Boss is making me feel worthless and fearful at work? What can I possibly do?

Mental health
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Hey guys

I hope u r all well and good.

I am a 27 year old guy and have been in my first graduate jobs for the past 5 months as a surveyor.

As part of the job you have to work with your supervisor literally all the time. Once he is satisfied with your work they then promote you to junior then you work on your own with your own assistant if you get the idea.

At the beginning things were OK and I was in a reasonable position of communicating well with him and was progressing well. That was for the first 2-3 months and he wrote a good report for me to the hr manager saying he thinks I was doing great.

However soon after that as days are long and I am diabetic sometimes I made a mistake, which after that I discovered his short temper where he swore at me and shouts a lot.

Cut a long story short it’s got to the point where his tempers which escalate very quickly if I make a mistake, Haa began to make me scared as I am doing the job affecting my performance and work quality.

I really don’t know what to do as now I limit talking to him and can’t seem to find a way to get back in to a good relationship at all and feel just anything I say or do he will criticise in some way.

Trouble is if I speak to hr or managers in the office, to complain or seek a change they won’t understand as they think he approves of me and were ready to promote me. Now I am in a terrible mess and don’t know What the hell I can do? I can’t even talk to him anymore or barely.

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You don’t want to work for a bully. Look for another job.

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Hey Lester

Thanks for replying and realising the issue. Trouble is I like the job itself and at the moment I don’t have anything else lined up.

Also the office think I am progressing well and should be promoted but they don’t realise exactly what I’m going through.

If I were to tell them about any slight issue they also may take it the wrong way and I am really keen to progress if u k ow what I mean.

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Hi if you think this is bullying then it is not allowed in any workplace. If you can it would be better to have a quiet word with him and tell him how it’s making you feel. Hopefully this can be sorted out like this.

If not then my advice (having been through similar issues) is to keep records of what happens, the date, what was said and how, and most importantly how it makes you feel. Once you have collected a few weeks/months data then go over his head to his immediate manager and ask for their help.

The main thing to remember is it is not your fault. Bullies are proliferate in the workplace and they pick on those they perceive to be in a weaker position. They are very good at picking out victims as they have had a lot of practice. Chin up. x