I feel so terrible for having to cancel my 3 week trip to Europe but the way I’m feeling... ok one day then unable to leave the house the next .... it’s just not worth chancing it. The trip may actually improve my mood but to be 6000 miles from home with all these symptoms ... not worth it.
This surely is an ILLNESS ! And definitely not in our minds .
If anybody can make me feel better 😪 if you’ve had to cancel events .. or anything important please respond !
What are your symptoms? How old are you? I feel your pain.
I totally agree with you it's not in our minds it's a illness they can't fix in my opinion and we suffer,I'm due to leave for vacation this Saturday and I'm scared I won't be able to take the heat with all these symptoms. Fl is so much hotter then it is here where I live. The heat gets to me here I don't want to go and be in hotel room all day everyday I been debating backing out. Thing is my family has suffered enough of me cancelling trips and things and staying home. So I know how you feel about feeling horrible with all this and can't t enjoy our lives
I backed out a trip to Ca just recently.. Just feel tired and not with it most of the time!! Sorry you canceled your trip and hopefully you'll feel better and get there soon.. I think if you go with relaxing calm people you should be fine, I'm not one for a busy itinerary either.
I didn't cancel an event, but was away from home and went into complete panic over the way I was feeling.
I began to have wobbly legs, get light headed, nausea.
I stayed in my hotel room until it was time to fly home; and I had to delay my flight because I was afraid I would get sick on the flight home.
I thought I was getting the flu, but never got sick.
After returning home, and much research, I realized these symptoms were perimenopause.
That part of the perimenopause is ended for me, BUT I still have all the bad anxiety/depression.
Right after that trip is actually when I found this forum!!
Although I still feel terrible, at least I can read these posts to know I am not alone.
I just turned 51 and have dealt with these feelings for 3 years. Therapy and antidepressants help, however the ups and downs continue (emotionally). Today was one of those days. Finally forced myself out for a long walk. Did help ......
Anxiety and depression are the worst of it. Just have to trudge through it....which is really hard, at times. No magic fix. Hard work...
Yes I went to Santa Fe 2 months ago and that’s when it ALL started ! Thought it was the altitude and drinking wine at night .. it was the bloody peri !
I sat in my room until 1pm went out for 2 hours then had to get a taxi back to the hotel
As was feeling absolutely awful!
I’ll be on my hands and knees praying again tonight ! Feel like I don’t own my own mind !
Hi Lori
I nearly cancelled my cruise this year, and not so long ago very nearly didn't go in a trip from UK to florida. I've regularly backed out if things - meetings, school events, social events etc and it sucks! I think you did the right thing with your trip and I probably would have done the same. Much better to go when you can have the kind of holiday you deserve. Don't beat yourself up about it though, only you and this forum know how crippling this can be. Maybe just start small for now xx
Hi
I am In perimenopause and I do feel your pain you just don’t know what will hurt or how you will feel I went to the outer banks at the end of April and honestly my symptoms didn’t really bother me while I was away strange but my husband knows how it’s day to day moment to moment but I was actually looking. Forward to the vacation and was excited for it! And when we had to come home I wanted to stay lol!!!! I think it will be a good thing for your body and mind good luck and let us know if you decide to go there are times I just push thru I don’t want perimenopause to ruin my happiness
Yes, I did go out of my room on that trip to get some ginger ale and saltine crackers.
Then I went right back to hope I would sleep it off.
I was most worried because I was so far from home, and of course the more I panicked the worse I felt.
I also suffered from postpartum depression. The anxiety and depression part of this are identical to how I was feeling then.
Yes.... I agree. Emotions can change in a flash. The blue sky eventually re-emerges, when you least expect it. In the meantime, know that you are not alone. Peri can especially magnify existing “issues”.... which had been previously dormant, or minimal.
Hi Lori...
I truly understand and can empathize because I have been where you're at emotionally. We just feel drained most days....trying to ride this stupid peri rollercoaster and not get flung off it!
For the past 3 summers I have considered cancelling plans. my kids and hubby wouldn't let me so I went. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to stand the heat, afraid I might get sick, might have anxiety attacks, etc. But you know what? I planned my itinerary so I would have "cool down" breaks if needed. All that walking and looking and interacting with other women who were in similar "place"..( we can spot each other)..all that took me out of my own head and body. When I looked back I was glad I had gone.
I was just trying to rethink this year's and my daughter said " Mom, don't start...you're a teacher and you need the break". So..I say all this to say no one would blame you if you cancelled, we understand. but I say try and go. I think it will help you forget this crap for a little while.
Hugs!!
I have heard it is similar. Our hormones are in a state of flux. Just remember, we are NOT our thoughts and feelings. Watch as a passive observer and just accept. Meditation also helps.
Hi Amalie
It started about 3 months ago not being able to get out of bed until the afternoon then I went to Santa Fe and spent most of the daytime in the hotel room but was ok at night which I hear many people say ? They’re ok at night ?
After that trip was just so dizzy doing my run
And many days of just complete fatigue .
Ended up in emergency 2 weeks ago as almost passed out at the store . I can only do errrands if my brain is in a good space but on top of it all feel like my mind is getting very negative .
Hi Nancy
How long did the fatigue dizziness and let’s just say wonkyness last ?
I have got depression too but can get myself out of it if I can work out a lot . With the dizziness it’s been hard to run however .
Very well said went though a divorce in November and once that fight is over and everything is done .... you don’t know what to do with yourself . So that’s adding to my mental trauma ...
I’d love to go but I’m going 6000 miles away traveling alone and I asked to change my flight to a shorter stay and they wanted $7000! As it’s a business ticket .
I will be with family there but if I start to feel weird or ill then i can’t return early or can for 7k.
My sister in laws mom just got air ambulanced back to the UK from California
On a private jet ! With drs and nurses so I’m trying to be sensible .
Hi Lori and everyone
I am going through menopause
You get allsorts going on. You bleed on and off in Peri then it just disappears. I had it come back for one week, the doctor sent me for a scan to find out why. They said at the hospital, it’s like the last show. Nothing to worry about.
You can get headaches. Watch what you eat. Eat more healthy and do exercise. Walk as much as you can. That definitley lifts your mood. Find a new activity to do.
Stay positive be around positive people too. Treat yourself once in a while too. Make yourself feel better. Don’t dwell on your symptoms. Do what you want. Go on your holidays, and enjoy yourself. Don’t hold back.
It’s only the change and next phase of your life. Enjoy!!! X
It is a very difficult time. Sigh 😔. You are not alone. Forcing yourself “up” (while hard) can be beneficial. This weekend was crap for me..... I understand.