I found a breast lump on wed just gone, saw doc thus morn she's ref,me to breast doc,she told me it was Size of large marble, I'm scared as my mam had breast cancer 5 yrs ago, what do I do if it is breast cancer. I am scared, and I need advice very badly, can any one help I'm 43yrs old
I know it's hard not to be scared, I've been in the same position as you by finding a lump and having to be referred to a breast clinic. More often than not it is either a blocked milk duct, a cyst or a fibourus odeama. Please though speak to friends and family, they love you and will listen and give you the hugs that you need. Sending you a virtual hug and the very best of luck, let me know how you go on xxx
Thanks Julie, but it's difficult to tell my family, as at this moment my mams I'll and in hosp, she had breast cancer 5 yrs ago and has been ill ever since, so I dint want to worry them unnesseraly, I've told my aunt and have spoken to a friend and asked then not to say anything to my family.
Hello Elizabeth
My heart goes out to you.
I had two breast cancers removed and treated two years ago, so I am very able to understand the place that you find yourself to be in now. The first was discovered at my first routine mammogram, aged 52. The wait for the biopsy results was the hardest time I think I have ever had to endure, until then, anyway.
What do you do if you do have cancer? Well, firstly try to find trust in the people looking after you, and then go with whatever is suggested. Stay away from 'Dr Google'. Establish a support group of people around you that you can rely on, for lifts to the hospital, for example, time out, and lots of hugs. I think, most importantly, it helps to keep as positive an attitude as you are able to, while allowing yourself to be as tearful as you jolly well want to be!!
Still, despite your family history, there is no reason to suppose at the present time that your lump isn't benign. Well done for finding it!
The organisation that I found most helpful was breast cancer care uk. Their number is easy to find on line, and they offer loads of advice and information, plus during office hours, someone to talk to who has been trained to speak with you, and has also suffered from breast cancer, or has a partner who has. You may find them to be very helpful prior to you appt. with the breast surgeon, too.
I know the fear that you describe so well; hopefully it will turn out to be unfounded, but if not, somehow you will find it in you to cope, and battle on.
Oh, and another bit of advice, if the worst turns out to be the worst, try to get as many people as possible onto e-mail, as answering the phone umpteen times a day, and saying pretty much the same thing each time is terribly wearing. This was sound advice given to me by my very dear neighbour, who had lost her husband from mesothelioma the year before.
I shall be thinking of you ... and sending love through the ether. In a minute I am going to put some sheets on the line, as it is sunny and a little windy, and because it is something that I (perhaps oddly) love to do. All that time, I shall be asking nature to be kind to you.
Take care
M x