How do I get over this. Its so depressing being depressed. Its a sort of self defeating illness. Don`t ask me I feel so lonely even though I have a wonderful wife. Just lately we seem to be losing friends . They keep on dying and that in itself is depressing. Life just does`nt seem worth living. I don`t believe in the "Hereafter" i think thats just a sick joke
I am the person who is depressed so how can I answer it
Dave your not alone wondering what is it all for. I have no one. Feel lucky you have your wife. I am 55 and have started loosing friends. It’s hard to believe that they are gone. I lost both of my parent’s 6 months ago 8 days apart. I have to believe there is something after our time on earth is done or I would go stark raving mad. I go to self help groups and take medication. Do You?
Well you have a wonderful wife to live for, it must be difficult for her living with a depressed husband,
Medication is the first way that most people go and if you get on the right one your way of thinking will change radically. Till then like the rest of us you have to just ‘hang in there’.
Dave…I just read your post and have sooo much to say…but unfortunately I have a doctor’s appointment shortly and need to finish getting ready.
I’ll get back to you later and hope I can be of some help.
till then, take care and be Strong!
The best advice I can give you is write down everything that makes you depressed or sad on paper even buy a notebook specifically for it. Put everything you are feeling on that paper it has helped me soo much
Hi Dave - sorry to read you are suffering. There is no need to carry this alone. Make an appointment with the doc. Discuss what you are feeling. Medications may be prescribed to help ease your mood and lighten the burden. the meds are not a long term fix - they are tool used usually in conjunction with therapy - psychiatrist or psychologist or counsellor or therapist - to address any underlying issues connected with your depression.
Depression is not something you can think your way out of, you need to act to address it. Not only will you feel better about things but you will learn about yourself, learn to recognise any triggers that lead to depression, and learn coping mechanisms to deal with it.
It IS NOT WEAK to seek help. It requires strength to do so, it is the responsible and mature thing to do. You wouldn’t hobble around on a broken leg would you? No. You see the doc. You are wounded and need a safe place to share, to be heard and to receive appropriate treatment. Even the act of organising the appointment(s) will help lift you - because you are acting to deal with the problem. We are always here to talk to.
Well I agree that you very blessed to have wonderful partner which is more than many including myself have. I think some of the problems are caused by aging as I am in my 60’s and seem to be losing friends, some younger than me.
A lot of it is a case of adapting to things that are past and recognising that life is different as you get older. Not necessarily better or worse just different. I agree that you may be suffering from depression though so I recommend a visit to your doctor. x
Hi Dave, i can partly understand the loneliness because i felt desperately lonely last year. Someone once told me you can be in a roomful of people and be lonely still. Get out and about as often as you physically can, speak to anyone in shops, in s library in the park or wherever you walk. The more you talk hopefully the less lonely you’ll become.i wish you luck, tough place to be.
Lynda .
Sad that you didn’t get back.
Hope the Doctor gave you Good news whatever it was I do hope it was good.
Was I disappointed Yes of course I was.
Everyone hopes for some help or good news whatever.
Loneliness is a very strange thing. You can be lonely in a group.
People don’t not realise this,
But we just have to keep on keeping on I suppose.
Get back when you can OK
Regards
Dave
Thanks FOR GETTING BACK.
I dont want to go down the medication route.
I d#suffered this some years ago and the “Doc” put me on some pills.
Cant remember the name Think it may have been something like senemex ??Don t know can’t remember.
But they were terrible made me like a Zombie. My wife couldn’t` nt believe it was me.
Then we saw something in the newspaper about them and there was something on televisions about them
How they had led some people into committing suicide.
Came off of them straight away. Cold Turkey. It was hard yes but my wife noticed the difference immediately.
It also cost me a of of money. I made so many bad decisions due we believe to the medication.
Must have cost me a minimum of £ 30 grand. And honestly that would have been the minimum probably was a lot more.
I had always been good at making decisions and picking the right way to get things done properly
But this medication made me , as I said like a Zombie.
So you can see I hope why I don t want to go down that route again
But I do appreciate the fact that you bothered to get back to me.
Warmest regards
Dave
Dave…I’m sooo sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner. please trust that I didn’t forget you…I’m not like that.
it’s just that my appointments turned out to be more unpleasant than I’d expected.
I’m kinda taking a breath right now.
I absolutely will contact you again when some of this stress subsides.
just know one thing, things change on a daily basis (sometimes good, sometimes not so much)…but there’s Always hope.
Up till 3yrs ago I (and my adult daughter) were homeless, living out of our car for almost 1yr…I wanted to give up on a daily basis, but kept pushing through.
my point is, none of us ever knows what tomorrow will bring…please hang in there.
I’ll talk to you soon, but always know it’s absolutely fine to contact me!..Lynda
Thank you Lynda.
Sorry it was not good news.
Don`t want to pry so I wont ask what?
Sounds like you and your family have been through a tough time.
Feel very sorry for you all.
When you aweight it all up Life can be a bit of a Bugger at times.
But we all have to keep plodding along. I wrote on here a reply about the drugs they give you and my experience of this would make me run a mile if they put me on t hat muck again.
we must talk again. You sound like an extremely interesting lady and are obviously a fighter.
Warmest regards
Dave
This is me, DaveC16
Where have all the replies to this disappeared to??
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Get these back need the advice from fellow sufferers
Limited response. I its supposed to help then its really not working
On reading your post and your replies to others, you need to focus on the good things in your life, we all have problems, we are all lonely at times in our lives and we all go through ■■■■, trust me I have been through more than most. That makes me stronger and want to get on with life whatever life that is. You need to get help for your wife’s sake and you don’t need medication to do that you just need to want to help yourself. Sorry if I come across harsh and as your reply to one of my posts which was meant to help those struggling is being moderated can only think it may have been unpleasant. I do hope not. I am not depressed quite the opposite but could quite easily become so I just try to see the positive and good in life and trust me I want to be around to get old and grumpy and annoy everyone but its hard I know
Dave, I understand were your coming from. I myself have been dealing with Depression since I was 7 an now at age 48 I’m worse. Seems like every year it gets worse. You have to seek a Psych that can put you on a Med that will work for you. Ask for the Mouth Swab. That will detect what you can take and can’t. Try to do what you use to like, whether it’s Sports, Fishing etc. Keep Positive people around you, not negative. Do what Dave likes to do. Do not let the Depression take you over instead you take it over. Yes its a battle, but a battle that can be Won. Never forget that!!!
I’ve been battling it plus chronic anxiety (not sure which is worse) for 5 years and I thought that was a long time, no positive people I live on my own, also got osteo arthritis the pain and the depression has beaten me I just long to go to bed, but I dont. Never heard of the Mouth Swab that sounds interesting.
Val
dear Dave…depression is a b***h!! It comes and goes all the time. I’m not just blowin’ smoke…I know what I’m talking about!
first of all, you need to talk to a REALLY good therapist. I highly suspect you need medication as well. I’m on Prozac and have been for months. it seems to make a difference for me, but everyone’s different.
the only bad part is you usually have to take them for a good month before you can tell if they’re gonna work. if not, you have to start all over with another kind!! it’s a process and a real pain in the butt!
but if you’re able to find one that works…it’s a new lease on life!
I’m facing all kinds of health problems right now and anxious as Hell…but I try REALLY hard to appreciate each good day. I’m not married or involved with a partner, but I’ve got 2 beautiful daughters and 2 wonderful grandson’s, and some really good friends…
Plus a dog who is my best friend!
I know it’s easier said than done, but try to find at Least one thing that’s Fantastic everyday.
I promise, it will get easier the more you are great full for every second we’re given!
And just in case you’re wondering, I’m Not religious (tho I am kinda spiritual) and I’m not a “Pollyanna”. I’ve got plenty of bad days myself!
Good luck.
sorry…I got you confused with someone else. Valerie, this is for you!