Wondering if anyone has had established benefit from Prostate Massage Therapy. My husband has BPH of moderate nature and his PSAs are normal. Married 38 years, after a period of inactivity due to very painful hip problems, I finally am back in the saddle again, ready to re-kindle a very active sex life like we're 20 again. However, husband can't hold an erection hard enough for penetration. He has not ejaculated in a year or so, he says. ;)I am a medical professional but not in the male urological area. I read much about Prostate Massage Therapy. It is not widely talked about. The aim is the express prostate fluid separate from ejaculation fluid - in order to relieve congestion of the prostate, clear out crystals that may be blocking canals, any build up of minerals and other matter. I am developing a method of Prostate Massage Therapy for my man, which will be mutually beneficial. According to Harvard research, this is scientifically proven to be beneficial. Has anyone followed prostate massage therapy protocols and had success in expressing the seminal fluid followed by successful ejaculation this way?
I've read, I don't if its true, massaging the prostate can spread infection. I'd be interested in what you find out and how it works. How old is your husband? What makes you think prostate massage will help with erections?
Has he tried Viagra or Levitra or Cialis ?
I'm told that is a popular service offered by German sex workers.
Did the Harvard research include a controlled study?
I've researched this but found little in the medical literature, mostly anecdotal evidence and sales pitches for male prostate massage devices.
I discussed prostate massage with a world renown surgeon and cancer researcher. He found no benefit from it, but perhaps a homeopathic doctor might disagree.
I did try it but it only raised my PSA.
BPH and meds to treat it will produce both ED and RE
Have him try sitz baths. I am convinced the process of ejaculation does remove toxins that might accumulate in the prostate.
For many reasons my wife and I have had a virtually sexless marriage for 12 years. In that time my prostate has probably quadrupled in size and QoL has suffered
If your husband does benefit from massage please share with us
Wishing him the best, Michael
It sounds as if his difficulties were news to you. It seems you had been totally neglecting his needs due to your hip problems.
I ended up with ED after a botched Greenlight procedure for BPH left me extremely incontinent for two years. I found a new specialist who was able to clear up the scar tissue in in the area of the external sphincter, and then implant an artificial sphincter to control the leaking.Then, I found that I had ED, after being unable to consider sex for over two years. I tried Cialis with no good effect. Finally, when I went in for a routine check up, I had a discussion with his fellow about options. She prescribed Trimix, which is injected into the penis before sex.You are instructed to gradually increase the dosage until you determine the appropriate amount to inject. It works well for me creating the ability to have a good erection.You have to be careful to not go beyond the appropriate dosage, or you can end up with priapism.I've seen recommendations to keep pseudoephedrine HCL tablets on hand in case of priapism, and to take a couple if the erection hasn't gone down after a couple of hours. If it lasts beyond 4 hours, it's off to the ER.
Your man must be at least 58. You can't expect him to perform like a 20 yr old. Many factors feed into a man not performing so well as he gets older. Viagra should help with erections; can't comment re ejaculation but many on this forum end up with RE anyway. Why is it important to you?
Being practically bedbound and on morphine for almost two years kind of killed it for both of us. You know what I mean? ;)
Thanks for your reply!
He was on androgel in the past, as well as prescribed viagra, but that was more because he wanted sex on demand readiness. He was able to perform without all that long after that. I'm going to clinically check the current status of his erections and abilities, but he still is not willing. He's embarrassed I think. That's not a problem for me. We've gotten through much worse in our lives, so this is just the cream on the cake, if it is meant to be. HOWEVER, he DID look into a bag of goodies I've been creating to set the mood and assist in the process. So, he is curious. Today's delivery should be the penis pump, c-rings, remote vibrating anal beads (small) and a nice remote toy for me - which he can control. I won't try the prostate massage until I know he can at least ejaculate.
Looking forward to the challenge!
THANK YOU MICHAEL!
Having a healthy relationship for all these years has been wonderful. The sex part, even better. Now with age and age-related issues, sex is still a part of our relationships. I think my husband is embarrassed, so I'm going to try the talk to him first and then set the stage for a sensual but clinical approach. I wrote notes on this thread.
Many men have messaged me saying they have benefitted from it so much (and they are in their 50's and 60's, so I am watching the ages (my husband is 73).
Clinically, he can attain an erection that feels hard enough to continue, but then loses firmness prior to introduction. Could be performance anxiety too. So I will approach it calmly with him and see if he consents.
Let's hope!
Avoiding drugs. They can play havoc with your blood pressure and heart. Trying more natural routes first. He did try viagra in the past for sex on demand with me, so it is successful. However, he has a prostate issue to, so I would like to address both at the same time.
Thank you for your reply!
The ancient Chinese, Egyptians, etc.
Oh! They prod males' prostates internally for ejaculate in the animal breeding world.
Nothing new.
He doesn't have to perform AT ALL. ;) Trust me, I am a medical professional. "Let's explore and come to our own decisions" is all I'm getting at. I'll be calm and gentle and I'll do everything needed. Just relax and let me. He hasn't even agreed yet, and that is frustrating to me. At least give it a chance and let's close this chapter in our lives. He did look at the goodie bag I started and made a couple of comments. Today's shipment MAY be the deciding factor.
Let's hope!
Why did your hip problem/replacement take so long to be done?
4 university-trained, well-known orthopedists failed to diagnose the problem. 1 in 30 cases only appear as KNEE PAIN ONLY. The 5th opinion = BINGO!
Viagra was developed for the heart but I preferred Cialis due to its longer window and its help in urinating. Many cardiologists take the daily Cialis for its cardiac benefits.
Even Frankel ??
I had perthes disease of my left hip as a child. My mother was told that I'd be crippled with arthritis by the time I was 35 as the consultant himself was. I'll be 85 soon and get mixed messages about my hip. It only troubles me slightly a few times a year. One said it looks terrible on the X-Rays but your movements and walking are all right. Another said if I did a hip replacement you would come back and tell me it has not helped the occasional pain and stiffness you get. Now though a different problem prevents me from walking. I was prescribed Cipro and Fluoroquinolones for prostate infections three times and although each time I stopped them within about three days due to tendonitis I ended up with Fluoroquinolone Toxicity Syndrome. Of course that cannot be proved.
" Clinically, he can attain an erection that feels hard enough to continue, but then loses firmness prior to introduction. Could be performance anxiety too " Someone posted a similar problem here or on another Forum. His wife encouraged him to seek medical help and he was sent to an NHS clinic. He had a lot of tests and talked his problems through with a therapist. It was suggested that it was because he no longer found his wife attractive that he was losing his erection and They said they could provide him with a surrogate. Furious he stood up and declared ' I love my wife ' and stormed out.