrified.My poor husband is used to me sitting with my headphones on listening to a guided meditation video.Have you tried something like that when you re anxious?they always help me,if you go on you tube and type in The Honest Guys they do some great ones.I m sure you will be back here after your hols telling us you had a wonderful time.Love to you and your family,🍹👙☀️Xx
Hi, so sorry to hear about all your troubles. Try yoga, it is all about breathing deeply, when we are stressed we hold our breathe. Yoga is about getting inside of yourself, breathing and concentrating on what you are doing, so it is very stress-releaving, for that reason alone. You are not thinking about anything else, just the poses. Have a look on youtube and give it a go, my love, it has been my life-saver! You do not need to be fit, you just need to do what you can do! Give it a go, xxxx
Well that is a story and a half at the moment. We contacted Births, Deaths and Marriages 6 weeks ago to get my marriage certificate to show change of name and my husband's birth certificates. Up until last Tuesday we still hadn't recieved them. I rang them on the Tuesday and they said they would be at least another week or more. We decided to make the trip to Melbourne to get them ourselves. (4 hours away) When we got to BDM they informed us that they had already been sent. (Wasn't happy) We decided to get new ones on the spot and head straight to the neartest post office and send all papers off straight away. So after last Wednesday we were pretty happy with ourselves knowing that everything had been sent off and we had a good month to get the passports back in time for Bali. UNTIL yesterday afternoon the saga still continues .............. I get a phone call from the passport office to say that my marrriage certificate was not with my application. The woman at the post office had obviously stuffed up somewhere because everything was spot on. This morning I had to head back into our local post office and send the certificate off once again. It has been a bit of a nightmare. The funny thing is I don't really feel that stressed about it because I'm unwell. If I was feeling better I would probably be racing. I'm actually rather calm about the whole ordeal. Sorry for the long story but as soon as I saw your message about "PASSPORTS" I had to reveal. I even had a little laugh.
Also after 5 months I had a bleed today. I wonder if that is why the past 3 weeks have been horrific. Maybe I'm in for some better days. Fingers crossed.