I was seeing this guy. super hot, seemingly perfect. About 2 days after we had unprotected sex (I literally hate myself for that) I woke up in horrible pain, burning, and a couple days after had tons of bumps around my buttocks and anus. these bumps turned to blisters, and ruptured. I went on Valtrex and they began to clear up. I never have experienced anything like this before. I got a blood test done a few days after the outbreak and it was negative but I know antibodies take time to form. honestly I just wanted to be able to prove I didn’t give it to him when I confronted him. over the last few weeks he has gotten weirdly distant and I haven’t told him. I’m super scared to tell him. I’m afraid he might try and turn it back on me and try to ruin my reputation. maybe that’s paranoid. but I don’t know. I have not gotten a follow up test yet, but it was like, absolutely textbook. I really like this guy, and he stood me up on Sunday so I’m sad.
hey hun. so the likelihood is he gave it to you. everyone you say suggests that. the fact you got the sores few days after sex and you got what appears to be an initial outbreak. had yous been continuing to see each other I could see the sense in wanting to talk to him about it but given he has stood you up I wouldnt bother. he is most likely the infector, may or may not know he has it, but either way you don’t appear to have been the one to transmit. morally you wouldn’t be doing anything wrong. it will be awful to think he has passed this on then just left but unfortunately ever person diagnoses has to get it from someone else and you don’t get to pick who that person is. if he comes back into your life life has a valid reason for standing you up then by all means you could have the discussion. if he is mature enough he will see it all for what is 
I guess I’m afraid he’s gonna sleep w someone else, give it to them, get called out and blame it on me.