I haven't used steroid since February and am pretty stable now. I've just had a specialist appointment and he agreed that I should only use it if things go backwards. To give context I was diagnosed about 6 years ago, in my late 40s, just after going through menopause. Probably had it a lot longer, like many on this site. I was in quite a bad state at the time, all white, some fusing, terrible itch. I used Clob twice a day for three weeks, once a day for three weeks, then two or three times a week for maintenance, with back to once a day if I had a flare. All fine as long as I wasn't stressed. I had a couple of major stress events and things deteriorated, then stabilised each time, but always at the new (worse) state. It never went backwards.
Last year, following a discussion on here I started using bicarbonate of soda rinses and baths, things felt better at once, but the bicarb irritated my uretha. Then I tried cider vineagar which instantly made the skin more comfortable and stopped the itch in its tracks. I kept using it but things stayed stable. I was still using clob twice a week.
Then I finally gathered my courage to try the Borax that people were talking about. You can find the discussion on this site titled 'an experiment with borax'. https://patient.info/forums/discuss/an-experiment-with-borax-5020 The good results were really quick and I am even unfusing. It's very gradual, but there were bits I didn't even realise were fused until they suddenly came loose. It's taken months, but it's happening. I was worried that it might all look better and bubble away underneath, but as I said above I've just had a vulval-derm appointment (I didn't tell him) and he said that he'd be happy to discharge me, it was all looking so good. I said no, (I want to stay in the loop, especially if I'm going 'off piste' with treatment.) I'm in the UK
Really important to read the discussion properly, make sure it's the right sort of Borax, there are other types which could be nasty, the right strength and that you don't overdo it. I still have my clob, and am ready to apply it if necessary. This isn't a rejection of conventional medicine, just an attempt to enhance the treatment options available. There's often gems of truth in old wives tales.
I can't stress enough that when you've read these forums for a while, it becomes obvious that everyone is different and responds to different things. We are all happy to offer advice from our own experience, but at the end of the day each of us has to work out what works for them through trial and error. So I'm offereing my tuppence worth.
Good luck. (that was a longer answer than I meant to write. Oops)