Any other bladder "pinchers" here? (causes urge to pee)

I've had a sensitive bladder all my life and, sometimes, when stressed, I will, inadvertently, pinch on my it, the urinary tract, etc so much so that the whole area gets to be hard as a rock and causes the feeling I have to urinate -NOW.
I came down with a nasty UTI over Xmas (!) and thanks to antibiotics, that problem is over but some of the UTI symptoms still are living in my brain (!) basically its the urgency /frequency to urinate that is so unnerving. My anxiety is causing the tight muscle tension which then goes into bladder spasms. Ouch! Its totally tied into my morning anxiety as it starts to diminish in the early afternoon or when I'm able to distract myself. Basically, I can feel I am tensing up my lower abdominal/bladder area but 'am almost completely unable to stop doing it. Frustrating! I will try to relax the area, via meditation and exercise, but two minutes later I'm back "pinching" or tensing down there which leads to inflammation and then that gets into a cat chasing its tail scenario or what comes first the chicken or the egg?? The pinching - then the inflammation etc etc. I've read up about this type of anxiety related muscle tension and its definitely tied into the "fight or flight" response which, basically, describes anxiety, period! Even though I know exactly what I'm doing its really hard to break this syndrome. Anyone else out there ever experience this self induced muscle tension miserable situation or similar? One thing that offers relief it is if I can distract myself by going out or watching an engrossing movie or crime series, thereby, getting out of myself and into someone else's life and problems. I don't believe in taking any drugs - gotta just sort it out myself.
I'm not averse to taken a Valerian capsule (just started this) or having an IPA beer which always relaxes me but can't start doing that in the morning!! (!) lol. Thanks for any information!!

hi there
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i had this problem for years and years i kept getting bladder infections due to being so run down with health through depression i had the same problem only at night as soon as i layed in bed i told myself i needed the toilet it was hell finally i was diagnosed with intersitcial cystitis there is no cure i got a high bed and its helped a LOT once you turn that switch on in your mind that you need to pee its so hard to turn off i still get flare ups
i had a small op to stretch my bladder i wish i never had any more questions feel free to msg me

also dont drink too much water just drink enough it plays havoc on your bladder