Hi I'm new on here but feel I need someone to talk to. I've suffered with anxiety since I was around 7-8 years old, I'm 28 now. I'm married with a beautiful 2 year old. It started with a fear of sickness I used to have panic attacks on a regular basis and never spoke about it to anyone. I've recently began feeling anxiety bad again! I'm always so anxious and worried about illness or a fear of dying and leaving my husband and son alone! Once I get the thought into my head it doesn't leave for days. I get chest pains, shortness of breath and just generally feelin unwell. I haven't spoken to anyone about this since I was younger as I've always felt I could control it but it's starting to take over me! I wouldn't say I'm a unhappy person I love my life and my family greatly but I just have days were I feel down and can't snap out of it. It doesn't always last all day either sometimes it's just a few hours then I feel better. Would be great to speak to people about this and who maybe feel the same. Kayleigh.
Its some kind of glitz in the fight ir flight response. Thats what i think. How and why it happens varies on many theories. Its difficult to live with but can be managed most of the time. Not all lol. It is a keep to yourself thing because only those that have experienced it can relate and people tire of hearing about it as well. It can be draining on others We all tend to need lots of reassurance but dont believe some of it anyway haha thats the anxiety disorder for you. Learning about it off utube or a book is important. Utube is easier to access and watch a few videos on it. Youll see what happens inside you during the anxiety, In a nutshell surrendering to panic attacks calms them down. Believing it will calm down works as well. Not feeding into it as it becomes the fear of fears works well too. So many weird things go on with this disorder. Here you can find comfort and maybe solace. Welcome to the forum.
Hi Kayleigh
I totally get you. I joined this site a couple of months ago as I have exactly the same feelings I have a massive phobia of the kids choking and when my youngest started full time school it all started again and everyday at dinner time I feel like hell. So glad you have come on here as I feel it helps sometimes just talking about it. You will be surprised the amount of people who do actually feel the same. Keep going and stand up to it I know it's easier said than done but yor doing so well. here if you need to speak xxx
Hi Kayleigh,
Have you ever had counseling? I've also had anxiety (fear of vomiting I initially) since a very young age. Now it's all anxieties about my kids. It does get you down eventually. I've had to take medication and go to counseling.
Does really help to talk to someone.
You're obviously very strong as you've dealt with this all yourself.
Xx
The thought of dying and leaving ur son and hubby would be a scary thought but I really feel you Shud share this with your husband. You can then feel your not alone in this ruminating.
You're ruminating cos you need the reassurance from those closest to you that even if you did, everything would be fine.
You gotta think that this thought, cos it's going round and round makes u think its actually gonna happen. The chances of it really happening is really low.
Perhaps these thoughts have come back cos u had similar fears about a loved one when you were 7 or 8 and it wasn't resolved back then?
No one is immune from dying but in the grand scheme of things it's a part of life and we should talk about it more.