Hi everyone :-)
I am throwing these few topics out to the forum, as I was wondering who actually counts their calories each day? do you think you are honest with yourself when you are adding them up, even when using "My fitness pal"?
Who attempts exercise and how often? what type of exercise and for how long? Have you managed to remain active despite you size, or has your size/health hindered you?
Why do you want to loose weight? How do you feel it would change your life? Are you loosing it really for you, or are you doing it for someone else?
What do you usually do to stay in control when you have an "off" day & do you like yourself as a person on your "off" days?
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Good morning lovely,
Ok, I dont count calories, never have done, I do the fat thing, if you dont eat fat you dont get fat, thats my thinking lol.
I dont exercise the thought brings me out is a very cold sweat, having said this, I am on my feet daily and as I lose the weight I move around quicker. Its not a size thing for me, for not exercising I just hate it, No not because I am lazy if anyone thinks that, I just hate exercise never found any enjoyment it, oh hang on tell I lie there is one exercise i do love, but thats for a different site lol 
hahaha
Why do I want to loose weight, other than health reasons I hate what I see in the mirror, I dislike finding clothes that I want to wear, not being able to buy cheap clothes of the peg.
To stay in control, I think about how I would like to be, get my thin clothes out and tell them I WILL get back into them. The fear of side effects to the blue bullets. I now do a pause moment before reaching a out to a questionable food item, do I want it? do I need it? is it worth? having a pause moment helps me regain control.
Hun, at the moment I dont like myself if I am having a good or bad day. I lost all my weight three years and I am back to where I am and doing it all over again. I did this to myself.
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hi
i dont count calories as i pretty much just eat the same thing every day so i know what im taking in. and im keeping it all 0 or low fat if i can, i run on my tread mill every day for 30 mins and that is all i do. as im office based i do sit most of the day. its seems to be working for me so far altho it has slowed down a little. x
Hi Daisy,
I do use MFP although sometimes i forget.. but i eat generally the same stuff so i know how much it all is plus i double check the packets when i log it all on MFP because sometimes the cals etc are wrong.
I do squats and since last week have been doing 220/250 a day my job involves sitting and driving although i walk when i can plus when i go to Suffolk each week i go for 7+ mile walks on the beach plus walk on the other days that i am there.
I lost weight because i wanted to start a family i did get pregnant twice last year but sadly lost both babies. I also wanted to lose weight because i was sick of breathing like Darth Vader and wearing a size 24
I was the only fat one in the family which made me even more self conscious. I am losing the weight for me although the fear at the start of could i do this? i really didn't want to let family/husband down i think that the fear and guilt keep me going...
Off days- generally i still feel like a size 24 and more i just cannot get into my head i have lost all this weight everyone thinks i am insane but once you have been fat you are always the 'fat one' inside hopefully one day i will wake up and realise! people can't seem to understand what i mean. I find myself comparing myself to women who are quite clearly 23+ stone seems crazy written down..
People tell me to stop talking about when i was obese but it was a big part of my life they just say get over it your not that now - i wish it was that simple.
Have a lovely day
Britney
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Britney, I am really to hear about the loss of your two babies, I can empthaise with you after suffering a few miscarriages withone being nearly full term.
When I lost my weight previously, I could not get used to being slim, and it would take me off guard, when I went into clothes shops i would go into the plus section etc. So I really understand where you are coming from there.
Why should you stop talking about the beauitful bigger you, it was a part of you? If you dont want to let it go then dont my lovely, not until you want to.
Hen Hugs x
Good morning Precipitusdaisy 
Personally, I'm not counting calories. I've dieted on and off many, many times and so know averagely what is a healthy amount to eat to still lose weight and I have sooo much weight to lose that even if I go over slightly, I should still lose weight. Having said that, a few months down the line when the weight loss slows down then I might count calories to ensure I don't go over. But, this is the first time in my life that I have just eaten three meals a day and not snacked. I have always been a `grazer' a nibble here, a nibble there...
I go swmming twice a week and walk the dog only. Hopefully more exercise once walking isn't so painful.
I'd like to lose weight so I can fit back into society again. I find that people don't want to befriend a large person, making new friends is nigh impossible. People see me as thick, out of control and ugly I suppose. I have to work soo hard to get people to see past my weight and I'm pretty fed up of having to do so. Society just doen't accept obesity. Thank goodness I have some fabulous friends who stick by me whatever... I also want to lose weight for my health. I don't want to be a prisoner of my own body anymore.
I don't count calories but I do look at the calorie and fat content of certain foods before I buy them - if I think they are too high I will choose something else. For me, calorie counting every single thing I eat would take any enjoyment out of eating, I'm just happy knowing that the foods I've bought are all below 5g of fat and not particulalrly high in caloires. I will measure out what I think is a reasonable portion into a bowl or onto a plate and eat that - I won't pile the plate up or have seconds. Most of my lunches are just salad so I can fill myself up on that without worrying too much that I'll be piling on the lbs.
I'm just entering my fourth week and whilst I've lost a stone so far I know the weight loss might slow down so I'm introducing cardio and weights. My husband and I have quite a bit of gym equipement we've purchased over the years but haven't used very much so we spent the last 2 weekends sorting out the garage and have made space to set it all up. Going out for my first workout session in a minute. 10 years ago I was gping to the gym at least 4 times per week, doing 2 exercise videos every day and also did 500 sit ups per day (not all in one hit). I looked quite different back then - 8 stone lighter with a 4 pack!! I'd like to get back to that sort of fitness but realise it will take a while to build up.
I want to lose weight so I feel comforatble and so I can fit back into all my size 12 clothes. I want to be happy with the way I look and look nice in photographs. I also love swimming and watersports but there's no way I'm putting a swimming costume on until I lose weight so at the moment I'm missing out on doing things I really enjoy. We got married last summer and are going on our honeymoon this November (slightly overdue but really looking forward to it) so I want to lose weight for that. I also don't want to be the fat person on the aeroplane or feel that my arms are encroaching on the arm space of the person sat next to me! I put on weight through illness so I want to get rid of it. I don't want to be the fat girl and I also want to have a baby and my GP thinks my weight is preventing that at the moment. I also know it's not healthy for my body to be so overweight. I wasn't able to remain active over the past few years because I was really unwell and the weight piled on.
At the moment, I am allowing myself a treat at the weekends but in moderation - I haven't had an off day since being on these tablets and the weight loss so far has been really motivating. I just think of the end result, wanting a baby which is really important to me and our honeymoon in November. I want to be able to go swimming and relax on the beach without being so self conscious about the way I look. That's enough to keep me motivated right now.
I try a rough calorie count and I am honest about it, but it's not very accurate, for example, dinner at the in-laws tonight, I will have to look at the plate and guess the calories!
I try to do quite a lot of exercise although I have a 2 year old who will not go to bed at the moment. I do exercise classes like body combat and pump and I also run. I run 30 mins or so, and exercise classes are 1 hr. I also do exercise dvds at home when I have chance. I do a lot of walking and cycling at the moment too having had to stop driving earlier this year, but I find it's only the hard cardio that works for me. Itching to get back to martial arts too for the flexibility.
I have found the exercise hard sometimes, particularly after having my daughter. My weight meant I had bad spd in pregnancy and she pushed a rib out, so I had to get back into it slowly. Also, knee and back issues not helped by weight.
My biggest battle at the moment is depression - weight doesn't help and I've had to overcome binge eating. When I have a bad day, it is the hardest internal battle to not eat. I can only focus on what I can't eat, not what I can. I don't know how I get through, I just seem to. Sometimes I give in to a diet coke to give me that sweet fix.
Motivation - I can't look at my own wedding photographs as they disgust me. I can't be that person any more. I have high bp and I'm at real diabetes risk with insulin resitant polycystic ov. syndrome and just have to do something. Also, just can't risk another pregnancy unless I can lose weight.
feeling hungry now after my cous cous and cucumber for lunch - lol
Good morning hun x
I dont count my calories either, I kinda know roughly what they are, but suspect that if I did count them I would have far better results in my weight loss. I am quite stubborn by nature, hate being told what to do, even if its in my own interest! so "I cut my nose to spite my face"
I dont wish to become bored with it all, which is why most diets failed for me. Its going to take a while to drop all my weight, so I have to remain upbeat about it.
In the past I would always keep myself fit and loved dancing. I used to enjoy my aerobics classes so much, it was such a giggle and I really enjoyed the music in the classes too. Hoping to return to classes next month :-)
I too have my slim clothes in the wardrobe and about 60 pairs of shoes I can no longer walk in! Shoes are my thing! I am confident I will get back into those clothes again, but am very concerned about loose skin after weight loss, so dont mind loosing the weight slowly.
I do have "off" days and 99% of the time fight them, but last night I succumbed to a left over sausage! 
But I will get over it.
It makes me sad to hear you dont like yourself at the moment hun, many of us have dropped our weight to regain it again! I lost 4.5 stone last year by drinking juice for 60 day. I felt great but the minute I started eating solid foods again it crept back on!
I think we are all educating eating habits with Oristat. I like who I am, but dont like what I see in the mirror, but it will change for me and it will change for you too!
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Morning Mr Turvell :-)
I kinda eat the same foods each day too, it does not bother me one bit. When weight loss slows down, I think its good to mix it up a bit and have something different, but if its not broke dont fix it!
The very thought of running on a treadmill fills me with horror, I'm not the right shape for it! lol x x x
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Wow Britney! Thats a lot of squats, your thighs must be rock solid and a bum to die for!
So sorry to hear about your miscarriages, I have had a couple myself, cant seem to carry girls :-( But have two lovely grown up sons and hope to have a Grandaughter one day :-)
I will get this weight off and shall never ever allow this to happen to me again, its soul destroying, not to be able to wear nice things without looking like a whale!
Hugs & a big thank you for inspiring me x x x
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Good morning Lilykins x x x
I 100% agree with you about large people not fitting in with society, its good you have friends that can see beyond your size.
Our health should be paramount, its not going to be easy, but all good things are worth working for and waiting for! You have us guys on the forum to turn to for extra support should you need it.
Have a lovely day Lily x x x
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Hi 5ummer :-)
I read your touching reply and felt quite teary, because I know where you are coming from :-) I hope and pray you will get your little bundle of joy, what better motivation can there be!
I think its important to have the odd treat, especially if you have a fair amount of weight to loose like I do. I feel if you deprive yourself you are more inclined to have a melt down.
Hope all is goes well with your house gym, I'm not one for using gym equipment, but hope to start Zumba classes next month when my house guests have left. The fat is becoming quite loose on me know and its quite scary!
Have a great day x x x
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Roodles!
I take my hat off to you for the amount of exercise you do, you put me to shame! but I am guessing you are much much younger than I :-)
I attended martial arts classes around 15 years ago, got to brown belt, my brother is a 2nd Dan!
Depression is a bugger to get over, I hope you have support with it? Have you ever heard of "The Big White Wall"? Check it out, its a support group with therapists and members, maybe it can help a little x x x
I know what you mean about wedding photos, I am "supposed" to be getting remarried this year and keep putting it off, I dont want to be fat in my wedding pic's! Maybe when you drop your weight you can have a new lot of photos taken, I am sure family and friends will be happy to oblige when they see the new you!
You are on a very special mission Lily....Focus on that little one! x x x
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Thanks - I'm kind of on a martial arts break until my little one is big enough to come along. I'm a 3rd dan and my hubby is a 5th in one and 3rd in another - my daughter can already use nunchucks at 2yrs :-)
Depression and anxiety is frustrating - been well over 2 years this time. I keep having really serious medication reactions - passing out at work. I'll check out the big white wall - thanks for that. Need some extra support I think. Weight loss will help.
Thanks x
Ha Daisy i wish! but i am aiming for that but a girl can dream
Thankyou 
Sorry to hear of your losses it's a club i never thought i would be part of and never wanted to join so i guess you could say my journey has been a bittersweet one.
Your not a whale blimey and you will do it!
Me inspiring? who would have thought :D x
Brit
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Hi PinkHen
Thankyou x sorry to hear of your losses too. I count myself as 'Lucky' that they ended when they did i wouldn't be able to cope if i had a late loss i am sure you know where i am coming from.
On a lighter not i agree i find myself picking up size 22 dresses i don't know i always feel someone is going to say how can she be a 12?
Thanks Hen i know one day i will have to stop talking about it one day but being big was a huge (pardon the pun) part of my life i just hope my brain catches up with soon so i can realise how much i have actually lost.
Have a good Day
Britney
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Well yes, as much as I want to lose the weight as quickly as possible, I don't want to be left with loose skin so I think the exercise and body oil is going to have to be a regular part of my routine.
How much weight have you lost so far?
Hi, I count my calories everyday as well as fat content, I've stopped taking orlistat now as my mind has been trained not to eat junk- is rather starve lol my target is 1300 calories and I rarely get to it
I excersise everyday, and have gone from not being able to walk up the beach stairs to walking 3-5 miles every day, I also bought an electric treadmill for when I'm home and I use that everyday,
I'm desperate to change my lifestyle, as I hate who I've let myself become my confidence is growing again already.
I don't have 'off days' I want this too badly to cheat, I've changed everything in my kitchen to a healthier version ,
No one should let themselves be hindered by worrying what people think about them wobbling up the road.. The more you do it the faster the weight will come off!
Shelagh xx
Daisy, in your photo you don't look overweight at all! X
Can you send me your blog please x