after having my anterior repair in february and having the dreaded bluge back in june it was confirmed yesterday that my repair has failed and it is not the rectoele that was not repaired that had got bigger like my doctor thought,,, my wee girl was 8 months old when i had my repair and i had 8 weeks of not being able to look after her properly, being careful not to do lifting etc,,,all for nothing im gutted , the lady i saw yesterday has advised me to try and wait till my daughter is a bit older before going for another repair (she is 18 mths) have to go back again in 3/4 months ,just cant believe i went through all that to still have a the same prolapse return
Hello helen. I'm truly sorry to read this, I can only imagine how devastated you must be. I suppose whatever we say isn't going to make you feel much better but thinking of you and sending hugs. Xx
So sorry to hear this. I'm in the same situation as you but I am much older & my children have grown up. My AR has failed & I also need a rectoenterocele repair but at the moment I am putting off the op as I just don't feel ready & my GP also says to wait.
I was so upset initially but now I have told myself that physically and mentally I would be better to wait I feel better about it. It's just getting your head around the idea, you can't change what has happened but once your body has fully recovered and your daughter is a little older things will be easier for you. Try and keep positive. X
Can I ask how surgery there is done diffrently from u.s.
dianelou what makes you think the surgery is done differently?
Cause I'm five mos post op and they fid it all inside no outside csnt see nothing and said was successful n can run a marathon.I mean the first few months were horrible Worst surgery I've ever had done And I have come a long way since then But I feel fabulous now I'm still afraid to lift heavy things I will probably never lift heavy things again I'm sixty years old But other than that I have no leakage No pain Still trying for the stomach to go down doing better Because after surgery I look 9 months pregnant But all is good So good luck to you Two surgeries must be different here Then where you are
Back in the Summer Someone mentioned to me About stitches on the outside And that the surgery Are done differently So I was just wondering what the difference was And do they do the surgery Like mine was done
I think the surgery is performed basically the same way by all urogynaecologists after all there's really not many different ways you can repair a prolapse. I was the same as you, in dreadful pain after the operation but now I'm absolutely fine and it's been more than 6 years. Some ladies are just very unlucky and their surgery fails for a number of reasons.
I'm totally gutted , just can't get my head around it , I was so careful with my baby not lifting her etc till I was told it was safe to do so , I've been in tears all day I'm so scared that if I have another surgery and that also fails what if they are never able to fix my prolspse I can't live the rest of my life like this 😥 X
helen you mustn't think like that because they will be able to fix your prolapse successfully. Some do fail the first time but when you have the operation again they will use different sutures probably which will be stronger. I have never known anyone have to live the rest of their life with a prolapse when they don't want to. 😘
I,m so sorry to hear what has happened for you. Try and stay positive which is very hard. It is very easy to get caught up in being down about it and it can become consuming.
Life can throw curve balls at us sometimes so try and focus on the joys like one little girl. In Sept I had my ops then had a heart attack that night. Im 55 and my husband and I are raising our granddaughter since she was a baby and is now 6. Try to get your head around you are ok and this is just one of lifes curve balls but you I assume are otherwise happy and healthy. Love to you xxx
Thanks ladies , this has got to be the worst few months I think I have ever had , just last month my eldest son and his fiancée lost their wee girl at 21 weeks pregnant , this is the 3rd time this has happened to them at this stage of pregnancy , then 2 weeks later another son n his fiancée went for their 12 week scan to be told their baby stopped growing at 6 weeks , and now this , I think I might need go speak to someone tbh as I'm very depressed right now x
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Go and talk to your GP Helen. Let us know how you get on. Best wishes. Xx
Hi lovely matron,mine has failed too😢😢😢 I'm on the list for another one. You know how good I was recovering but I knew it felt wrong 2weeks after. been very down and upset since may.you say the second time is better,I so hope so as I can't live with this either😢😢
Hi matron,I'm in the same boat😢😢😢😢
Oh wow no wonder you are feeling low, thats so hard and sad to hear my thoughts go out to you and your family. The best thing you are doing is writing about it and sharing. It helps to write stuff down Helen I had to when things went horribly wrong. But best of all Matron has reassured you so you wont need to worry that you are stuck with these horrible annoying prolapses forever xxx
Oh no welshgirl? What's happened?
Me too! Had posterior repair in Feb, was so careful for full 12 weeks and after, but now the front wall has gone and showing slight bulge on back wall. Also the feeling of something being before my back passage has got worse which makes it sore to sit. But trying to stay positive seeing a very good physio to try and avoid more surgery although the last view visits she seems to concentrating on my bladder not emptying properly which doesn't give me any grief. The pain around the back passage she thinks are my stitches, have to try and massage with oil. So disheartening especially when you've been so careful.
Oh Helen, I am so sorry. It is a personal agony for you, but please use it to get strong. There will be brighter days ahead, get as much info about managing your prolpase as you can, read up all you can.
If you have more surgery make sure you get a referral to a Physiotherapist, you need to change some things about how your body works (posture, weight, pelvic floor exercises etc) or you risk it happening again. Strengthen up, improve your posture, no constipation (buy a toilet stool) all this will help, and more importantly it will help you feel more positive too.
Here to help and thinking of you.
S