Hi everyone,
My boyfriend and I have just recently split up (not my choice) he suffers from depression which was diagnosed at the end of 2017. His moods changed, he became insecure and accused me of messaging other people. I originally thought he was going crazy and it was all a ‘joke’, until it kept reoccurring. I advised him to get help, which he did. He took anti depressants for around 4 months then stopped. He believed he was fine. Then steadily as the months went on, he got worse. Angry, distant, resentful. He asked for time to himself, which I respected and after the 5 days he was like a new person, the person I fell in love with. This however lasted only that day. It was then back to the distant unloving person I didn’t recognise. It has been an emotional rollercoaster for me, I was living with a person I didn’t know, one day he wanted me around, the next it was if he was repulsed and frustrated with my existence. After weeks of arguing back and forward I was exhausted, I just got the feeling he didn’t want to be with me. We mutually called it a day but I’m absolutely devastated. He has said ‘I’m being selfish, I need to concentrate on me and where I’m going’. I have asked for no contact as it’s all too hard for me. I just don’t know if it’s the right thing to do. I did suggest that we work on the relationship but he was more focused on ‘working on himself’. When we had the final discussion, I asked how he isn’t showing any form of emotion and he replied ‘I don’t feel anything’. I’m more worried about him than anything else right now. I’m the only person that knows he suffers from depression. He has his own business, which keeps him busy through the day and early evenings but I don’t want him to feel alone.
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you all.