Hi,
just looking for some support. I am binge drinker. I drink on social occasions and more often that not parts of the night are always hazy. I dont drink on a weekly basis for the mere fact that i can not handle the anxiety and depression that comes with it. my partner is a recovering alcoholic so we never have any drink in the house. i just seem to go well with out drinking (could be up 2 months alcohol free) then as soon as i have a drink i find it hard to stop drinking…very rarely can i have a sensible drink…i kinda know i have to give up as i get so paranoid the next day…any advice out there? thanks
Considering your partner making a massive effort i think you should stop completely like i did. I couldn’t stop and always did binge drinking for many years. Google the c3 foundation and the sinclair method. It will be a great life. Trust me since i am sober for 6 1/2 years. Best of luck my good friend. Robin
I can sympathise as I’m a binge drinker as well and can’t stop once I start. I’d love to be able to go out and just get merry like I used to…but I can’t. I also have health issues which mean I can’t drink heavily. There isn’t anything you can do about it unfortunately. The fact that your partner is a non drinker is a good start. Go out and do other stuff. Alcohol really isn’t all that!
thanks i will have a look
yeah suppose some people cant drink and i am one of them…yeah need to
Does your partner feel the benefits yet of having given up drinking?
I’m not sure how long he’s given up for but can you see the changes in him for the good?
I think that if you can see the positives in him then this is the best place to start as you too could feel like him!!
It’s not easy but you have a great start as you will both be reading from the same page.
As daisyjo has said ‘alcohol really isn’t all that’ and by giving up with him, you already have great home grown support.
Keep us posted as to how you are getting on.
All the best
Claire xx
yes he has been in recovery for around 6yrs which is amazing…i see loads of positive changes…i think i need to try and see the bigger picture. my mental health suffers after the binges or nights out…i could be 5 days still analyzing the night…and beating my self up.
U r being very honest and u r definitely read for change…
yes i definitely feel like it is time thank you for your support
Yes, I can so identify with that. I used to feel mortified for the next few days not knowing exactly what I’d done or said. Even in an environment where everyone was drinking I just seemed to go that extra mile and get totally off my face and then, like you say, spend ages trying to justify to myself what I’d done. When people would comment about my drinking ‘You must have a headache this morning’ - ‘Here she is - can’t believe how much you drank last night’, it would kill me inside but I’d just crack a joke and not learn for the next time.
You can do this - I can honestly say (after 25+ years of heavy drinking) that I enjoy myself so much more without drinking. It’s not easy - I still feel like joining in and have just one glass of wine, but I know that it wouldn’t be just one. I keep asking myself, what’s the point of having one glass of wine, it’s not going to make me feel any different but it will put me in a position of having another one and then another, so I don’t have that first glass.
Easy to say, harder to do, but, I promise you, it will make such a difference to your life.
So well done for getting to this stage and huge respect to your partner for 6 years sober.
You have the support you need right there in your own home.
Grab it and use it and here’s to a new alcohol free you!!
Keep us posted.
All the best
Claire xx
Greetings- I can completely empathize with your drinking and with how you are feeling. I had a huge problem with alcohol myself until I began going to AS. I absolutely hated the thought of the whole AA thing but finally gave in and on September 13th I will have 6 1/2 years sober. I have a ton of new friends who love me and I love back unconditionally. we go to concerts, rafting, camping. Yesturday we had Fellowship day that is a potluck of delicious home made food, bbq and AS meeting at the park. Most of all sobriety has given me myself back. I lost who I was and now I am a sober, dignified women who holds her head high. I love AS now.
meant to post I love AA now.
Have not seen you here before Courtney and we are both sober for 6 years+. Me actually 7 years 8 months but i never went to the AA. Did i myself. Had 13 months old twins when i decided to stop and they are now 9. Never looked back
hi,
thanks for your support. yeah sounds like me taking it too far…yeah its never one with me either just cant seem to do that…yes i am very lucky to have a partner that doesnt drink make this a whole lot easier 
hi
thanks for reaching out. yeah i need to find my self again and leave the drink behind…i am lucky that i dont drink every weekend could be once a month but i go and get hammered…the emotional anguish keeps me away from it the month then i go out and do the same thing again…im sure if i kept on drinking that the time i go
without a drink would lessen
hello everyone, i can completely relate to how you feel, when i was reading your first post on here i felt like i had written it myself because i am EXACTLY the same. My boyfriend doesnt drink but he has never had a problem with alcohol he just doesnt like it.
However i do have a problem with binge drinking even though when i dont try it i dont miss it, but when i have a second glass thats it… there is no stopping.
this weekend i went on a work function at a resort, a company getaway for 2 days in France, and of course good french food comes with exquisite wine. The whole office group where drinking bottles and bottles of wine in each meal. I told them i dont drink alcohol and the where like: “Never?!?!!!” and kept on asking me when was the last time i had a drink and I lied to them and said like 5 years ago, but they kept asking me all of thee quewtions ans looking at me like i was an alien, and i just told them the alcohol mad me feel sick and naseus. I cant say i have a drinking problem at work.
My point is, it really pissed me off that i had to keep justifying myself as to why i dont drink. If it was about hypothetically dessert no one would have blinked an eye, but with alcohol it was constantly why why why?? Even after i explained myself they still looked at me weird.
Has anyone felt this way?? what do you do or say in these cases??? i dont know but it just really irritated me.
People are idiots Chesca. Ignore them
yeah 1 too many and 10 never enough for the number of drinks for me. I live in place where aa.is really strong. so grateful for no more horrible hangovers.
Courtney
Hi Chesca,
Yes you might as well announce that you never brush your teeth and never have a shower and you’d get the same reaction!!
I must admit that I still feel odd going out and not drinking but I am very fortunate in that the circles I socialise in they know me really well and don’t comment on me not drinking.
I think that because drinking is accepted as ‘normal behaviour’ when someone doesn’t drink for whatever reason then it does seem to raise an eyebrow or two.
You just have to stick to your guns and if asked again then just repeat the story that it makes you really sick & ill. Which in itself is the truth!!
I find it quite amusing watching everyone getting slowly drunker and drunker - I just remind myself ‘that used to be me’.
It won’t change people you don’t know keep asking as to why you are not drinking - it’s just that they have absolutely no idea what it’s like to deal with problem drinking otherwise they would let you be and not keep drawing attention to it.
All the best Chesca & a quick Hi to Robin!!
Claire xx