Hi guys,
I don't want to go into too much detail on this one as it is quite personal and obviously there is someone else's personal information involved too. .. basically, I have feelings for a guy who has been very depressed in the past. His circumstances (not under his control) mean that he is going through a tough time at the moment and things are getting worse.
I have been advised by some people I trust not to start a romantic relationship with him due to the fact that both of us have been/are struggling with/treated for depression/anxiety.
Part of me feels the advice makes sense - I can freak out sometimes when he doesn't message back straight away if he has told me something's wrong. This part of me agrees with the people who have told me to leave things be and to just stay friends with him. A depressed person needs someone to bring them up, not someone else who already sees things in a negative light themselves. Could we contribute to each others' depression or anxiety and make it worse in an awful viscious cycle?
But then there's the other part of me, the part that has liked him for about 10 months now. The part that tells me to go for it because you never know what could happen in any relationship and that he's a good guy inside, not like some of the guys I have met before. This part tells me that surely if we both have suffered from depression we can only help each other as we could recognise the signs of the other person starting a depressive episode and make sure to get help if necessary before things got bad again.
So I guess I just want to hear your opinions/feedback now, is this a really bad idea, or does anyone thing it could actually end up being a positive thing for both of us?
Thanks,
anonymousgirl