can i beat this and be happy ???

Mental health
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Well here goes ... im 28 years of age from the uk and my anxiety is basically ruling my life

And i don’t know what to do anymore.

Does anybody feel like this on a daily basis???because this is me everyday.

So scared to answer the door when people knock?

Scared of answering my phone to numbers i don’t recognise

Scared to go to the shop which is literally 10 seconds away from my house , and even

When i pluck the courage up to go i pray that im gonna be the only one in there so i go straight in

And out , and the small talk and eye contact is a total nightmare.

I make sure if i have to have my hair cut that im there real early so theres not many people

About and once again straight in and out.

Going to the doctors and being in the waiting room. The list can go one tbh

Guess what im trying to say is that im a nervous wreck , i never used to be like this , i used to be happy , outgoing , confident and bubbly etc ..... i just don’t know how it came to this , i feel like

Theres a constant black cloud above my head day in day NOT out etc.......

Sorry for going on so long , i just dunno what to do and its sad really because i know theres

People out there with worse problems i guess.

I even deleted my facebook because all i kept seeing is people posting pics of family , holidays

And all nice stuff because it depressed me ... yeah i know that sounds selfish but im a really nice

Person and would do anything for anyone.

Anyway im rambling on .... anybody out there anywhere that has beat these beasts ?????

Thanks

Oh yes and im on mirtazapine and beta blockers , maybe i need the right meds for me

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for some reason it has but gaps between sentences , im new so i apologise

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Hiya,

What do you think caused the anxiety to start?

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i really dont know , i wish i did and then i could start from there , all i know is , is that ive felt

this for a really long time and its slowly creeped up getting worse and then to severe ... i basically

feel trapped

thanks for the reply by the way

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think back to things which happened to you maybe things which made you feel sad? Did you feel alone, asolated, break in job?

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When anxiety is severe relax and tell yourself worrying achieves nothing, worrying will solve nothing,think of a good place,somewhere you've enjoyed ,felt happy and safe.

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my last job i had , i was a great worker , i always have been , got my head down and did my job

etc ... but i would even spend more time in the toilet at clock off time just so i didnt have to que up to leave

and engage in convos , my face goes bright red.... i never once sat in the cantine for lunch , i would sit

outside with the older guys etc... this was a great company and then i had my breakdown ... they gave sick

pay and was sending me get well soon cards but i couldnt do it , and ive worked ever since leaving school.

i know worrying achieves nothing , but its like its in my nature now ... as though its normal

thanks for the replies

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Hi

Have u Ever been to talk to someone about your anxieties.

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hi lydia

yeah i did cbt , but nothing worked with that and was hoping it did , ive spent money buying books

on depression and anxiety , downloaded apps .... even being on here is making me anxious .... i just want

to feel human again

thanks for the reply , i dont know why it is putting gaps between what i write

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Hello

You are not the only one barreling thus, I have been like it since September, I am 25 and can't bare the thought of being alone, I have a fiancé but he doesn't understand what I'm going through, I'm an only child and my mum died 7 years ago and then my dad 4 years ago, I did my grieving for both of them as we were very close, and had anxiety prior to this, I have been fine for about 2 years my normal outgoing bubbly self, getting up going to work, but ever since the end of September Iv turnt into a nervous wreck, my symptoms are, nausea, shaking, depression, toilet troubles, loss of appetite, dizziness, sweating, suicidal thoughts, it's bloody awful, I currently take 40mg of fluoxetine and 300mg of pregabalin but Iv seen no changes in taking these, I am going back to see my Gp

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Most of us in same place so don't worry sf , all friendly and helpful on here. On the same dosage of fluoxetine with up to 60mg of propranolol which I find takes away physical symptoms.

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hi hollie , sorry about your parents , i cant imagine how it was to go through that .... im currently living

at my parents and my dad has cancer and i hate seeing him taking loads of pills and oramorph daily ,

my mum , dad , 2 sisters are basically the only friends i have .... sometimes i feel pressured by my sisters has they want me to go out and meet someone .... i cant do that , im not happy within myself so whos gonna want to be someone like me , and i wouldnt at the moment anyway....all your symptons are familiar with me and my sleep is horrible , hope you feel well soon

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hi rick , appreciate your replies and everyone elses , i even feel on edge writing on here as though im gonna be judged etc

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No one will judge you, I'm the same at times, depends how I feel but a chat can help I find.

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Goodnight all , chat tomorrow maybe, sleep well.

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thanks rick , im gonna get my head down too .. chat soon i hope

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Ok sf take care

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Have you tried going to a group for people who feel like this in London I know a good one could put you in touch if you like

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SF My heart goes out to you. We in the forum are here for you. No need to apologize for anything. Have you seen a psychiatrist or psychologist? Having a professional to speak with might help to root out the cause or causes of your extreme anxiety. A dear friend who suffered through years of anxiety while taking all kinds of psychotropic medications has been on mirtazapine for the past couple of years. She said it has changed her life. But everyone is different so sometimes to find the right medication we must go through triasl and errors. . Psychiatrists in the US are able to prescribe medications but psychologists and other therapists are not permitted to do so. MD's are also able to prescribe but I think psychiatrists are better about analyzing the causes of our fears. Good luck. I'd like to see you "starting fresh" on a happier life.

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Hi guys I am very new to this, I can't tell you how much I can relate to this is so many ways.

I have the most amazing fiancé and I can't seem to get over my anxiety it's ruining our relationship, he does nothing wrong and I'm always so suspicious ! I had a panic attack a few years ago when I was in a pressured job but after a few weeks I was back to normal and ok again. I am a very outgoing person I work in sales, I don't have the problem with going out but I think that's because I can put on a front of being happy when I am customer facing all day.

I have just been prescribed 50g of streamline but was unsure if I should take it, I started to take Kali's and this seemed to help so I stopped and went back to my normal crazy self ! My imagination runs wild and I am convinced everyone is out to get me, if anyone offer any criticism to me I take it as a personal attack.

I also want to be normal again and not to have this black cloud over my head, my finance doesn't understand and just thinks I'm looking the plot. I just can't explains how I'm feeling inside but I also feel like I just dint know what to do !!!

Can anyone help ?