I have been suffering with anxiety attacks and constant worrying for about 6 months now. I use to be able to control the worries but now it is getting so out of control that I making myself ill and I am scared to go into work. I drive to work every morning in fear and get emotional the closer I get to work.
When I get to work I can't focus or concentrate at work due to the anxiety of failure. I have got into my head that I am not good enough for this job and that I am out of my depth. I put things off at work and let things build up because I am frightened to speak to people or that I will say the wrong thing. I try to do a hundred things a once and end up not finishing anything. My mind is so cluttered that I can not prioritise things. I really just want to get in my car and run away from everything.
All I want to be is a normal guy that can support his family and hold down a job without anxiety getting in the way.
I know there a lot worse of people in the world to me but I don't want to go my whole life struggling with anxiety and being a burden on my wife.
I am having counselling which is helping slowly but I am wondering if drugs are the answer?
Has anyone got any advice to stop these negative thoughts and anxiety souring out of control? How do I learn to concentrate and focus better without anxiety creeping in?
Thanks
Regards
Dan
Hello Dan,
Just having read your posting ,I know there are a lot of people in here also going through what you are going through so I imagine you will get a number of replies.
I too suffer from Anxieties ,etc.No I personally don`t take prescribed drugs for it ,I have always been for the complimentary therapies for my problems.
This though is not something everyone wants to use.
My own feeling is that a prescibed drug does not get down to the root cause of your problem ,it simply helps to ease the sysmptoms.,Hence you get the sysmptoms again and again .
But what you use ,is solely down to you yourself,if you feel better seeing a Dr ,then that is the way for you ,if you chooses to use the complmentary therapies ,then that too is down to whatever you prefer.
There are always some side effects ,with the drugs,But I have not had any side effects from using complimentary.
This is just my own opinion ,and everyone else will also have theirs ,which they will post .I wish you good luck in what ever you choose .
Take Care
millyimp1322
A visit to your doctor to enquire about a suitable oral medication might prove fruitful, however all the meds that are usually prescribed for axiety do take time to work.
Hopefully a combination of conselling and oral medication should improve your situation.
All the best
Rod
Hi Millyimp
Many thanks for replying to back to me and for your advice.
I wasn't aware about complimentary therapies so I will do some research on these before I go down the prescribed drugs route.
Thank you Rod for your reply and feedback.
I am reluctant to use prescribed drugs as I am concerned that I may get addicted to them and struggle to wean myself of them. However I am getting to the point that I will try anything to control the anxiety and worry,
Cheers
Dan
Good morning Dan.
I do understand your concerns about addiction.
The simple fact is that anxiety is a serious illness that needs does need tackling head-on.
In some cases counselling has been known to help, but if you really want to have any quality of life then being medicated is the way to go,
Yes these drugs can have addictive properties, but looking at the upside, this does not often happen, but if it does then alternative non-addictive medications are available which can be substituted.
All the best
Rod
Get on some meds and/or leave your job.My job made me sick for years and it aint worth it.
Hi Dan,
I think medication may help in the short-term - as it can help calm you down so you can think more clearly. (I fought it when it was suggested to me, but it did help and doesn't mean you have to be on it for the rest of your life).
I defnitely think you are doing the right thing in seeking counselling, This will help if you give it time and really work with it.
Have you been back to your doctor? If work is causing you more stress, it may be work having a couple of weeks off work, signed off sick by the dr, if they think this may help.
However, remember that if you take this avenue, the longer you have off, the worse returning will be. I am not saying don't do this -j ust don't expect that you will ever feel like you actively want to go back - you will most probably feel anxiety the day you return; but this is a normal feeling.
Also - if you can be honest and talk to someone at work about what is happening, this may also help. Firstly maybe they can do something to help relieve your anxiety and stop you feeling like you are rubbish at your job. Plus should the dr decide to sign you off work, then your workplace will have an understanding as to what is going on; and therefore hopefully wouldn't push for you to be back before you are ready.
However, I know everyone's situation is different and this option may not be suitable to you.
Good luck with everything and take care.
Hi dan
Trying to hold down a job whilst suffering
Is not a good combination . I know how you feel From experience . until you do something about it , it's not going to change
It's worth taking some time off albeit use some
Accrued holidays this will give you time
To rest , reflect and plan your next move
Is it your job that's causing the anxiety ?
If so start looking elsewhere
No job is worth the way your feeling right now . Am I right ?
Regards daz
I have suffered for the last 20 years, changing jobs, cars, where I live, looking to be as happy as everybody else, not knowing I suffered from anxiety. 6 years ago I went on meds and let the meds do the work and never addressed the issuses I had. Not completely my choice, as I was told not to try and work out why I felt this way ,as it would just delay recovery. I,m now going to counciling and addressing my problems. The meds allow us to function day to day but need to be followed up with therapy.
Thanks sugarloaf for the advice. I am getting to the point where I am going to leave but I need another job lined up before I leave. I better get my Cv at to date 😄
Hi Ange1a
Thank so much for the detailed response. I did see the doctor at the beginning of Feb and got signed off for 2 weeks. The time off really helped clear my head but as soon as I went back to work the anxiety attacks started again. I went back to work this Monday and your right the anxiety was particular bad and this week has not been great but I am determined to fight through it. People at work have been very supportive but I still feel alone and the workload has not decreased. I think I don't help myself because I put too much pressure on myself to get everything done straight away.
Does anxiety cause memory loss? I seem to forget things quire a lot.
Also I struggle to concentrate not just at work but at home as well. If I watch TV programmes then I struggle to absorb what I am watching. If people are talking to me my mind wonders and I struggle to remember the conversation. Do you think this Is linked to anxiety? Would meds help me concentrate and focus better?
Sorry for all the questions
Thanks Daz for your reply. Yes it is definitely the job that is causing the anxiety. Everything else in my life is perfect and it is only the job that is making me unhappy.
Your right no job is worth the suffering and making myself me ill. I am going to start looking for a new job very soon once I work what I want to do. It is also doesn't help that my self esteem and confidence is low so I doubt myself and think that I am not good at anything.
I will be more positive now and start appreciating the good things that I have got in my life.
Hello Nick,
You have just proved the point ,that medications DOnt do thw job.
What they do is in fact help relieve your symptoms,but they do not get down to the root cause of your problems which is like taking a tablet for your headache ,it relieves your headache but then you get another again another day .Your Counceller is doing it the right way ,and you are now addressing your issues ,good for your Counceller ,and good for you to,I wish you well,
Take Care
millyimp1322
Thanks Nick for your reply. 20 years that is a long time to be suffering with anxiety. You must be a very strong person to fought through for so long.
I going to spend some time this weekend deciding if I will go down the med route but if it helps me function on a day to day basis then that is good thing in my book.
Don't apologise. :-)
Yes... I find both anxiety & depression affect my ability to absorb information & to retain it.
I do think medication would help to calm you down and be able to deal with things better. They (the gp) normally puts you on a low dose & build up accordingly over time, if necessary. Remember this wouldn't have to be long-term.... however when you start ferling better you need to discuss how best to come off your meds... if you just stop, you may well end up back at square one with your moods.
Don't let the above comment put you off considering meds... I only say it as it's tempting when you feel better (& feel you don't need them anymore) to just stop.... but it doesn't mean it will take ages to come off them... it could just take a few wks
Well it would comes in bouts, not to mention that I thought it was normal. My mother was bad with it when we were kids and it rubbed off I guess. Now my brother and I have it. If I were you I'd go the cbt therapy root soon as possible and then consider the meds after a month if need be.
Drug may not be the answer for human health. please,try to read your holly books more during your idle time.That will help you be correct.
Going through this thread and found that I have the exact feeling of anxiety that you are having now and exactly the same scenario in work that you have. This has really affect my work and personal life.
Just wonder how was your progress currently? Counselling only or counselling with meditation and did you leave the job that causing the anxiety on you.
Sky
Wow Dan. Reading your post was like you were writing about my life right now. I feel exactly the same everyday.
The only time I relax is on Friday night. My anxiety already starts building from Saturday night because I know work is on Monday. I have also resolved to leave. I have been at this job 6 months and I'm worried what people will think of me if I leave my job so soon but I am being driven to the edge by the anxiety.
Sometimes when I drive to work I fantasize about being in a car crash and ending up in hospital for months so I can escape.
i need to go for counseling because I have never dealt with anxiety and depression like this before.
wish you all the best.