I am an 18 (soon to be 19) year old female and have various health issues; two being depression and anxiety. I lost my virginity around 4 months ago and ever since then, whenever I have sex, I am extremely paranoid about becoming pregnant all the time. I recently had sex again; 1 month ago and since then have noticed some pregnancy symptoms, however I am also on the Depo-Provera birth control injections.
I have been on the Depo for around a year (if not longer) and have never missed or been late for a shot. I had sex (no condom used) just over a month ago and have been experiencing pregnancy-like symptoms;
- Spotting (which is usual as I no longer have regular/proper periods due to
the shot)
- Slight nausea
- Extreme fatigue
- Extra hunger and some slight cravings
- Stomach bloating & cramping (my stomach even looks more bloated or
'bigger’/’fuller’)
- Small amount of weight gain
- Headaches
- Urinating somewhat more frequent
Some of these symptoms may be down to other health issues or even the side effects of Depo but I still cannot help relating them to pregnancy?! I also know that there's still 3% chance of getting pregnant on Depo. I am very worried about this and don’t know who to talk to or what to do. Firstly what should I do about the pregnancy symptoms and secondly what can I do about being so paranoid with becoming pregnant? It’s beginning to affect me badly as its making me more depressed and stressed constantly and every time I have sex as I am overly anxious about it. It has got to the point where I am so anxious that its becoming all I think about and I am worrying all the time; not being able to focus/concentrate on much else.
Thanks to anyone who replies in advance.
Dear Jodie
please take some advice from me.
The first time i ever had sex I contracted HIV on the 16th June 1988.
U dont mention if your having sex with the one partner , anyway thats none of my business, we as humans do what we do.
My point is one good way to avoid these fears is to have safer sex , make your man use a condom .
I am very advanced with my HIV which is deteriating today and I ma facing losing my life right now.
But apart from HIV having a lot of knowlege about sexual health through research and many talks to the sexual health specialists there are many very nasty bugs that can cause you much harm , even more than HIV today as there are many new treatements to give people with HIV a much greater chance t live normal lives and in fact even have healthy babies today.
My case is so much more complex today and i have many other health complications, afatr a trauma 2 1/2 years ago i developed Anxiety and this has gone from mild to acute , i find myself in tears daily and any noise triggers my body to go into tremor which is not just shakes but sreaming and complete trauma.
I would be reccomending asking yourself to really examine and think very careful about the type of sex you have, we all have choices to be made and if you dont fully understand my reasoning behind my advice maybe take some time to google sexual health.
With the right choices in place you may find releif from the anxiety issues that surround all this unnesacary fears of becoming pregannat.
And it is often those worse fears that we dread will eventually occur.
I wish you peace n joy
Hugs
PJ
Yes, I have only ever had sex with the one partner. I am grateful for your response but is there a particular reason you have given information on HIV when I've asked for help with anxiety/paranoia with pregnancy? I don't want to have another worry on my shoulders!! Haha.
Also, sorry to hear your health problems; I wish you well.
Jodie.
Thanks Jodie to your response
the main thing i was trying to explain to you the best way in dealing with the anxiety about becoming pregnant was to have safer sex , by having your man use a condom, and surely this will resolve the issues of anxiety you have in relation to becoming pregnant which is what appears to be the underlying issue of your fears.
If your man understands your fears he will respect and love you no matter what and understand what is right to help your relationship grow and the anxiety should disperse.
I hope i am making sense now
The HIV thing was a mere example , it wasnt related to yourself as becoming hiv positive, it was merely suggesting the answer to your worry and anxiety about having sex and it allowing to interupt you life and thought pattern can easily be contained with a simple choice , even if this is a temporary measure
I hope this now makes sense to you.
PJ
Oh right, I see! Yes, thankyou for explaining. I wasn't sure if you was trying to say the stmptoms I listed where symptoms of that hence why j said I didn't need another worry haha. Thankyou for you advice and help,
Jodie
jodie this was my fault for being so onsensative in an ANXIETY FORUM as we all seem to think the worse with this dreaded illness.
I of all people should of known what i was saying about myself could cuase you alarm.
Hugs
and be at peace
PJ
No don't worry! Was just a misunderstanding, thankyou (:
cool
have lots of great sex and enjoy it , it really is a natural part of life and nothing to be ashmed of .
i am envious that the sex life i had has come to a major holt.
i love sex it brings out the best of me
lol
Hugs
Phil
Hello Jodie, i would suggest that you buy a pregnancy kit just to be on the safe side and check if you are pregnant. It is possible that your symptoms could be from the Depo. If you are not pregnant then it may be advisable to see the clinic and get some reassurance. Have you thought about using condoms as well, this will give you better protection and good for your sexual health. If you are pregnant then you really need to see the GP asap for a check up and disscuss your options.
Elizabeth.