Ive been waking up with the "fear" and anxiety out of nowhere. I usually have to have a bowel move with it, and right afterward.the bowel move the anxiety.sets in full speed. I start shaking, trembling, and gets cold. The dr. said its generalised anxiety. Well i dont want this because it is horrible! Also, i have no appetite.and naseous in the morning. My.appetite usually increases in the evening. He gave me depression/ anxiety meds to take, he said it will help me.so i can get an appetite to eat and gain weight. Ive lost too much already, i dont want to lose more. Anyone ever had this experience or similar? And any experience with depression meds? I havent taken it yet, i am a bit scared too.
Hi Mary, that s me all over girl I get that Anxiety/Fear too thank God someone at last come on here and mention it.. I get as I drifting off or when I waking up all to familiar it comes and goes like something frightening you use to be scared to go to sleep fearing what will happen as you said its horrible...yes I too lost weight few years ago and that was not good for me because at the time I was 9 stones and went down to 7 stones was scary worrying and vomiting with a upset stomach, I went on depressions meds but they made my dry mouth worst so. Don't take nothing for the menopause I'm afraid when I come over I will get worst..so far over the years I have been going through it some symptoms subsided and I was able to feel confident enough to go back on the streets and mix with people, but m still going through the crap and looking over my shoulder for something to happen to me, so I know what your going through it will stop with time Hugs.
HELLO MARY, I STARTED WITH PERIMENOPAUSE SYSTEMS ALMOST TWO YEARS AGO. ANXIETY BEING THE FIRST AND WORST SYMPTOM OF THEM ALL! IT GOT TO THE POINT WHERE AT EXACTLY 3 AM EVERY MORNING ON THE DOT I WOULD WAKE WITH MY HEART THUMPING AND INSTANT FEAR, ANXIETY AND DOOM AND GLOOM FEELING WOULD OVERCOME MY WHOLE BODY. I THOUGHT I WAS LOSING IT! I WAS 45 WHEN ALL THIS BEGAN AND WILL TURN 47 IN FEBRUARY. I WANT TO SAY TO YOU I NEVER TOOK ANYTHING FOR THIS. DR PRESCRIBED ME ANTI-DEPRESSANTS AND ANXIETY MEDS BUT I CHOSE NOT TO TAKE THESE MEDS BUT ITS UP TO YOU WHETHER OR NOT YOU THINK THEY MIGHT HELP YOU. MAYBE THEY WILL AND IT DOES NOT HURT TO TRY. DONT SUFFER NEEDLESSLY IF YOU DONT HAVE TOO. BY THE WAY I AM DOING SOO MUCH BETTER AND IM NOT OUT THE WOODS YET BUT PLEASE KNOW IT GETS BETTER TRY AND KEEP BUSY EITHER WITH EXERCISE READING WALKING WINDOW SHOPPING YARD SALES. ANYTHING TO KEEP YOUR MIND BUSY. ALSO HAVE YOUR THYROID CHECKED OUT BCUZ SYMPTOMS FOR HYPO AND HYPER THYROID CAN MIMIC SYMPTOMS OF MENOPAUSE. HANG IN THERE GAL WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
❤ you guys Maria76995 and Olimari2013 , you have no idea how your words comfort me. Just when you think that your question is stupid or you think that you're the only one who.is experiencing this. That is why i love this forum, ive tried fb forum but this one is the best! It is better than medical experts because we are the ones actually living it. Maria, did the depression meds help at all beside giving you a dry mouth? You mention you are able to go back on the streets, dear how long you've been going through this?
Hi Mary, I did have this bad in the early am hours around 4 or 5 am, I would have to get up, I could not just lay there or it would get worse. And that grey cloud lasted until noon everyday like clock work ..I would get up make my food for the day because I can't eat much either so no processed anything, I would cook everything from scratch, and force myself to eat every 3 hours through out the day, I would put some laundry in , let the dogs out, clean my house, anything to keep busy, I would cry all the while doing it. And you know my peri/ me no started April 2016 so it will be almost 2 years, so I think it's letting up a bit for me, but definitely not out of the woods yet.. This rut of morning anxiety/depression hit me bad at about almost a year into peri, and lasted about 6 straight months, before easing up.. It was really bad and I really thought I was done for that is the way I felt. But something inside me and my aunt told me to keep pushing on and things will feel better, it wasn't easy but I did, and I don't feel nearly as bad as I did. I had overwhelming doom and gloom thoughts and I would cry and cry give myself migraines from all crying! You can do this your in the depression/anxiety part of peri, and I know it's not easy but if you keep busy, make yourself eat no matter what, and do your meditating, breathe, and do some of those apps online that you download for anxiety, you'll get through this part of it... P.M me if you need to talk to someone im here for you..❤❤
Yes, I wake up with anxiety around 5 am or so. I hate it because my mind starts going and just wish I could relax and sleep a bit longer. I don't think I have anything to really worry about so I don't know what the problem is. My appetite comes and goes which is fine because I wouldn't mind losing some weight. I think this is common because there are a few older ladies that I work with and they have problems with gaining weight. The one told me that she hardly feels like eating anymore.
Olimari for some reason i think it could be my thyroid. Ive had bloodwork done several times, the first time it was.good, second time, dr. noticed numbers started changing but in range but barely, third time, it had changed to hyper, fourth time, it was hypo, then last checked it was normal. So yes, thyroid seem to be messed up . Im going to request to have it checked tomorrow. I have a feeling that it ciyld be hyper now because of all the symptons im feeling. Im kind of know when its swapping based on all the symptons i get. The time it seem normal is when or if i get a period.
Like now, im very naseous and feel like throwing up. Ive never had the throwing up sympton before.
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Hi, Olimari, wow you sound just like me.. I started my peri almost 2 years ago, at 45 and I will be 47, in January a month before you, I too had all these terrible symptoms of doom and gloom, depression, and anxiety and all though it's eased up a lot I am not out of the woods either! It's to coincidental that all these strange symptoms happen to us women right around the same age , and it hits you like you just ran into a brick wall.. I woke up with it one Sunday morning and it hasn't left me yet! I just wanted to share how simular our stories are...take care.
Gypsy, i will pm you.
Hi Gypsy, yes been there and still sometimes still having this with out the Anixety/fear I think I would of been fine it has attack me in my bed, in the shops on the phone around people and I stop socializing because as soon as I am around people I feel giddy and weird and want them to leave and can't wait for them to get up and go...I having getter since this time and started slowly going out and about but not like how I use too I want the old me back with out fearing this or that,prayers to all of us going through this and with all my heart we all come out smiling again Hugs.
WOW! GYPSY YOU JUST DESCRIBED ME TO THE “T”. I STARTED ALL THIS MARCH OF 2016. BUT I TOO AM FEELING MUCH MUCH BETTER. HANG IN THERE LADIES WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Olimari I hope so that there's is end to this very soon I'm out of peri this month and with time everthing will ease up for us all bless you.
Constantly happens especially when I'm just sitting around or watching something stressful on TV. I feel old, ugly and fat too. I was just crying today because of these negative feelings. I watch these beautiful and perfect women on tv and get depressed knowing I'll never be able to look like that. I look at myself in the mirror and feel disgusting. I know people say, You're only as old as you feel. I feel like I'm 70 and I'm only 51. Watching all the young people with all their energy and beauty makes me green with envy. My depression and anxiety starts in the morning, leaves for a bit in the afternoon, then around 5 it gets pretty bad. Like another lady said on here, it's like it happened overnight. I keep praying my old self will return. I do take a 1/4 pill of Xanax when needed, but I put it off as long as possible. Thank you so much for being open about the anxiety part because so far that is my main issue day in and day out. Hugs!!!!!°
I know Laura i feel the same way, I was once this active person who loved to dance. Just yesterday, I had to turn down an invite I received over a week ago lefted on my voice mail. I dread calling back to say no i cannot accept this invitation to.dance at your.function because i am not that person right now. I looking fraile , I ve lost so much weight and cant seem to even stay on balance walking ...😓 I am 51 too Laura, but before I didnt feel or look like it. But this is only temporary Laura we must keep telling ourselves that. This too shall pass. That.d--n anxiety sucks ! If it wasnt for that i.dont think it would be soo bad. I do see improvement in other symptons but anxiety is.a bad spirit. But it has to.go too because nothing last forever. I dont know if you are a believer or not but what ive started doing is , i get a Bible scripture everyday and i meditate on it throughout the day. It helps me a whole lot! HUGS !!
Thank you Mary. I know I had many of the other physical issues the other women have discussed on here and those have finally started to subside. I got through them and started feeling a little better. Then one day it seems I woke up with this debilitating anxiety and depression and it feels like this will be the one to do me in sometimes. It feels endless to where I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. But people like you and another nice lady on here who I write to now and then seems to give me hope. If you ever want to write privately that would be fine. Thanks again Mary. 😊
Hi Mary, I have been going through peri for 8 years now and finish my periods next month..will,be in post at last..but I notice from June last year I started to feel better and some symptoms subsided but not out the woods yet though still can't nap on the Sofa like I use too waking up fuzzy eyes feeling weird..how about you what stage are you at with meno and how long think everybody timing is different when the crap ends.
Maria 8 years! Did you have severe symptons the whole time? For me, because I was such a busy person my symptons could have started sooner but didnt pay attention to them. But, when i did noticed it started last year at age 50 , nothing major.I couldnt sleep just wide awake at night, then a month before my bday it hit my digestion system and ever since one thing after.another. My mom and sisters was done at 52, I will be 52 this April. But my period is only skipping right now. I've always had an imbalance hormone problem and one ovary, maybe could be why im having such a hard time.
Hi Mary I did not think my symptoms were severe like some people hot flashes were mild to moderate I had no headaches lot of Frightening symptoms feel like something going to happen to me Loads of palpitations insomnia nigh sweating shaking feel bad and so forth..but come last year it all died down one by one but as I said still going through it so ever small I'm so glad I'm sleeping again not feeling drunk in the head I hated so much..well I'm waiting to see as next month in Post what's next in line enough enough especially if you had these symptoms in peri
By the way my mum and aunt had hysterectomies due to fibroids so I can't go by them..my sister finish at 55 I think she is finish with the crap now
Ive never really had a really huge problem with sleeping, though i do experience it at times. I've been having the lightheadness, dizzy and off balance for the past 3 weeks. Ive had it before for weeks at a time. I started feeling better yesterday, I called my sister crying and when i got off the phone i felt better. Its like God touched me. I woke up with the anxiety and oddness throughout the day but nothing like before. I am continuing praising God. Last week my Pastor prayed over 7 bottles of water and gave me to drink every morning for 7 days. I finished the last one this morning. I havent felt this good in a long time, its not the best but I'm still grateful. Maria, there is hope and nothing is too BIG for the Almighty.