Is anyone going through the empty nest? One has left for Uni and one will be leaving next year. I have very little family and I am devastated by them leaving.
Honey, my heart goes out to you. I know exactly how you feel. My eldest is 23 and has left. My youngest 19 is still at home. Its sad. When people say they grow up fast you pay it no heed-until now. I'm here for you if you need to talk or message me privately. Your kids still need you honey xxx
Thank you for your reply. I am fine if they need me but terrified that one day they won’t. My son has a girlfriend and is now talking about his future plans and i don’t seem to feature. Terrified of being clingy. What about you?
Hi jls1.
I relate to yr post, i have gone thru losing my daughter with no idea of if or when she will be back...
Children leaving for whatever reason can trigger different levels of sadness in each inividual. I already suffered on and off with severe depression, anxiety and a long term mental health condition when my daughter left at 13 due to teen probs, hormones, & meeting someone briefly..it triggered a breakdown. Problems prior i think where the straw that broke the camels back!!
I have a very ill mum now who has kept me busy and im having psychotherapy to work on myself as ive tried everything to rebuild our relationship.. she loves me she says but that we drifted, and i can only respect her like i have throughout her whole life. Im coping, becoming strong, soooo happy in my choices to be single always as my happiest was me being a mum. And i can still do that it just breaks my heart that its not her here with me.
Sorry for the lonnng post. I hoped it would help to let u know ppl react differently and we all cope and have triggers that make abandonment real or otherwise hard to live with. It will be better in time. Think on the positive new chapter to come if possible and trips together maybe grandchildren and quiet nites where you choose what to watch on tv ;0). Xx