I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now. We both got out of very long relationships that broke up painfully and were taking it slow, a day at a time, enjoying each others company and seeing how things would go. I think we really like each other and view each other as a long term prospect, but we are not quite there yet. Both of us support our exes and are still tied up with them in some way - my bf because his ex battles crippling depression and me because my ex is a recovering and relapsing addict. We're both around 35 and trying to put the pieces of life back together and find our way after our breakups.
About a month ago my bf had 2-3 red sores appear on his penis that he'd never experienced before. We got ourselves tested and he tested positive for HSV2 while I tested negative. We had been having unprotected sex fairly consistently till then. ore him, Before him, I had tended to use condoms most of the time during sex because I was prone to yeast infections and uti's with regular unprotected sex. He dislikes using condoms and preferred to use withdrawal while I kept an eye on my cycle and we used condoms when I was in a window around ovulation. I'd been tested after my last new partner, but he hadn't. I've read a lot about transmission and the virus, so my question is not about how we got it. Rather, I want to get opinions on whether the following request from my side is fair: Given a choice, I would rather not contract the virus. So until we decide on whether we want to make a go of having a long term relationship (moving in and kids and building a life together), I would like that we always have sex with condoms and that he be on antivirals. He has said he is not ok being on condoms forever, and I am willing to have sex without a condom after we decide we are committed to one another, but I would still like for him to use suppression therapy. Are my requests reasonable?