I need to vent!So I have not actually been diagnosed or tested but since having sex with my boyfriend of 6 months last week I developed a random sore, which I believed was from shaving, but more have developed on my labia majora, perineum and anus (10 in total now).
I have no pain, just stings a little when I touch them and stinging when I pee. I have no fever, I think I may get chills - but I’m not sure if I’m just cold, and my left bum cheek is mildly aching. So I assume it’s HSV2 and I’m trying to cope with it.
We’ve been having unprotected sex for 5 months, maybe he cheated - not sure, but it’s done. I’ve cried, I’ve thought about dying, I’ve regretted sleeping with him and my previous partner (in case it’s him). I keep wondering how I will date in future. I’m 25 and have always been excited to one day get married and have babies, which ofc is possible but I’m worried I’ll need to settle for anyone or men I want will just lose interest once I disclose it. I haven’t told my boyfriend that it’s worse, he was very worried when I initially told him and is soon to be tested but he has no symptoms. But yeah I could live with it if I felt like me and him had a future together but i don’t think we do. So how do you cope in future with dating?
I don’t feel worthless just regretful and silly, when we first had sex I contracted chlamydia he didn’t know he had it so I forgave him and we moved on but then we broke up for a month. It feels very unfair too that people sleep around, work in the sex industry, cheat often and don’t have herpes. Whereas some contract in after assault, losing virginity and from monogamous relationships. I really hope I’m strong enough to cope with this.
get a pcr swab done and wait for test results to see also could be another sti or completely unrelated cause …
hsv sores usually are very painful it could be syphilis
I went today to get tested, she said it looks like herpes but it’s strange that now it’s gotten so bad in 8 days. It’s spread very quickly. All across my perineum, small sores around my anal area, and down my labia majora. The guy I was seeing also got tested today for bloods, his results will likely arrive before mine, but I don’t trust the accuracy of his test