Hello everyone....Im writing this post in hopes of finding anyone who has been through what i am going through and they have gotten better. Im 41 years old and about 6 years ago i started feeling very sick for no reason at all! Every time i would eat i would feel sick to my stomach, then the anxiety symptoms started.... i realized it all was happening the week before my period and during my period. Went to the dr for tests after missing three periods in a row and she made me feel like a quack! She said the tests were normal and just told me to go to a shrink and im too young for perimenopause, so i did i was told that it was perimenopause but meds may help so i was put on antidepressants which made things worse, I stopped the zoloft and now 3 years later my periods are every 60 days and i feel so sick all of the time! I cant eat, i dont have energy to leave my house, I now weigh 97 pounds cause im so sick i cant eat, i have headaches always around my periods and ovulation times....I really feel like im dying but nobody listens. Has anyone felt this bad with perimenopause but once you completed menopause the sickness went away? Im at the end of my rope here...I dont feel alive i feel like a zombie walking around in a sick body!
supposedly I’m POST menopause and this is when it all started for me. I felt nothing until now. So I guess to answer your question.. no it’s not necessarily going to end.. but everyone is different. I guess I’m actually lucky to have not felt all this prior to now.
Anyway,I have the nausea too..and have found that the exact opposite of not eating helps very much. When I start to feel sick, I eat something and it immediately feels better.
Thanks for the reply, unfortunately for me the eating makes it worse to where i will throw up if i even try to drink at times! I have to wait for the nausea to go away before i can attempt food or drink…my stomach always feels like im seasick if that makes any sense. Every month it seems to keep getting worse.
You absolutely need hrt! Nobody is too young for menopause! Find an expert to help you!
I was in the same boat a year ago and after a year on hrt I feel normal again! Hope it helps!
GOOD MORNING BRANDY,
I’m sorry you are going through all of this. its very difficult when you feel unvalidated by the health care community. The problem is is that when they dont have answers, they make you feel like its all in your head. If you can afford it, try a functional medicine practitioner. Also, you might need to get your gut in order. MOST of our medical issues start in the gut. Have you ever heard of DR Axe? He has a great website offering life changing products. He is a functional medicine guy. His website is draxe.com. Just know you are not crazy and that there is help for you out there, its just a matter of time and some research on your part as well as some trial and error. I have been battling this for several years now as I am now 51 and have been learning and researching and trying different products and eastern medicine approaches, some helpful and some not so helpful, but the best thing I have learned thus far is that if your gut is not healthy, neither are you. Hope this helps you even a little. Good luck on your journey to wellness.
Hi Brandy, welcome to our hell. I am 41 also. my troubles started 1.5 yrs ago. I was on birth control, then went off…lots of troubles afterwards. I feel horrible too. I have no words of wisdom right now…I can only hope it does not last 10 years. Some drs need to get with the times…women seem to be starting the change earlier. Anyways, you will find loads of support on here!
I wanted to add the weight thing…I was down to 100 lbs last year…weak and sickly from 115/120lbs. I had GERD and found it nauseating to eat, Please try to get the calories in. I drank shakes because I found eating so unappealing some days. my reflux issues are under control now…after a year I am about 110 now.
Thank you! I took the depo shot several years ago and a week after the injection i didnt feel “right”. I had never had anxiety or depression before but after that injection my periods always seemed a little different…fast forward to after i had my son and i turned 35 years old all hell broke loose! My life was not recognizable anymore, just so damn sick constantly, headaches, dizziness, ringing ears, fatigue, no sex drive, just a general feeling of not being well…i look into the mirror and i dont see my old self any more. It just makes me cry, the drs just keep saying its just depression but i didnt get depressed until after about 8 months of these symptoms with no relief! Then the drs make you feel crazy on top if it. I think all forms of birth control can mess up some ladies reproductive systems making peri and menopause worse than it should be…thats why i am so afraid to take hrt or bhrt, ive read stories where women say it helped then when they quit taking it their hell returned! To me that doesnt sound like a fix, just a bandaid
I an validate everything you just wrote. My fatigue is terrible…not sleepy…just have to stop and drop. I developed migraines 2 months after stopping birth control. anywhere from 3-10 per month. Now, I am off balanced all the time, weak, jelly legs, ears ringing. Barely drive, stopped working last year. I am close to being diagnosed with vestibular migraine and am on nortriptyline for the migraines…too soon for results.
Just started my period today…I am sooo dizzy…and I have to pick up my kid from school in a couple hours. So tired of feeling sick and scared. Never was this way…always strong, happy, independent.
I tried getting back on BCP last month…3 weeks in, 5 migraines. stopped them. Tried lexapro for 3 months, made my dizziness and head pressure worse. I was told I cannot try hrt until my periods are over completely and I am in menopause. Not even sure I want to go that route…heart disease in my family. We get showered with help from the medical community making babies…then tossed aside and called mental once peri/meno hits.
im sorry to hear of your suffering amd i can totally relate! When its at its worst i feel so scared cause literally feel like something horrific is wrong with me, but nobody can know but me. I never leave my house cause of this illness…simply cause i have no energy and i feel too sick to do so. My husband does my shopping for me, hes seen what has happened to me over the past 5-6 years and he doesnt think its mental. I have 2 therapist i have consulted with over the past 3 years and they both agree that it isnt mental and that it is hormonal. I think the drs should get with the program and realize that peri & menopause are debilitating issues that many women suffer with and stop treating us as tho we are nutjobs wasting their precious time. I applaud you for having the strength to push yourself to go out when you have to, my son is homeschooled so thankfully i dont have to worry about that. i just ended my period amd i feel just as sick today as i did the first day of my period, it just drags on. Ever since i took the Zoloft that was prescribed to me i lost my sense if taste! So now i have that on top of my hormone issue, i told the dr about that and she said that wasnt from zoloft, that sounds hormonal! I was like but you just told me im too young for hormone problems! Its crazy
Hi Lou,
Me again, Sorry to know all your suffers. I have been suffering almost same things like you. I had the same issue, worry about my weight lose. I am a skinny person, last year lost 15lbs because of overactive thyroid. A bit happy you put at least a little bit weight on. I wish I will. I had GERD too, since I take Slipper Elm, my symptoms gets better, wish it will disappear. Now I have ringing ear on my right side. One has ended another one comes!
Thank you, yes in my research i know all about Dr Axe and i did do a three months worth of organic eating! I completely eliminated gmos and i even cut out milk & milk products for a whole 2 weeks but after all that i still felt exactly the same. I even signed up for depression and anxiety workshops in case it was “all in my head” to no avail. I was told by a therapist it could very well be my pituatary gland not handling the hormonal changes and im starting to agree with her on that one. Thanks for the advice.
What we need girls… is an OBGYN it’s an older female that has experienced all this herself… How do we find that?
That would be nice wouldnt it, all the drs ive seen have been female cause i figured they would be more understanding…but they have been just as bad as the male drs. Ive seen obgyns and a regular practitioner, I even trued to get them to refer me to a endocrinologist since that is the specialist for this kind of problem but once they see nothing wrong with their standard cbc tests they refuse to do it
3rd time was a charm for me…my last 2…one was a female in her late 60s…completely non sympathetic told me to stick it out. next one was my age 41, she was nice, but left the practice soon after. My current is mid 50s…totally acknowledges I am in peri. tried going back on bcp…intensified the migraines. I have to see her again in January. The good thing is neither one of them said I was depressed,etc.
Hi Lucy! Oh yes! The ringing…it is enough to drive us insane! I completely understand. I got snickers and comments when I complained about weight loss. It is not easy to put weight on for some of us. It is very scary. My GERD is mostly under control now. Although, I still find it weird that I can eat a lot, not move around very much and struggle to keep weight on. I have always been thin though…after each pregnancy, I would get back down to regular weight. I know we chatted about thyroid stuff before…mine has been checked so many times. I will have them check it again at my next physical in Feb.
I just started 400 mg of B2 and 250 mg…for migraines… along with the med. I heard B2 is supposed to be good for energy…we shall see. I will let you know if I start doing cart wheels.
My naturopath who specialises in women’s health said that women who go through peri earlier generally tend to be the most symptomatic. She also said that there is often a period where these women’s symptoms are constant and don’t let up. This has been my biggest fear, I have vision issues and dizziness which has been constant 24/7 for nearly 2 years, but that has over this time got slightly better or worse, but is always plaguing me in one way or another. Its all very scary so I know how you feel.
It is so depressing knowing there isnt a light at the end of the tunnel, i dont know about you but it feels hopeless at times thinking is this my life forever?
Hi jenjen! did she mention anything about symptoms peaking when the end is near? I just do not know how much worse things can get. The least troublesome thing are my periods…they are pretty quick, light and 21-57 days apart. I feel awful for the ladies that have floods every month.