Sorry to come on here and have a rant but had my first counselling assessment today and it has mqde me so angry! The woman just gave me a lecture about self-harming, how does she think this is helpful to me.
It got a reaction. Perhaps thats what she was after?
Hi Itssofluffy
It is my experience of counsellors that they get you to find the answers to your own questions.
Ask to see another next time.
Hi,
Sorry to hear your experience today,I don't think these people know what depression and anxiety is,we could be more understanding having been there.As said before can you not ask for somebody else we don't all get on with one another .Good Luck let us know how you get on.
Hi, i have calmed down about it now, the lady herself was very nice and she diid listen and try to talk to me and discuss things with me. I just got upset by all the talk of self harming and she did say some things that seemed silly to me.
I have been feeling generally low again for a while. Although i don't feel i will do anything right now i feel as though i have accepted that some day i will end my own life.
We only get one chance at life, don't you want to try to find the best route for you. I know it is difficult, well, bloody hard really , but don't let your depression win, tell it to get the hell out!!!
I don't want to let it win and i don't want to end my life, not really. And i hate that i think this way and feel selfish because there are so many people, and children with serious life illnesses and they live their lives the best they can, but i just feel that i don't think i can be someone who lives with depression, i don't think i will be able to cope with it. I don't want to end my life but i don't want to live my life in the shadow of the person i used to be.
Hiya Itssofluffy
Sorry your 1st appointment didn't go well. Remember that this person knows nothing about you. They have to find out about your state of mind.
I had an NHS counsellor for 6 appointments and she was convinced that i had a self destruct mechinism, which wasn't true. I found after all the sessions that she had not helped one bit and she even said to be 'i haven't been of much use have i?' which astounded me from a so called professional.
I looked through the phone directory and found an excellent counsellor privately who charges £35 ph and worth every penny. I'm seeing her again on Weds. However, when my counsellor was away on holiday she recommended i saw someone she knew who also asked some very odd (in my opinion) questions.
You have to feel comfortable with the person you are seeing. Give it one more try - tell him/her how you felt after your appt.
Best wishes
Hi MP, when i think about she was ok, it was just a stressful situation, i was highly anxious. I have beenbhaving increased anxiety and more low feelings for a few days. I have tried to ignore them but i know that they are creeping back. I'm having difficulty falling asleep again and losing my appetite. Just eaten a few biscuits today.
Well done for going for your 1st appointment. It will be stressful as its a new situation for you but glad you can reflect on it later.
Take each day as it comes and i hope future counselling sessions will benefit your positive thoughts. Don't worry about the loss of appetite, it was propably the anxiousness that brought that on.
Best wishes.
I'm having a hard time with it the moment, i feel as though "trying" is taking it's toll on me. I've made an appointment with the doctor for this afternoon, not sure what they can do but i feel like I need to let it out how I have been feeling.