Anxiety, ocd, jealousy and feeling like an adult child

Hello everyone! I have big anxiety issues and looks like I run out of options for what could help me get better. I have ocd symptoms, some social anxiety, I had anorexia (hopefully I recovered), panic attacks. I will briefly share my story here because it is too long. I have anxiety since my early teenage years, and now I'm 24 years old. It's been long time of trying to resolve it, from following the urges that anxiety gives me to medication and therapists, alternative treatments, self-help materials etc. In the first place I am a hypersensitive person and prone to anxiety, but I'm pretty sure that my childhood environment had an impact on my emotional health. My father has the traits of a narcissistic person and so many times in my life he criticised, humiliated, insulted me. On the other hand my mother is kinda overprotective and she always accepted any of my requests including help me following my ocd urges. It's true that she was the only one who supported and helped me during my bad times. Now I have my own family but I feel I am still so much of a child mentally and emotionally. Now my husband is the target of my anxiety, because I am very jealous and I request or ban him to do many things that can trigger my jealousy /anxiety. Now he is also very stressed himself and too difficult for him to respond to my requests but if I don't receive the relief I need, I get high anxiety, depressed feelings, some kind of betrayal feelings, and even panic attacks. Each few seconds or minutes when the thought pops up the anxiety paralyzes and suffocates me. Sometimes I'm wondering which makes me more anxious , the fact that I'm so jealous or that he refuses me. I know that following the anxiety is not the solution and can only worsen the condition plus it disturbs the important people around me too, resulting in a lot of unhappiness which I'm living right now. That's not what I want to happen, but I can't see any way out. Does anyone else can relate to what I'm going through? Even something similar. I need an opinion, advice, anything.