I was diagnosed today and obviously am absolutely devastated. From reading all of these posts it seems like so many of you are in long term relationships with a supportive partner which is amazing. I have had terrible luck dating and the last guy I slept with I believe gave me the virus. Is anyone else feeling worried that they will now be single forever?? I’m only 26 and I feel like my whole world has just imploded. How the hell do you find someone in this day and age who is going to be a good enough person to understand this?
I have the same worries, I’m new to all this too and I’m 23. Dealing with outbreaks is personal and I can just about get to terms with that. But the fact that this virus affects a partner makes it all the more complicated. But don’t be disheartened, if the guy/girl really wants to be with you they will accept it. Also there’s so many precautions you can take to avoid transmission xxxx
Hi, I’m very sorry to hear of your diagnosis. As a girl, you’ll be easily accepted by guys. I was nice enough to accept a girl who was diagnosed, a few months later she dumped me and move on & left me at risk. If you find it difficult, please understand that it’s hard for some people to digest and come to terms with.
It is important to disclose your status to your next partner and no need to if you don’t plan on getting serious.
On the bright side , there are positive negative couples who have been together for years.
I don’t know my status as yet but I’m hoping I’m negative .
Hi , you are hitting my worries because i am a newly diagnosed male case.
Please tell me if you had sex after being diagnosed. What precautions did you take? Did they work and protected your partner?? Do you follow a specific successful medical or natural regemin between outbreaks to protect your partner and to reduce recurrence??
Thank you
Thank you for your kind reply. It just all feels so awful right now. I’m so worried about everything. Do you find taking vitamins and stuff helps with your outbreaks? And did you cut out alcohol completely. I feel like I’ve gone from a normal twenty something year old who was out partying last night to someone who is going to have to change their whole lifestyle. Xxxx
Thank you for your reply. You should be really proud of yourself for being loyal and caring to your ex through that and it’s great to hear there are people like you out there because right now I just feel like I never want to try and date again because it’s all just so awful and awkward. I really really hope you get a negative result so that you don’t have to feel like this. Xx
I was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago and only had sex for the first time yesterday. I’m still totally new so will have to wait and see if it triggers an outbreak (praying it doesn’t!!) I started taking daily meds yesterday which helps lower transmission and we used a condom. Since being diagnosed I have started taking of vitamin supplements (zinc, vit d, echinacea, lysine, probiotics) and generally tried to improve my awful diet!! Also, 2liters of water a day and mediation and yoga. Will just have to wait and see what my triggers are if any it was hard at first but when you start thinking “herpes is no big deal” and people forget they even have it after some time, it will seriously help you xxxx
I was only diagnosed 3 weeks ago so am a total newbie, I’ve started taking supplements and pray they do something no harm if they don’t, they’re all natural anyway! I’m having the same thoughts as you to be honest, I love going out and living the student life but it doesn’t mean that has to change. I’ve had alcohol since being diagnosed but whilst on the meds so can’t tell if it’s a trigger if I wasn’t on anything . From what I’ve read, don’t let it get in the way of your life but if you have to make slight changes to your diet and take a pill everyday so what,eh? Keep us posted on how you’re dealing and private message if you want, speaking about it with other people going through the same thing can be a huge stress release!! Xxxx
Thank you. I’ve got an amazon order on the way with vitamins galore and am also gonna try and massively sort out the diet... I work with children so am constantly catching their colds/bugs etc so I’m worried that’s going to be a trigger for me. Will just have to wait and see I guess. It definitely does help so I will keep in touch. You seem very positive so I hope to feel a bit like that too soon. Xxxx
I like your way of dealing with it. You start to inspire me.
Please let me know about you after follow up after sex. And also about if your partner is still feeling good after sex with you. Dont forget !
I hope you will be fine.
I am afraid to approach sex and i am same as you got infected 3 weeks ago.
Thank you
Sorry to hear you’re a newly diagnosed case. My ex has both viruses and we did have sex etc so I’m aware of the risks I face. I’m still post exposure and will let you know how to effective it was to reduce the chances of transmission.
It’s also difficult to convince your partner to use medication especially when the doctor doesn’t put them on it. When my ex met her doctor, he told her no need for medications unless she has an outbreak. So then I couldn’t maker her take it because he doctor’s word superceded .Lol. Never did I though she was going to dump me sooner than later so now you do as I say or I walk away without regrets...Unfortunately.
To be fair, please take suppressive medication if your partner wants you to.
I have slow been avoiding dating lately. It’s sad. It was already difficult before but now it’s with a reason. I won’t say it’s hard to find a “good” person to accept you because I feel like good people get the short end of the stick sometimes..
But trust me, there are guys who Wont judge you. Just be prepared to be committed and work hard in a new relationship. Don’t put someone at risk then decide they’re not for you without good enough reasoning.
Continue to have a positive mindset and think of the as just a phase. Your life goes on, you’re worthy and this is a minor setback. I’ll pray for you!
Please share.
Hi, my ex is diagnosed and shes never had any outbreaks even after us having sex. We’ve been on vacation and partied,drank a lot and been in the sun 3 days straight for hours and she hasn’t gotten any OBs. Those are just some factors know to trigger them but she was fine.
She’s lucky one so I’m glad for you both everyone is different and time will only tell what someone’s trigger is xxx
Yes I’ll definitely keep you posted, I made sure to use lots of lube and go slow, fingers crossed it won’t trigger an ob. I don’t know how he felt about sex after I guess good??
Stay positive, this isn’t a death sentence xxxxx
That’s good !! If you build up your immune system as strong as possible, it’ll kick any colds in the ass! Remember you have to be strong mentally as well as physically, as stress is number one trigger!! Xxxxxx
Sorry to ask about details.
You did not use condom, specific suppressive therapy?!!!
Is your bf still negative for HSV?
Thank you for supporting me
Thank you... I hope you find what you’re looking for too. Let’s pray that you come back negative. Xxx
Yes we did use condom and I was on suppressive
Not my bf but very understanding individual