I have always been a worrier but just lately I am having terrible anxiety attacks and they are taking over my life. I have 2 sons age 20 and 16 who like to go out and socialise with friends but I am terrified that something bad is going to happen to them. I act out things that I think are going to happen in my my mind which obviously makes my anxiety worse. I just wish they would stay in andnig go out so I know they are safe.
I hate myself I do worry about other things and I am sure my partner is fed up with me. I just wish I could see into the future to see if everything is ok. I wish I wasn’t here anymore so that I don’t have to worry.
Hi Emma🙂
Emma don’t hate yourself plz
this is anxiety once again at it best isn’t it your worst fears are acted out, like myself I have no kids but I constantly worry over my dear mum horrible thoughts and even dreams.
What I can say is you’ve raised your sons and are still doing so now you probably have worried all the 20yrs this far and you will I’m 40my mum 70! She’s my rock.
Ifhad a bit of a past she never turned her back never judged and always has helped loved and surrounded me with loads of love!that’s a true mother she has worried over me just like you do with your kids, but you shouldn’t be making yourself feellke not being here, you’re boys want you here that’s for sure hey! maybe think of being a Granny one day? What your boys are wanting to do or are doing with there life thier future.
im not being rude when I ask but has anything happened to trigger this off?
You say you wish they stayed in so they live with you at least you see them when in.
Your partner maybe thinking there just lads and they’ll be just fine, may think you over react but In never fact Anxiety is so cruel how it can make you thoughts and feelings highten.
can you talk to your dr at all about these thoughts and your anxiety I hope you can get some peace with this
take care
Vîcky🌈
Emma, I know exactly what you’re going through. I have three kids they are grown now but I worried about them since they were born. Always picturing horrible things, worried about them going to friends houses, worried about them driving, worried about them getting some terrible disease,Worried about them running into some nasty people, etc. it just reeked havoc on my mind. I had to go to counseling because I was torturing myself. I felt I was making myself sick and aging myself.
I know in my mind that they have to live their own lives. We cannot control them once they are grown. Just make sure that your 16-year-old comes home when you ask him to. He is still a child and you do still have some control over what he does. Them staying home all the time is healthy and not good for their social development. They need to experience life but also know how to be aware of their surroundings and who they are with.
I had to face the fact that I cannot control my kids when they’re grown and I pray for them daily that they are safe. But I also know that I cannot obsess over it 24 seven because that’s not good for my health. I want to be around very long time with my family so I must take care of myself!
You taking care of yourself is a gift to your sons because I’m sure they want you around for a very long time. I had to start getting more busy and get my mind on other things. I started to exercise at a club and I’m eating much healthier than I did. Your kids want to see you happy and at peace. That makes them happy.
I also listen to meditations on YouTube for anxiety and worry. Those help me a lot. When you get a negative thought, calmly observe it for a few seconds and then watch it flow off and imagine it dissolving into the air. Don’t try to fight it off because it will get worse. Remember your negative thoughts are not based on fact Or reality. They are also Not a part of you. They are just based on fear and you can let go of that.
you deserve peace of mind and you can have that but you have to choose to put yourself first at this time. What A wonderful thing to do for your boys! ❤️😁