That is pretty reprehensile behavior. I would dump her now and go elsewhere. Her is the situation with Doctors: Most of them have no idea what Chiari is. You'll learn more about it here.
Chiari I Malformation: Arnold Chiari Malformation, also known as ACM or CM1, there is a malformation of the hindbrain. The lower part of the cerebellum is referred to as tonsils. The cerebellar tonsils herniate through the base of the skull, otherwise known as the foramen magnum and into the spinal column. In addition the posterior fossa of the skull, or the back, is too small for the brain, and does not allow enough space for the brain. This in turn causes the cerebellar tonsils to be pushed down through the base of the skull, and compressed. As little as 1 millimeter of protrusion by the tonsils has been proven to cause symptoms. Chiari at level zero has also been shown to cause symptoms. When there is compression of the brain stem, involuntary bodily functions such as the beating of your heart, and breathing, cranial nerve compression and a disruption of the flow of the cerebral spinal fluid can all be affected.
Treatment: The degree, location and duration of symptoms vary from patient to patient. The degree of herniation does NOT dictate if a patient is a candidate for surgery. In one case small herniation in addition to an associated disorder can cause severe symptoms and surgery may be indicated. In another case a larger herniation with relatively no symptoms may be present, and surgery may not be indicated. Each case is evaluated on a case by case basis. Surgery for Chiari is a brain surgery called decompression surgery. The basis of it is that it makes more room for the spinal fluid to flow.
Common Symptom List
Severe Headache and Neck Pain---Most Common
Dizziness
Vertigo
Disequilibrium
Visual disturbances
Ringing in the ears
Difficulty swallowing
Palpitations
Sleep apnea
Muscle weakness
Impaired fine motor skills
Pulsatile Tinnitus
Chronic fatigue
Painful tingling of the hands and feet
Scoliosis
Numbness in extremities
Memory loss
Back pain
Nausea
Gag reflex issues
Neck pain
"Red Flag" Symptoms
The "Red Flag Symptoms" are related to brainstem compression; they generally occur in Chiari cases which are compounded by basilar invagination, basilar impression, retroflexion of the odontoid, and similar disorders.
The "Red Flag" Symptoms Are:
Severe swallowing problems
Tachyarrhythmias
Severe nausea (the kind that makes you waste away below the 90 lbs mark)
Central sleep apnea
I had surgery June 2. I saw immediate relief of my symptoms: dizziness, vision, imbalance, memory, speech problems. I had to wrangle with doctors too. I INSISTED on having an MRI in the first place. My neurologist made me go through a ton of tests before we actually got to the one which said "CSF FLOW BLOCKED!" which led to surgery.
Hang in there and go to a different doctor.