So I've not been on here for sometime. But alots happened to the point my marriage has broken, where my husband said he couldn't cope with my anxiety and he commited adultery. I've recently found out Im pregnant 14 weeks and I can't come to terms with it I'm not happy. I've been under the crisis team.as well I've had to come off my medication due to the pregnancy and put on sertraline which aren't helping so I've come off the. To give the baby a chance in life. My world feels like it's all crashed and I can't see a light. I have no support from anyone. My brain can't process what my husband did so I'm constantly asking the same question to see if he changes anything what he told me. I'm really struggling at the min with life. I can't even look after my children I have and he's had to help I feel such a burden. I felt i was getting somewhere at the beginning of the year. And now it's worse than ever. The crisis team have said I'm suffering with a trauma and it's like a greving stage. I never get out of my head what he did. I go to sleep and I'm having nightmares about what he did to me. I've lost all confidence in my self.
So sorry, you really are going through it, I can't even imagine how awful this feels. I've often imagined my husband leaving me because he's had to put up with so much. But you don't deserve this, hope you have somebody you can rely on at moment, anybody you can reach out to. Hope crisis team can help put you in touch with councillors, therapy for your trauma and perhaps a support group so that you don't feel so alone. Hope you get help. Please try to get all the help you can, for your children as well as yourself, it must seem almost impossible at moment, but with right support and help it's suprising how strong you can be , don't give up, you didn't ask for this , your not a bad person, wish people out here could help more, but always here to talk❤️
Try to put this behind you for the sake of the children and your unborn baby. The thoughtless act of your husband is simply that.
I does not sound like an emotional attachment and he is probably regretting the whole thing. Time does heal. Honestly . I know it is easy to say that and hard tto accept but time really does heal.
I am unsure if getting other people involved even if it is the crisis team is a good idea really if I am being honest.
Each person has their own take on this involvement in a relationship issue. Personally I think that the issues can only be sorted out between you and your hubby.
I would try to talk to him , explain he has hurt you and what does he want out of life, the marriage etc.
If you are happy with his response and feel that the marriage can be saved then build up trust as best as you can and take it from there.
This can take time but is well worth doing.
You are still in a state of shock and feel let down but he may not appreciate this . Hormones are so different between the sexes.
Hi. I agree best outcome would be if you could and husband could talk and discuss what went wrong and if things can be fixed. I don't know all details, hope you can consider this. After years fighting anxiety I do need the advice of people who can look in on the situation and reasure me perhaps, as the anxiety can make me fear I'm not seeing anything rationally or making right judgements. Do believe it doesn't harm to discuss some sort of couciling for any kind of trauma,breakdown or depression. Hoping things get better❤️
Sorry to hear what you're going through. It's normal to feel this way he cheated on you. He disappointed you. But "you can do this." 👍Think about your baby. Get better for the baby and your kids. Don't get down. He shouldn't blame your Anxiety. That's no reason to cheat. Don't let him manipulate you. He should have understands you and helped you with your Anxiety. Been there for you. 🙏 Don't lose confidence in yourself prove to him what he lost. Dress the best you can. Look good.👏Get a makeover if you want. Change your hair color. Be positive. Try to get therapy or counseling. You can overcome this heartbreak. You will find someone better and one who understands you.🙌💜💜💜Good Luck Vicky. Take care for your kids.
Thank you ladies. Sorry I've not been on replied. I've had that much going on with mental health. And professionals trying to sort my medication so they can give me something what's safe for the baby. He's made his decision he doesn't want to be with me when he did what he did in March. So now we just try and make the best of things to get on for my daughter and the unborn child. And he has to support me, so I can get better. And to be honest I dontbwanr to get back with him. Has anyone been pregnant whole suffering with anxiety and depression ? If so how did you manage? I'm finding it hard, especially with coming off strong tablets to something what aren't working, I've also become so paranoid about taking my tablets incase they harm the baby. Xx