day 29 for daughter already!!

Treatment and medication
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we seem to have got here so quickly, or i have decided to fast forward my brain.

daughter is doing well, there is definatly a pattern with the tummy pains, and they seem to appear on a friday, so we can say its anxiety and not her previous virus.

saturdays are also hit and miss mood wise, and the weekend seems to be a bit hit and miss for her, but her routine changes must upset her system, she spends the weekend at her boyfriends, comes home sunday lunchtime, and seems fine after that.

sleeping- urg, she isnt.....day 29 and she has had 1 proper night sleep. she also gets hot sweats when sleeping, and wakes up puddled!! last night we tried a kalms night time, so fingers crossed.

yesterday was put xmas tree up day, she loved it, she couldnt have wine, so i got some grape schloer instead,

i see huge improvements in her mood, generally days are quite even, she still gets the shakes, but not her whole body, maybe down 1 arm, or leg.

sometimes on the odd occasion her mood will suddenly dip, happy one minute, then plunged right down in the blink of an eye, im guessing this must also be a side effect

achey joints are also a pain, as are the headaches, BUT, how far has she come.

29 days ago, she sat curled in a chair, tears just running down her face, didnt want to wash, work, walk, talk, my heart broke.

she may have side effects from these flu pills, but i much prefer that to seeing my beautiful 19 yr old in the pits of depression.

she is smiling what more could a mum want for christmas.

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:-) 

Wonderful news. Im glad you can see the improvement,  with side effects it can be difficult to recognise how far you've come yourself .

Might be worth trying sleep aid (I uses snsbrys own), helped me sleep but settled on 1 not 2 cos wiped me out too much. Double check with pharmacy but worked for me.

And youre right,  there's nothing more precious than seeing your child happy xx

Take care, hope more and more smiles keep coming

X

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Hi Karen

Lovely reading of your daughters progress.  I know exactly what you mean re still has side effects, but better than seeing her curled up in a ball crying.  That was my son too 4 months ago .... hiding under the duvet, sobbing, and he even crawled into bed with me one morning and broke down begging not to have to go to work.  Yes isn't it great seeing them looking stronger :-)

Is her weekend anxiety about spending time at her boyfriends?  Could he not come to yours instead ...... maybe she'd be more comfy in home surrounding instead.  Just a thought.

Yes moods will dip every so often - it's just part of recovery.  They should disappear eventually.

Christmas is definitely looking more rosy now for both our families :-)

K xx

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thankyou. hope today is a good day for you. xx

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hi,

he does come to ours, but since very early on they have spent the weekend at his, when this depression struck she became convinced she didnt want to see him anymore, literally one day she loved the bones of him, next day she was thinking diffrent, so she insists she still keeps everything as "normal" as before, its her way of coping i guess, and not giving in to the safety of home. she literally had thourght 24/7 about him going round and round in her head, it was quite disturbing.

yesterday she was singing!!! i heard it just for a couple of minutes, she used to sing a round the house non stop, and the kalms night time seem to help, it says take 4, but she started off with just 1, and although she still woke" hundreds" of times, ( her words) she managed to pop back off.

hope today is good for you. xx

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I expect she's right with wanting to keep things as 'normal' as before and to go to his.  I know years ago when I was ill, I'd feel relieved yet anxious when the weekend came round - I looked forward to going out etc but anxious because I wasn't better, and the I'd feel anxious when Monday came round and went back to work.  Once back at work I'd feel ok.  Happened every weekend.

I know when depression does strike thoughts will stick 24/7 in your head ..... it's very tiring.  I've read that when your depressed thoughts do this because the mind is tired, thoughts stick making it more tired, and a vicious circle happens.

Depression is a very strange illness - it seems to take over your emotions and thoughts.  I would rather break my leg than have to be back in that depressed place again.

Singing!!  That must have music to your ears no doubt :-)  Definitely a sure sign she's getting back to herself again.  So glad for you.  I remember the first time I heard my son laugh after the months of his depression - it was a great hearing it again :-)

Glad the Kalms are helping, and I'm sure her sleep pattern will return some day.

K xx