Anxiety - Don't lose hope

Hello folks, i thought i would share my story here and offer some advice. Three years ago i had a couple of panic attacks which changed my life in a big way. I started to avoid going out alone, didn't meet with friends and my life was pretty much limited to staying home. I did take medications eventually which relieved the physical symptoms but the fear was somehow still there. I always expected another panic attack coming its way hence making me very anxious. I still avoid going to places where i feel that i might get trapped but things are looking positive. The key here is to learn about your anxiety. Two things you need to keep in mind a) You are not having a heart attack - the tightness in your chest may let you feel that way but that is not true b) You will not die - anxiety does not kill. Yes, it is indeed an uncomfortable feeling but if you are able to ride it out it will go away. The key is to ride your fear - talk to your self, positive thinking will help. Whenever you get an axiety attack you need to think what happened in your previous attack or the one before it. Did you die? Did you end up going all crazy? I know people tend to lose their ability to think rationally during an attack but try writing it down in a diary. Read your notes when you get an attack.  The moment you start thinking rationally - like hey they is just an anxiety attack, i know my heart is racing but this is totally fine, i am safe, it will go away. You will be amazed with the results. And the other point you need to keep in mind is to not run away when you have an attack - i know it sounds difficult but stay where ever you are. Try to to ride it out. People tend to leave the place when anxiety reaches its peak. But if you don't leave anxiety WILL GO AWAY. I've tried this before. Try to go out in crowded places, look around. Expose yourself to situations which may provoke your anxiety and when it comes on try to deal with it with the techniques i have outlined above but again the key is to stay there and not leave until the anixety goes away - otherwise your brain will automatically programme itself to beleive that a crowded place can be of danger. There are other coping mechanisms as well such as belly breathing - inhale from your nose for 3 seconds, hold your breathe for 2 seconds and slowly exhale for 4 seconds. Repeat this 4 or 5 times. Should be helpful. But you have to remember - it is all in your head. It is like a monster coming out from your closet to scare you. If you look him in the eye and tell him that he does not scare you anymore, the monster will go back to where it came from and not come out. If anyone of you needs help or needs to discuss i am happy to help. Feel free to reach me. 

Your Friend!

thank you very much. very helpful

Nice, I enjoy it a lot reading your post. I tell that myself all the time. I hope we can overcome the problems and get better.

Great. Happy to help. Remember the key here is to not run away from it - I know it is easier said than done but practice makes a man/woman perfect

Yes we can. Although i wished if i could have met someone in my city who would be facing a similar issue. It is easier to speak to someone who understands what you are going through. 

THANK YOU. I try this method everyday and I do think that talking to yourself really helps

Your words are good to hear. When I go somewhere now and feel head pressure and weakness I try and ride it out it is easier said than done but I have managed to get home safe

i know michelle but the moment we accept our anxiety, not fight it, not run away from it then it becomes easier to handle. Hang in there

Did you get a lot of head pressure ?

Michelle - physical symptoms vary from person to person. For me i usually get tightness in chest, sometime palpitations, feeling very jittery, heavy breathing etc. I don't know what you mean by head pressure but sometimes i do feel light headed.

Sorry I mean like a tight band across my head and up my neck.

Not around the head but i do get that kind of sensation around my upper chest.

Well thanks . Best to carry on and think positively about things and that this can't harm you ☺

yes, it does no harm. But i know where you are coming from. When that feeling comes we lose our ability to think rationally. Guess constant exposure and practising will make us perfect

Hey!

Lovely words full of hope! I do have a question

I'm almost through with my anxiety thankfully with treatment. It's substantially subsiding. However there is one thing.

Have you went through a stage where you constantly think about your breathing? I tend to have a bit of fear whenever I concentrate on it. I know it's impossible to forget how to breathe and we don't need to manualky do it.

Have you been through it? If yes, do you have any advices?

Thanjs!

Yes I do get that a lot. As soon as you can't breath properly you feel like you have to try and breath.

Exactly michelle, any advices :D? Hope it goes away soon.

The only comfort is that there's no need to worry about breathing. Brain does it for ya

Yes we're a right pair aren't we 😀

Yes we are :D nevermind that I smoke as well, so add that ip :D

It's quiet interesting thought don't you think? Anxiety shows itself in like 1million ways, as soon as you think about something while you're anxious, it sticks for a while

Yes you're not wrong there. It's a pain in the neck