Caring for a loved one who is ill. Trying to hold it together,

Mental health
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Hello Everyone, I will try to keep this brief but here is my story: I am the youngest of 5 I come from very big family. I have a brother who is 5 years older than me he was and is an addict but he is sober for 4 years now. But due to his addiction he is not a healthy man and i am very close to him. He is my best friend. He is always in and out of hospital he has liver, kidney, heart problems he almost died 4 years ago they gave him 48 hours to live but he cam through!!!! IT WAS A MIRACLE!!!!! But it is still a struggle for him and for my family and me. I am so sad i am trying to keep it together but i am so worried. He has 2 beautiful boys who love him so much and he loves them so much too!!! I am praying everyday that it will be another miracle for him. Right now he is in hospital but he gets water retention because of his heart and kidneys . Basically every organ in his body has issues . I am trying very very hard to think positive and keep busy. So here I am venting away to everyone. So any advice will help. Thank you so much

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Hi
Lucy your doing well I lost someone who had similar conditions and I too struggled, but I made the point of telling that person that i loved them, for a man to say face to face to an other man i love you can be hard because of how we are brought up.
But i knew life is never guaranteed so i made a point of opening up and letting out my feelings, we both cried in each others arms, so now I am at peace with all the negative thoughts I had before.
The point I’m trying to make is you will find strength for yourself and those around you, when you next meet reflect on happy times it does work.
John

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Hi Lucy, the strongest people are given the toughest situations to deal with, if you can use all your strength to fight you both, your brother needs you to now more than ever! Someone will guide you to the correct path and give you the strength you need to fight for both of you. I wish you luck.x

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Thank you so much. So True but yet so hard to deal

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Thank you so much! and very true i am being strong for my mom and him. When they are sad and crying i am strong for them:) I am trying my hardest but i do cry when i am alone and my boyfriend is my savior

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Hi Lucy, you seem to have this situation under control. I wish you luck with it, when you are alone you can let all your feelings out but if your boyfriend is struggling too don’t be afraid to ask for help! You’re human not superman!