Evening fellow hippies,
I've not had such a good day today. I think not being able to do so many things has got to me a bit today. I look about the house and see all the jobs I would normally do without blinking an eye and I can't do even the simplest tasks. Also, I feel like everything has either got in my way or fallen over today and it's made me quite weepy. I'm not sure that this time around is healing as well as last time (but maybe I'm imagining this). I just can't seem to be able to straighten my leg very well either when standing although it straightens lovely when lying flat in bed.
How I feel has probably been exacerbated by the fact that it would have been mum and dads 59th wedding anniversary today. They both left me within 11 weeks of each other in 2013 and at the time I completely fell apart. I got through it and I'm doing well but there are times a girl could still use a cuddle off her parents.
Sorry for the whinge folks. I hope you all in hippie world are having a good day and are recovering well 😊
Hugs to you all.
Ali xx
I still have weepy days and I'm 12 weeks in. It's just frustration of not been able to do things you have always done in the past. It will come back you will see. If you feel weepy just put it on here and have a cry as you right it and it does make you feel better as everyone oN here are in the same boat. I have my appointment with the surgeon on the 2nd November to see if I need a hip replacement on my left hip and then I start all over again. So I do know how you feel and I'm sure there a lot more people on here too. You take care and you know we are here for you x
Ali 1..My dear girl.....I was weepy last night too..I spilt cat biscuits all over the floor after my sister had just hooved for me and leg aches too and yes I too think the place will quickly become untidy and messy..I know I know it doesn't matter..Re your leg my foot seems to spay over to the right and when I walk I look about 90!.
Whinge is good for us as there is always someone to answer. My bum really aches too does anyone elses?`
Love,
Ali 2
Hi Ali sending you a cyber cuddle.🙌Anxiety is horrible, I am still weepy even after march.I am a carer as well for my disabled Husband & he has mobility issues. And is severely sighted & deaf.It does take time and can take time up to a year.Tomorrow I am going for Jacuzzi,and next week I will have reflexology. This will keep me going.good luck regards Amanda P's where about do you live?
Ali 1
​I sent a post and it vanished..I feel weepy too as keep doing things and ends in catastrophe.
​Bum hurts and have to keep standning up...
​Chins up all hippies
Love,
Ali2 2
Oh sweeite, I'm so sorry. Yes, I know the feeling (we all do) of dropping things, seeing work and chores that we'd love to do. The frustration of it all. Surgery is for the best but as you already know, it takes you back a few steps before you see the benefits. I still at 6 weeks drop things and say "curse you, gravity! Why must you mock me!?" Also big hugs to you. My heart goes out to you on your parents anniversary. That is so tough, I have lost both of my parents too, celebrated my mom's birthday (she passed in 1999) during this hip surgery and it seemed to really hit me like a ton of bricks. Emotions run high while the body is healing and it has not been long at all that they've been gone.
Things are getting better. Don't be hard on yourself. My heart goes out to you Ali. Keep up the positive thoughts and do what you can. Pretty soon you'll be moving around like nothing ever happened.
Big Hugs xx
Oh Ali, I'm so sorry to hear this. You are so strong and heartfelt in your support for everyone that it's easy to forget that you too are recovering. I'm not in hippie land yet, but having weepy days when everything looks bleak and impossible seems to be part of a process that has to be gone through, just like the physical stuff. As you can see from all the replies, good wishes and hugs are coming at you from all corners. It'll never be the same as having hugs from your Mum and Dad, but nonetheless real for all that. Hold on, and I'm sure things will seem better before very much longer.
Angela
xxx
Dropping things - I watched my friend feed her dogs when she was only a few weeks post op. She used to just put her operated out behind her as she bent. I have done this from very early on and still do it now at 14 weeks. I can feed cats, pick up dropped things and clear things spilled on floor. I just bend with one leg. Yes, I have a grabber on every floor of the house but don't need it much anymore. I can even put on knickers without the grabber now. Can't manage socks without my sock assistance but haven't done that for at least a year.
Sarurday I cooked for 60 people and then danced at my daughter's party - yay!!
Youll get there, step by step.
Xx
Dear Ali
I have not even decided what to do about my hip yet,but I have weepy days too for no apparent reason.
Maybe a little cry now and then helps to relieve natural tensions.You have been through so much physically and losing your dear Mum & Dad too,no wonder you feel weepy sometimes.
I hope the loving messages on this forum are a help,coming from people who know what you are going through must mean a lot.
I wish you well and happy days,try not to mind the jobs you can't do,your own wellbeing is much more important and those jobs will still be there when you feel better.
Love
Joy x
Don't worry about crying we all go through it, I had a little session today as I was looking for something and I came across my daughter's birth and death certificate pinned together it little things like this that suddenly get you going, sadly Liz was a chronic alcoholic she died from severe liver disease she was only 40. If I lived near you I would of given you a big hug xx
Hey Ali!
I have read so many of your posts supporting others but sometimes even the strongest of us need support ourselves! I have only been on this forum for a week and am so happy to have found all you lovely hippies, we just have to support each other when we hit a low point and remind each other that these lows are a normal part of the healing process on our way back to normal! Love and hugs! G X
Oops...Bad emotional timing there...Lost my Dad few years ago...Cancer....
It takes a while I am not looking forward to the gap my Mum leaves, she is 84 now...
Just want her to carry on forever...
We are all there now we,. well most of us are over 50....
Hug from Me Ian+++
Ohhhhh i hear you and feel for you. As ive been told here. ..one day at a time. Every replacement is different. ...every op is different.... every recovery is different. Guess what...the mess will wait for you like an old friend. It won't run away. It loves you...same as it loves me. I look at my house from the waste down and think.... live with it or get someoneto help. One day at a time. Be kind to yourself
Ah Ali bless you a tough day . Sometimes you just having bad day so write it off as bad day and start again tomorrow. Try to think Happy thoughts of your lovely mum & dad hold them close to your heart . Tomorrow's another day . You will be fine don't be hard n yourself
Nite
Denise
Hi Ali,first of all let me agree with Swindon she says all the best things,I sometime think what's the point in me replying,but I wanted to support you as well,just write the weepy day off,you will be good,have a better day tomorrow,God Bless Michael.
Hi Ali , so sorry to hear you are down , sit back and think of all the comfort you have given to others, tomorrow will be better and today a memory,
Phil x
Thank you so much heather. Your kind message helps a lot.
I hope all goes well when you see your consultant. The best outcome would be that you don't need surgery but I suppose at least now, if you do, you know what a good outcome it can have.
Take care xx
Hi Ali 2,
Thank you for your kind words. I spilt my cat biscuits the other day but I didn't have to hoover them, Milo my ginger tom saw to the cleaning up job for me. I'm surprised he wasn't sick!
Things are looking a little brighter here now thanks to all of you lovely people.
Keep up the good recovery. Sending you lots of get well vibes.
Much love.
Ali xx
My bum doesn't hurt so much now but it did, big style. They've cut through the muscles there so will take a little while to recover.
Thank you so much for the hug Amanda. It is much appreciated.
I feel a bit soft now, reading what you and your hubby have had to endure. I'm not usually the type to fall apart but these things just creep up on you sometimes.
Enjoy the jacuzzi. I think it sounds just like what the doctor ordered.
Take care.
Ali xx