Hi its Debi the long suffering! Just update my helpful fellow sufferers.still waiting heart monitor test result have basically 9 days from hell for me, just unimaginable anxiety from shaking ,sweats,chgest pain and well I've lost half a stone weight. My poor hubbi keeps telling me I'm OK no medical disease but terrible panic and all will be OK. I'm so low I couldn't get out of bed for 3 days in terror and scared of all. Prayers for all of us thru hard times. Thanks all x
Hi debi
I really sympathise with you. I have also had a really bad last five days with terrible palpitations that I thought were gone forever (Been 5 months since I had them, and back then I was fit to burst with anxiety, and had all tests done and monitor and all ok).
But they came back and having avoided doctor for some time, I just had to go because no amount of reassurance from husband was helping. And guess what, all is ok. It seems when it gets this bad the only reassurance that satisfies, is from a doctor. Wish I had married one!
Once you get your monitor results, you will settle but so far for me, it is always the same result. Fluctuating hormones! You'd be sick of it! Take care.
I'm at work feeling like crap myself off and on chest pain with flushing mid pain I think must be from the juicing I did this morning I feel like a big gas ball needs to come out I hate this!!!!
I have to agree with metamorphed! I'm in the same situation. It went away for a few months and everything seemed tolerable then "WHAM", it was like getting hit with a bat. Send over some of those doctors to marry, I'll divorce my husband and move one of them in. Take care Debi, thinking of you!!
Hi Dei
Siunds like your in peri stage, the anxiety is very bad first few years, it will get better, its more than likely your test will be normal, but it still needed checking just in case, try not to worry too much as im sure it will settle, it has in me, eventhough i know everyones body is different, it has to get better,your hormones are just fluctuating so much in the begining, but it will settle, try doing some deep breathing exercises, to some relaxing music when itnext comes on, or, try yoga, a very gentle relaxing exercise regime to do, to relax you must keep your mind clear for at least 15 mins, each day, and as soon as you start to feel anxious return to your breathing keeping your mind clear at the same time, deep breath in, slow breath out, try life style changes, if it gets too bad, there is always HRT, but know it does get better. good luck debi.
Hoping all is good with your results when they come back.
Mine were but it shocked me that hormones (or lack of them) could do all that to me.
another thing is, when we hit this time of our lives we are forced to think about what is going on inside us. To think that for all those years we never really bothered too much about heart beats and how muscles are connected or how our bodies did their thing, we just concentrated on the outside and left the anatomy stuff to the doctors when needed. No anxiety. Hitting perimenopause and suddenly it's like we're wearing our insides on the outside and looking at it everyday. Hope that makes sense.
It'll be ok!
Yes we didn't bother before that's right. It really does help having this forum though that you are among understanding others ,some women just don't have same awful probs or trully understand I think.
Hi debs
Thats right, one of my friends, went through the menopause aged 35, didnt know until her periods stopped, it explained a lot to her afterwards, as to why she was storming out of the house with anxiety attacks, instead of taking out on her poor husband, incase he thought she had gone nuts, she never even went to the drs, because it didnt enter her head that she was on the menopause aged 35, then my next friend, was only on it for 3 years, became post, and got next to no symptoms during and after, which is great for them.......... But what gets me is when, some women have said, and these two friends didnt, but i have had one that has said this to me, well its a natural thing for the body to go through, so, we should embrace it, this was after telling me, she had next to no symptoms during or after it, well we can all say that, then couldnt we, depends on how bad your fluctuations are, and what it does to the individuals body, what a boring world we would live in, if, everyone was the same, and if i was one of those women, i sure would sympathise with ones who are going through it, and be thankful, and, think myself lucky if i did go through it symptom free, oh i wish..............thats what gets my goat
Aww Debbie,
Im sorry you are going through this. I've had some bad bouts of anxiety this week also. My family has been helping me by talking me through it. My menses is due in a few days and I noticed that my anxiety is really high the last few days. I have not been to work in over a week and I resigned today. I want to work but I can't until I can manage some of this anxiety a little better. I've lost a lot of weight as well so I understand where you are coming from. I will be praying for you and the rest of the ladies. We will get through this.
That's how I know my mum didn't suffer much. She asked after a friend one day and I said she was suffering meno problems. Apparently she had told mum she had problems 5 years before.
My mum said "what? Still?
there must be something else wrong with her"
I wish I had been like that too, I was always so happy and healthy before.
And yet they say, you normally follow your mums menopause, doesnt always ring true does it, just shows you how wrong drs can be, they shouldnt gives us false hope like that should they....................haha............i tell you what this menopause has taught me, you might as well stay away from drs, because if it isnt in their faces with a blood test, they havent got a clue, so, once they have done the usual general bloods to make sure everythings working ok, after that, you might as well diagnose yourself!!
Hiya Deb..
First off...I feel so bad for you for having so much anxiety. I have been in peri for a few years and I have ended up in the emergency room thinking I was going to die. Luckily that never happened but I have not felt good for like 3 years. Its always something and although I have no thoughts of suicide, a part of me wishes I could be released from my physical self. Thats how frustrated I am. I take all the advise supplements and changed my eating habits but along with peri, I battle the EBV virus, which I've had for close to 30 years. I have bad indigestion issues which i'm getting check with an endoscopy next week. But this forum has made me feel less alone for sure and I'm hoping to go through menopause soon since I am 53 and dealing with wacky peroods. One suggestion though which really works and I have turned other people including my husband to drinking chamomille tea. It really does have a very calming effect.
Haha..I love stay away from drs. That is a true statement. If the bloods show normal, then you are fine. That's exactly what I've been getting.
You said it Elaine. I had so many tests done last Spring/ Summer cause I lost so much weight thinking I had cancer or something else bad. All came back normal. Just slight high bp. Not once did they say any of my symptoms including the weight loss were related to menopause. Not even my OB. Was so upset. I stopped going to all of them cause they weren't listening to me, nor able to help me. They only wanted to prescribe me with anti-depressants.
So I googled stuff and found this forum. This forum was my only saving grace. I did my own research and worked some things out on my own. Started exercising more, eating more so gained most of my weight back. Symptoms have lessened or become more controlled. Some things still bogg me down like annoying night sweats, some dizziness, headache, forgetfulness and joint pain
and trouble sleeping sometimes. Anxiety has eased up too. I think my vitamins b12 and D help with that. Tying to just get through it without taking it day by day.
Yes camomile is great for cskming and relaxing your mind and body.
Thats good didi, sounds like you have a handle on it, well done. when i went when i was 47, my female dr, said you cant be on it, your not 51 yet?? then the specilists who i was seeing for something else at the hospital, did two tests 3 months apart, positive for menopause, said i needed HRT, went to my dr, she did the test, said no its normal, do they not realise what they are risking, saying things like this to severly menopausal women, and my drs a woman!! in england though, due to cut backs etc, on the nhs, its all down to money, i think they use the cancer risk as a scare tactic sometimes, i mean the only thing they hand out willingly, is anti depressants.
Yeah. We're not crazy. Just need good, professional advice. Trust me I'm in the U.S., and our drs. are just as bad. It' makes it hard to trust any of them. Like we are guinea pigs. The medical industry is just awful.
I agree with nancy. Chamomile tea is great and it really helps me. I sip a cup at least an hour before bed and it has improved my sleep, no doubt about that. try it. copied this below from somewhere:
"!Brew a cup of fragrant chamomile tea to enjoy so many chamomile tea benefits! This herbal tea eases insomnia, boosts your immune system, banishes menstrual cramps, and much, much more! "
I agree with that. I'm in the US and it is not any better. It's hard to find a good GP. My doc doesn't hear anything I say after I tell him I'm 38 and still have a menses. My blood work always seems to come back fine except for me being anemic and I take supplements for that. In his eyes hands down I am too young. I have done my own research and I realized that with some good vits, and a few lifestyle changes I will try to manage this thing on my own. Now it's just about seeing what works for me.