Hi Hollaka!
I agree that some consultants can can be very dismissive.
I have moved quite a few times and have been to several different hospitals as a result.
One of the most memorable was Northampton General where the guy I used to see was a real bombastic a**hole.
During a really bad flare I started to drop weight (which is not typical for me as I never usually lose my appetite no matter how painful it is to eat!). He actually accused me of using my Crohn's as a weight loss aid!
Another time I told him I wanted to come off of the immune suppressant medication I was taking as I needed some shots for my upcoming holiday to Goa.
His response was 'Tut!, I wish people like you didn't go on holidays to places like that'!
At another hospital I was palmed off onto the IBD nurse.
I have always been told that if I feel really bad between appointments to phone and they will try to fit me in. She was no exception.
However the one time in 30 years that I did feel bad enough to call she basically told me that I had nothing to worry about and that I was 'probably constipated'.
This made me see red and after an argument on the phone she reluctantly booked me an X-ray and some tests.
The results showed very high levels of inflammation. I then received a call from her saying that she 'supposed I needed steroids then'.
At my next appointment with her I told her exactly what I thought of her care and that I wasn't prepared to see her again and she collapsed in a heap of tears!
They are just a few examples of my experiences.
I used to feel intimidated by these people but now, if I don't agree with something that a consultant says, I argue the toss.
I have never come across a member of staff who actually has first hand experience of the disease and firmly believe that I know my body better than they do.
Maybe other folk don't feel comfortable disagreeing with medical staff but when you know that there's something wrong, despite what test results say, I feel that you have no option than to be persistent.
Maybe I'm just getting cantankerous in my old age..? 😊